guys - how did your dad deal with "the talk"?

When I was in treatment for cancer, dad had to explain the part on the sheet of possible side effects where it said "lowered sperm count". I've never seen the man so uncomfortable in my life - he's a lawyer and not much given to stammering. :D I finally said something like "Dad, I already know" and, although he had to have known that I was lying out my ass at 11 y.o., he took the cue. "OH, ok! Good, well good." And that was that.

Seriously, neither did my mother. Had to find out about it through other kids from bits and pieces.

what later turned out to be the case, my did wouldn't have brought it up either. At least until I was 25 or so. :)

I have no idea why not.

He fathered 7 children so I'm sure he had some idea about "things".
But he certainly never let me know!

No....and at 37 years old, I'm still learning! :silly:

:D

:evilgrin:

:D

And that's all I'll say on the matter. :P

They got high and got naked and sat there telling us the story.

I was 8, so I was happy to hear the story. I imagine my 12-, 14- and 16-year old siblings were mortified.

They got high and got naked and sat there telling us the story.


Without audiovisual aides, I hope. :silly: :D

They just smoked and talked. In retrospect, it was weird.

WOW! Your parents were cool! :wow:

This was 1974. My dad had just started smoking pot at 51. He couldn't handle it.

If I were a kid today, I'd be learning it all from the internet. Yoiks.

relied on well-thumbed copies of The Joy of Sex at the back of the Barnes & Noble. :) That, and friends who knew even less than we did...

Otherwise, a great Dad.

Don't know how I'm going to deal with it myself if we adopt a boy.

And now my oldest is starting to ask questions so I have to come up with "the talk" myself. He's only 11 but they learn fast these days. He's a Lindsy Lohan fan and asked if he could see the movie Mean Girls, well he saw it. 1st thing he asked me afterwords was "Dad, whats a fugly slut?" Swell.. So on this Fathers Day I salute all the dad's who managed to avoid this talk and I double salute the ones who aren't able to escape it :D

I heard the word "sex" on the radio. So I asked.
He looked at me and said. "It's when a man stick his penis in a woman's vagina to make babies."
That was that....that's all I got, you can imagine how I stayed up clutching the pillow in confusion that night.

you can imagine how I stayed up clutching the pillow in confusion that night

Damn - THAT'S funny!

this led to experimentation and getting caught in an awkward position with the daughter of a family friend (she was 2 years younger than I).

He explained to me that when a man and a woman love each other, they make love. Each has half of a baby inside, and the man puts his half inside the woman to make the baby grow. My seven year old mind invisioned a cavity inside the abdomen of each, fulled with halfs of babies. Some split across the abdomen, some split from the crown to the crotch. All leaking blood and other body fluids in one great seathing mass.

That was about it. The mechanics and emotional aspects of 'the talk' I learned from the copy of The Joy of Sex they had in their bookcase that I would read when I had the house to myself at about the same time. IIRC, it was 'the talk' that spurred my interest in the subject and promted me to actually read that text. I'd seen it before, and since its was mostly words and not full of pictures, I'd not much interest before then. I knew the image I had made was not possible, so there HAD to be some OTHER explianation.

"Look, I know you learned the details in sex ed, so I just need to add one thing. If you knock anyone up, I'll kick your ass."

Some speech huh?

It seems like I always knew, but at the same time it also seems like he told me at one point. I knew he always let me know that I could ask him anything about it, but I remember turning more to the schoolyard for that sort of information. :)

A guy's wife went to him one day and told him to talk to his son about sex.

"But don't scare him. Just start him out with the birds and the bees."

The man called his son into the den.

"Son," said father, "you remember those six times you got laid last summer, right?"

"Yes, dad."

"And you remember those nine times so far this summer, right?"

"Yes, dad."

"Well, your mom says birds and bees do the same thing."

My daughter is seven, and has started asking questions about biology. A couple of weeks go, she asked me what about our male cat made him unable to make babies--how are cats "fixed" and how do they make babies? My husband got this shit eating grin and left the room...

In my usual form, I explained to her about the boy cats' penis and his testicles, and explained that in a fixed cat the testicles are removed so he can't produce his seeds to make kittens. We then had to discuss what he DOES with his penis...

Maybe we are odd, maybe I am a rotten mom, but I have always explained this stuff in simple terms that a kid can understand, and I try and explain it in a way that is more of a science thing rather than the stammering and shuffling that most of us are tempted to use when discussing sex.

I dunno if it will work for her education or not--I'll tell you in a few more years!

Being farm kids, we grew up with the entire animal breeding thing right there and as a part of our lives. I knew where babies came from because breeding animals was a part of our day to day lives. I have tried to use this same thing with my kid.

Best of luck with this parenthood thing--It is rather like working a trapeze act with no net when it comes to some things. Sex ed is one of them, I guess.


Laura

Hey, Laura! :hi:

I'm all in favor of answering questions in as straightforward a manner as possible until the child's eyes glaze over and he or she wanders off to play Chutes and Ladders. That's what my oldest sister did - her boys scandalized our mother by knowing the proper name for their "wee-wee". :D

My dad just told me (when I asked about how babies were made) about how the father plants the seed in the mother and a baby grows in her body. He used proper terms (of course, my little sister and I busted out laughing when he told us that the father uses his penis to plant the seed in the mother's vagina -- we, of course, assumed visuals of trowel-toting penises digging trenches...)

I learned about it in school, just like everything else.

what fuck meant. They all took off running when I did. That night when my Dad got home from work he says come on outside I need to talk to you. He points his index finger out and says you know a man's pp looks like this right ? Uh huh I said. He then makes a circle with his thumb and index finger on the other hand and says you know a girl's pp looks like this right ? Uh huh I said. He puts the pointing finger in the circle and says when a man puts his pp in the girls pp that is fuck. Great explanation for a 9 year old huh ?

"Don't do anything stupid."

...and so off to college I went.

Note: I did not always heed the wisdom of these words. ;-)

i spoke with my son about sex when he was seven and TV and other outside influences made it necessary that i do so.

It wasn't too difficult because he knew a few things already;
he knew that women were biologically different than men,
menstrual cycles re: eggs, babies came from women, etc.,
and the sexes has different pee-pees has he referred to them.

(btw, most of these sexes discussions came out of discussions on religion, history and cultures/societies. )

so, it was a matter of explaining of the two pee-pees fit together, sperm...

i did speak about puberty, diseases and waiting till one was mature enough in the most gentlest terms i could.

his reaction was one of EWWW!!!