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cheezus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 04:06 PM
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Poll question: Heterosexual DUers: How many gay people do you know?
For the purpose of this poll, I'll define "know" as acquentince or better (family counts). Someone you'd feel perfectly confortable calling up and hanging out with (as opposed a friend of a friend, or some dude at work that you hardly ever talk to)

I'm guessing that homosexual DUers will have more gay friends than the heteros, so I gave you guys choice #1
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ropi Donating Member (948 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 04:08 PM
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1. Interesting questions for a poll...
Edited on Mon May-17-04 04:10 PM by ropipor
but, i bet there are a lot of people out there who heterosexuals know who are gay and they aren't saying it
<smile>

rp

*edited because the first post didn't make sense!*
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cheezus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 04:19 PM
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6. good point. but i guess I meant "out" gays
otherwise we's just guessing.

heh. plus I'd have to add a couple if I was guessing ;)
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trof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 04:08 PM
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2. No peers.
Edited on Mon May-17-04 04:10 PM by trof
1 daughter and 2 sons of friends.
edit for clarity: a daughter of friends and sons of 2 other friends.
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Commie Pinko Dirtbag Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 04:09 PM
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3. Three
Though I'm counting on meeting many DUers in the future (economics allowing).
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Birthmark Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 04:09 PM
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4. I honestly don't know.
It's not the kind of thing that I ask or care about. I know of at least a few that have said they are gay. But I have no idea how many and won't even bother to try counting. What's the point? They seem just like "regular" people to me.
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Lisa0825 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 04:33 PM
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It doesn't matter to me either, actually, I see it as a plus to know about
it, just because it means that my friend is close enough to me to want to talk about relationships and things. The first time each friend casually mentioned his/her date or bf/gf, or whatever was kind of a step into a closer friendship for me. Now, as far as business/professional relationships, I don't need to know, and it doesn't matter one bit.
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Birthmark Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 04:35 PM
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14. Yup. I understand.
I'm not very good at that sort of thing, though. I'm massively inept at the whole feelings thing. lol
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BlueStateGirl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 04:13 PM
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5. Four good friends. Too many co-workers, and casual accquaintances
to count.
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elfwitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 04:21 PM
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7. Not as many as I used to...
Up until I moved to Dallas, I had at least one very good gay friend since at least my Freshman year in high school.

Haven't really made any gay friends in Dallas.
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Beaverhausen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 04:23 PM
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8. Come on, I live in L A
and work in the industry!

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wryter2000 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 04:29 PM
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9. Welcome to DU
:hi:

I don't know how many GLBT people I know. I do know that the company I work for is very GLBT-friendly, so people are quite open about their sexual orientation. It ticks the freepers at the company off royally. :)
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Lisa0825 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 04:30 PM
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10. I voted 4, but forgot about a couple more, so six total.
4 are coworkers. 2 don't know I know.
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Demobrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 04:32 PM
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11. I'm in the advertising business in San Francisco.
Who's counting?
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Whitacre D_WI Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 04:33 PM
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12. I voted 8+, becaue I counted several GLBT DUers whom I would TOTALLY...
...call up and hang out with.

Otherwise, somewhere in the 5-7 range (it's open, owing to the sometimes fluid nature of sexuality).
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Bunny Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 04:34 PM
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13. One of my brothers is gay, and my best female friend
is a lesbian. So, I guess the answer is two.

I'm casually acquainted with many other gay and lesbian folks.

Now that I'm thinking about it, some of my very favorite posters on DU are gay/lesbian as well. Hmmm...
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La Lioness Priyanka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 05:38 PM
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20. hey, i always thought you were gay
:silly:

i think it came from all the support during the gay marriage rights flame ups
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Bunny Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 05:49 PM
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22. Oh lioness! You're funny!
I've been straight so far, but it's a continuum, isn't it? I'll keep my options open! :evilgrin:
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AspenRose Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 04:52 PM
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15. Three of my cousins
Edited on Mon May-17-04 04:52 PM by DesertedRose
two lesbians, and one bi male cousin.

There's also a couple of lesbians in my master gardener class.
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TheMightyFavog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 04:56 PM
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16. I knew one...
I did volunteer work in a teen drama group that focused on prevention of the spread of AIDS, other STDs, and teen pregnancy. About a year after I left the group, he was brutally murdered in a hotel room in Green Bay. Both of his killers are now serving life sentences.
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RoyGBiv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 04:58 PM
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17. I stopped paying attention...

