I want her to love me

What do I do?

I think she cares, but it would take a lot for me to make a change.

What would you do if you thought someone could love you, but they aren't there at this moment?

Why do people have to make things complicated?

be cool. make her laugh. don't tell her you love her. she already knows.

What gives us men away?

that you knew was in love with you? its probably the same thing, love has a way of emanating from every pore - it wants to be detected - like a beacon.

:( If they did, I completly missed it.

Living in one city and having your fiance live 600 miles away.

Run the miles if you have to, dude!

She needs to finish College in another state on top of taking care of her Dad and I'm stuck here for another few months.

If I were younger and less-experienced, I'd say fight for it.

But alas, I'm old and bitter and experienced. Give up. You can't make other people do what you want, no matter how hard you try. Sorry.

My significant other is hoping to have me love him once again after a lot of years of a lot of junk. This is what I told him he needs to do. Sometimes it seems to work, but sometimes he gets angry at me because my feelings aren't as strong as his anymore and that makes it hard. I don't know if your situation is anything like this or it's a new relationship, but I wish you luck regardless.
Sometimes love is tricky. You can't force anyone to love you (been on the other end too) or sometimes things just can't be for whatever reason that my have to with other factors. I hope it all works out for you. :)

Love IS tricky. So is life. I'm trying to get the courage to put them both together.

"...it would take a lot for me to make a change."

Does this mean you want to make a change in you? You can change you. You can't change her.

Set a time limit; say three months from the point you first started trying to woo her. That's how long you can try to win her heart; after that, let it go.

One of the harder lessons I've learned is you can't make yourself love someone you don't love, nor can you make someone love you who doesn't love you.

Instinctively, you know this. You see women on a regular basis; some you are drawn to, some you are not. Love is exactly the same. Think of those women and the different degrees of attraction. Love is one extreme; indifference is the other extreme.

Tell her that you want to start dating and see if she 'knows' anyone that would be game. Hell, ask her to set you up with some of her friends. She should get the message from that and if not then you will at least have a date or two out of it. Oh, and if she does set you up with one of her friends, tell her ALL about you dates and whatnot. If she really likes you then she will let you know and if not then you will be dating other people. Either way, you should be set.

:)

andino knows what he/she's talking about.

and it's he...

:)

STOP IT!

Who wrote, "A woman is like a shadow. Run after her and she flees. Walk away from her and she follows."

Was that Neruda?

but i like it, and its so damn true - to all of our horror.

That's all. If she doesn't, what can you do really?
Not much.

Putting yourself through an emotional wringer does nothing but drain your energy.

I'm in the same spot. I don't feel like jumping through hoops though.
I just hope she does care.

hugely cares.:* :loveya: :hug: and nobody should ask you to jump through hoops for them.