Should women ask men out?

:evilgrin:

A lot of the time, I didn't want to do anything unless I was 100% sure - and that is almost impossible. So, I had to wait until the woman took the initiative as I used to be painfully shy.

A lot of the time, I didn't want to do anything unless I was 100% sure - and that is almost impossible. So, I had to wait until the woman took the initiative as I used to be painfully shy.

I think of girl I wanted to ask out in high school and never did. I wished she would have asked me. I now know she wanted me to ask her.

We're now each long married and living thousands of miles from each other.

Regrets - I've had a few.

and this question is STILL being asked? What gives? :shrug:

I would ask a younger man out, but not an older one- there are still plenty of men who think things have to be their idea or they will lose interest.

Maybe thats why I always go for younger men...:bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:

There's plenty of boneheaded men out there of all ages. I know as many young ones as old ones. My experience is that men mellow with age. But maybe mellow isn't what you're after, hehehe.

Gimme a younger dude ANYTIME !!! :)

lets bring equality to the fear and humilation of being blown off.

I loved being chatted up. Maybe it's a male ego thing.

Strong women just appeal to me bigtime.

If I hadn't asked my husband out.

young ladies with bonnets should serve them lemonade :P

:shrug: ;)

:7

Rhett Butler in Gone With the Wind.
Fancy way of saying he's not our kind.

he's trash - trust me on this :P

said the spider to the fly..." :*

I myself would not ask a man out. Never.

its relatively rare, and even the men who say they are comfortable with it, are at least a little bit surprised.

have asked men out or at least they haven't told me about it.

I have male friends who have been asked out by women. Their feelings were mixed, depending on the women who asked them. LOL

Why don't you ask me out? Now the question is, who is asking out whom? At least that isn't subtle.

but by wording it that way they don't have to worry about you saying no.
Answering you don't want to ask them out might be easier to hear than an actual no to a date.

Maybe they are in denial about who is asking whom.?

because I'm too shy as a rule. Can't help it, and I know women pick up on it, and many have told me that they were turned on by it. So I guess it is their way of asking me out, but at the same time not asking me out. Sort of a relief of pressure for both of us. Of course then there is the odd times when neither ask each other out and yet end up dating anyways. Kind of just hanging out together more often than friends alone would do, and then it just happens.

it sounds like that way works for you & them.

I don't understand waiting.

I'm a guy, and I'd love for a woman to ask me out. Sometimes I have issues with aggressiveness. :eyes:

Still I am impressed that no men voted NO. So the idea that they don't like it may be all in women's minds (some of us can't get rid of mom's advice till we're middle aged!)

I figured there'd be men that don't care to be asked out. Interesting.

Back in my dating days (which unfortunately, I have to deal with again- *groan*), I did a couple of times. I was never turned down either. One was the guy who I later married who was happy I asked him out, because he was quite a bit older so he didn't want to appear lecherous by doing so. The other ended up being the guy who was my boyfriend for the longest time before I met my husband. He flirted with me for months, yet never did anything about it. Later when we were together, I asked him, "Why didn't you ever ask me out?" He said, "I thought you were out of my league." If I hadn't done anything about it, it just never would have happened in either case. Sometimes, it's debatable as to whether that's a good thing or a bad thing I suppose. :D

we have to have periods and babies - the absolute LEAST the boys can do is risk the rejection.

Besides even if a guy does the actual asking it's usually only after a tonne of highly unsubtle signs and rampnat flirting on the girls part anyway

I'm horrible at taking hints. If there's a message you want someone to get, tell them directly. Why the hints?

you're certainly not alone there - most guys SAY they want girls to make the first move but are often turned off when it actually happens, just like (progressive) guys SAY they have no problem with women who'll sleep with them straight away but at the back of their mind there's always this "but if she did that with me.../how many blokes does she ask out" dialougue happening.

Maybe I'm wrong - maybe it's just that all my male friends are pigs!

Chances are you won't be her first if you're an adult - get over it and move on.

But there are two ways to ask someone out - a creepy way and a nice way. I prefer the latter.

I had no problem with that. and that was 14 years ago.

we don't do subtle, let me say that straight out. I cannot pick up clues as to a woman's true intentions towards me, and I don't know how many times women have asked me, much later, why I didn't ask them out. The reason, I had no fucking clue that that is what they wanted.

before I got married, i could have a woman practically giving me a lap dance and I'd still not be sure.

but, believe it or not, I still wasn't sure. :dunce:

You can ask me if you want! :evilgrin:

Almost all the relationships where women asked me out (which is about half of them) worked out better than when I pursued them.

I don't think there's a darn thing wrong or bad about ladies taking the initiative and I've done it myself once or twice.

But and however:

I caution that the chicas should be fairly well acquainted with the dudes, or extraordinarily capable of taking care of themselves. Flattered, sure. But there are still a fair number of cads who presume too much from an invitation and feel that 'no' has already been ruled out as an answer when the female does the inviting.

Women should see how fun it is to be on our side. Nothing like sticking your neck out, being a gentleman and introducing yourself and being shot down. That always picks up your day.

God this football game, baseball, not being able to go to a good college, girls, and not having the day off tommorow have me down.

You're in high school - perfectly normal

:(

coooooooold.

and men shouldn't ask women out either

Down with people!

None of that The Rules crap here!

I don't see anything wrong with that.

if the woman likes the man, she should ask him out. Maybe the man just hasn't noticed her before, or doesn't think she's interested.

This would allow easier coupling.

Break it down men/women and asking out/being asked out. I suppose that would not work though, since DU has a variety of ages and not everyone is "out there".

Not the answers, per se, but just the idea that this is still a question in society.

Hell, I asked a man to marry me once, what's the big deal?

Is this regional, do you suppose? Because I can't even imagine someone asking this question in the places I've lived (Arizona and California). Note, I'm not saying there's anything wrong with the fact that you've posed the question, just that I'm surprised anyone ever gives it a second thought these days.

Maybe it's because I'm bisexual, so I've had to ask out both sexes, and have been asked out by both sexes. It just seems like a non-issue.

On the other hand, waiting for a woman to make the first move with another woman is often like waiting for an engraved invitation from God. I can totally relate to guys here who've said they can't tell when a woman is interested. We may think our "subtle hints" are obvious, but when the shoe is on the other foot, the only thing that's obvious is that most women don't know how to give off clear signals.

I have a theory, though. It's all of the artificial scents we use in soaps and deodorants. The pheromones could do their work if it weren't for that. (Okay, it's 1:15 in the morning, so I may be a little loopy.) :)

Shoot, skip the "asking out" process, I'm usually just offered several mixed drinks and dropped off at home in the morning.

With both kidneys safely in my tummy, thank you ;-)

nice girls don't call boys

It should be equal both ways.

I'd feel greatly complimented though would politely decline.

and would definitely say yes. I would even offer to pay I'd be so moved.

the same "rules" should apply if she asks him ... if he says yes, she pays and decides where to go.

I asked my husband out first, when we were dating.

I proposed, and we've been married just over three years.