Of my close circle of friends from high school, three are gay, and one is bisexual. Since we remained close through most of our early 20's, I got to know a lot of their gay friends, many of whom I still know today.

My two closest friends are both gay, as are their SO's naturally, and most of their other friends. In fact, when I socialize, I tend to be a minority, which kinda plays hell with my own dating prospects. :-)

So, it's definitely 8+.
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citizen snips Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 05:12 PM
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18. None.
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geniph Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 05:31 PM
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19. I'm (mostly) straight
and I have so many LGBT friends it would skew the poll. What I don't have is very many straight vanilla friends. I mean, come on, I sing with the Seattle Lesbian and Gay Chorus, and I just got back from an interesting retreat weekend with the chorus. There was pretty much every point on the Kinsey scales of orientation and gender identity represented (and several of us moved back and forth on the scales all weekend!).
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NNadir Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 05:46 PM
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21. I voted 5, but forgot several friends.
I'm tired I guess.

Twenty years ago, I had the experience once of dating a Lesbian who was giving heterosexuality a whirl. I knew all of her friends, and the lover who eventually won her back. In those days I could have claimed 10+, but we've long been out of touch.
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flamingyouth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 06:00 PM
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23. My husband works for an HIV/AIDS support non-profit
And we live on Capitol Hill in Seattle. "More than 8" doesn't even come close to us!:hi:
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Endangered Specie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 06:01 PM
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24. A few, one is one of my best friend.
Edited on Mon May-17-04 06:02 PM by Endangered Specie
edit: and a couple family members.
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doc03 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 06:40 PM
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25. I'm in Ohio have to check in the closets!
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Maestro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 06:44 PM
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26. Several
I know of at least four. All very nice individuals.
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VOX Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 06:50 PM
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27. My brother and his partner, some of their friends, many colleagues...
I'd say at least 12.

I've lived in L.A. all my life -- it'd be weird if my gay family/friends **weren't** there!
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camero Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 07:25 PM
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28. 2
My brother and his SO.
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SW FL Dem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 09:40 PM
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29. I have to say other
Edited on Mon May-17-04 09:41 PM by SW FL Dem
At this time in my life, I have to say none. My son has had 2 gay male teachers. I wouldn't call them up or hang out with them, but that has nothing to do with them being gay. When I was in college, I had more than 8 openly gay friends. My sister's best friend growing up (kindergarten through college) was gay. Unfortunately, he lost his battle with AIDS in 1996 but his legacy lives on, my sister named her first born after him.

I love hanging out with intelligent, witty people. Sexuality is not an issue.
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Lydia Leftcoast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 10:43 PM
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30. I checked 8+ because
I've been involved with academia, the performing arts, and the Episcopal Church for thirty years.
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SheWhoMustBeObeyed Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 11:32 PM
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31. Over the years, scads
From high school till now, I figure there have been more than 25. Some have been my closest friends. Some have drifted out of my life. Some died of AIDS and other illnesses. Some I worked with; one I worked for. One moved to Alaska to become a hermit.

Currently, one is working hard to get me a job at his company, and six more are the best neighbors in my building.
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LWolf Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 11:47 PM
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32. 5
still living.
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GoddessOfGuinness Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-17-04 11:58 PM
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33. Lots...Never counted
but way more than 8.
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DoNotRefill Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue May-18-04 12:05 AM
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34. I don't know, since it's generally not an issue.
it's not like homosexuals all wear stickers that say "I'm gay!" on them...
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SoulDiva Donating Member (40 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue May-18-04 04:18 AM
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35. Hell I got 8+ ex- mothers!
Not even counting my personal friends my mother has had at least 12 serious ex's I have known as mothers..... yeah I totally couldn't count, nor do I really want to.
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Nihil Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue May-18-04 07:09 AM
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36. Lots
About 20 years of mixing with theatrical people (amateur & pro) plus
quite a few long term friends & family of friends adds up to a lot more
than 8!

(FWIW, both me and Mrs.Nihil are straight, just fairly open-minded :-) )
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue May-18-04 07:11 AM
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37. TOO F***ING MANY
of course I jest. I don't know, quite a few, many who are in the closet in North Texas. They know they can be themselves around me because I won't let them be otherwise. :)
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