Trying to set my sister up BUT...

I'd like to set my sister up with a friend of my husband. Of course, I would only do this with the permission of both of them first. The thing is, my sis is bipolar and occasionally freaks out on people, but if you know how to deal with her it's no big thing. My question is, should I tell him anything about her condition beforehand? She really needs somebody who understands her and I only want what's best for her. Any opinions out there?

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If he is on the end of a freakout and does not understand what is happening, he'll bolt so fast he'll make a sonic boom.

her business, but I know from past experiences that it doesn't take much to send a new guy running.

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He'll tell all his friends, too, which we'll be bad for you and your sister, because it's not her fault. You know how females have a list shared between them of guys to avoid? Men do that too.

I would hate for people to just think she is crazy when she has a legitimate condition.

But like most word-of-mouth things, the wrong people might get badmouthed.

I despise set-ups, anyway, but an introduction is nice. Set up a brief meeting, then, rather than a blind date. Her condition is her business, and I think it would probably be best that he hear about it from her.

Don't treat her like she's handicapped! If your sister had lupus or cancer would you feel compelled to tell her blind date ahead of time? After all, if they hit if off, those conditions could affect their life together as much as living with bipolar.

If you tell this guy of her condition he may decide without even meeting her not to bother. And even if he agreed to meet her anyway first dates are awkward enough without this poor guy walking on eggshells wondering when/if she is going to freak out on him.

However, if he meets her and is captivated by her, she can break the news to him after a few dates -- this way he can decide if he wants to pursue the relationship further.