Just broke up with the greatest bf I ever had all because of ...

BelleCarolinaPeridot

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Sat Dec-03-05 02:41 AM
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Just broke up with the greatest bf I ever had all because of ...

all because being the right person at the wrong time - Worse thing , I have to work with this person . And some of it was my fault - because of my depression it made me mental and hard to trust him because of relationships that I had in the past . I feel so empty right now . Everything was going so good tonight then boom crash - this sucks so bad . When I see Cupid I am going to whoop his ass . His family is too dependant on him , its hard for him to spend time with me but when we did it was so good . I am going to miss him so much . Damn ... Love sucks .

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Wetzelbill

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Sat Dec-03-05 02:43 AM
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1. awww... it's tough I know

You're a beautiful, intelligent woman, you'll be back in no time. :) :hug:

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BelleCarolinaPeridot

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Sat Dec-03-05 02:46 AM
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2. I know but having to see this person everyday sucks ...

And its all my fault - damn I fucked up ...

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JohnnyCougar

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Sat Dec-03-05 02:50 AM
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4. How is it your fault?

BTW, that does suck seeing him every day now. :(

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BelleCarolinaPeridot

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Sat Dec-03-05 03:03 AM
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7. It was just too much at the wrong time ...

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JohnnyCougar

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Sat Dec-03-05 03:09 AM
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9. Well, then it's not your fault.

It is what it is. It is nobody's fault. It's the way things are, and the way things are is the way they have to be...for now.

Don't waste time blaming yourself, use time improving your situation!

Sorry...I don't mean to be preachy. But I just find that in situations like these, it is counterproductive to put blame on someone. :-)

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JohnnyCougar

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Sat Dec-03-05 02:49 AM
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3. I'm sorry to hear that, hon.

But yeah...if you need to help yourself, it's best done outside of a relationship. As much as that hurts us guys, it is the damn truth, and it is a better long-term solution.

Just make sure that your guy understands. :)

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Race4Peace

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Sat Dec-03-05 02:51 AM
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5. you're in good company...

Edited on Sat Dec-03-05 02:53 AM by Race4Peace

this sunday, i'll celebrate the 3rd month after my gf broke up with me(correction:left me for another guy) by enforcing her decision. it's hard for me to say that, cuz i've known her half my life, we got along awesomely, but if she cant turn to the carnal desires(which I was fighting at the time and still am a bit) and follow thru, then I've gotta keep her back- the theology'you dont make the same mistake twice, yer fired the first time'.

so i know how it feels, though i'm only a HS sophomore.

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drhilarius

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Sat Dec-03-05 02:52 AM
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6. I'm sorry to here that...but

a piece of advice- Cut him completely loose. I went through the same thing w/ a gf; it got very messy. Don't leave any ambiguous feelings, because it will be a disservice to you both.

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BelleCarolinaPeridot

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Sat Dec-03-05 03:06 AM
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8. Thats what I am worried about - those left over feelings .

I allowed him to give me one last kiss goodbye and he took more - there are still some feelings left between the both of us and I told him I predict that he come back again but the next time ( which would be a third if it happened ) I won't come back because I am too afraid . It was hard to show my feelings around him - it was as if he did'nt want to hear the " L " word - and I told him that I was not there yet - afraid of commitment , wanting his cake and eating it too . I hate that because earlier tonight he stood in line with me at Wendy's rocking with me from side to side and then now ... this sucks so bad . I feel like I am in a nightmare .

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NMMNG

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Sat Dec-03-05 03:10 AM
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10. While it hurts, you need to do what is best for your mental health

Take care of yourself first. Build a good support system around yourself--friends, family, community members. They will help you get through this. If you see a counselor or psychiatrist let them know you'll be needing some extra support right now.

Best wishes to you. :hug:

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BelleCarolinaPeridot

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Sat Dec-03-05 03:23 AM
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11. Thank you ...

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