Anyone else married to a right winger?

I've been married for 25 years and sometime over the past few years, my husband drank the righty KoolAid. I've been a liberal all of my adult life. When I met my husband he didn't have strong political views but was very moderate in his beliefs. Sometime during the Clinton years he started to listen to Rush and began to parrot his views.

Over the years we've learned to agree to disagree and usually don't talk about politics at all. The topic of Bush, spying, the war, etc. came up during a recent family holiday gathering and he talked about how Bush hasn't done anything illegal, is a wonderful president, we're winning the war on terror, etc. He spends a lot of his free time reading righty websites and blogs and listening to conservative talk radio. He leaves the room when I watch any shows like The Daily Show, etc. He'll go to another room to read something by someone like Ann Coulter or watch Faux News. :eyes:

My entire family (including our 3 young adult children) are liberal Dems. My 74 year old parents asked me what has happened to him. They love him but are horrified that he holds these views. He's otherwise a great husband and father, well educated and successful.

Can anyone else relate to this situation at all? I certainly wouldn't divorce him over it, especially after all these years. But I never would have married him in the first place had I know I'd end up with Dick Cheney!! (BTW, he thinks Cheney is Wonderful!) :puke:

has a mean right, and I've wondered from time to time.

was former military, and not a big fan of JFK, and also told me a very rude Clinton joke. I do not remember any political discussions though. Back in 1995 I was not nearly as politically active or aware. I was critical of our Republican rep, but mostly it seemed like progressive causes were advancing and a massive backlash like 2002 and 2004 seemed unthinkable. Cable TV and the internets are perhaps having a divisive effect because it is so much easier to get polarizing opinions which will preach to a choir when we used to have a more balanced nightly news and newspapers.

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I can't relate. One of the main reasons my wife and I are married, is because we agree on most of the "major" issues...I didn't want kids, neither did she. I'm a Liberal, so is she. I love the Vikings - as hard as that is sometimes - and so does she....

I feel for you.

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Just make sure you get him to sign over the power-of-attorney before you send him!!

up with Mike Malloy shows and take a long road trip and force your spouse to be deprogrammed.

Set it up to overpower the Rush^H^H^H^H^ Pigman station ;)

Then he'll have no choice - he'll have Malloy or nothing!

Mark

But I'm still really left of the majority of the population. My family is just very, very left.. And I love them for it..

My ex-wife was pretty liberal, my first serious girlfriend read beat poetry from the 60s and used to wear peace symbol earrings several years before they became trendy (first time I noticed them on somebody else was when Jennifer Capriati burst onto the tennis scene in the early 90s)

While my wife now is a Bush hater, I think she's probably the most moderate of them all, but still left of center (her parents are members of the Communist Party...)

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And I can tell from her lack of knowledge of her issues that it's entertaiment and not information that she has her attention focused on.

But since we got divorced I have not had to pay attention to her politics.

When we got married we were both moderate Repubs. But over the years she
grew more right wing while I was headed in a Progressive path. The politics
didn't cause the break-up, but it didn't help.

My current wife is an old family Democrat - but sometimes even she thinks
I am too liberal!

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I'm still in HS myself, so obviously I'm not married or anything, but that's really sad. I'm rabidly left, so it's going to be hard to find someone who is either (a)as rabid as I am or (b)left-leaning or moderate enough to tolerate my views.

Just know if you are considering marriage, people really do change and often become like their parents as they age. We agreed on all of the major issues...religion, children and all other major values. His father was a moderate Repub. and his mother was as far to the right as they come. My husband couldn't understand her extreme conservative attitudes. He slowly began to agree and now that she's deceased he seems to have taken over her views.

We rarely talk politics, because I skewer him when we do.

He was raised by fundamentalists. It takes a lot to undo the brainwashing.

I might be able to tolerate one of them if it was only politics (can't hardly talk about that with anyone anyway), but I would think that the attitude would color all of the rest of their dealings, personal and business. IOW, if he employs people, does he treat them like worthless cogs to be replaced at the first bump in the road? Am I wrong?

He is a very caring, considerate person to everyone in his personal and business life. He works in a profession where the majority of his colleagues are Repubs. His long time friends are all Repubs too. We live in a very RED area so I often feel outnumbered! That's why AAR and sites like this are so affirming to me.

in with him.

I work with right wingers and DH is my sounding board when I get home. He lets me bitch and gives me sympathetic nods. :)

But I don't really have a choice. Fortunately my immediate family and of course all of you here are my sounding boards!

It makes a difference to at least feel you are not alone in your political views! I know other couples who have different political and religious views and they seem to get along just fine. Don't they say that opposites attract?

That's the acid test.

Repuke Uncle Strikes Again I really don't know how you do it. My wife is very lefty just like me.

Entitiled "President had legal authority to OK taps" by John Schmidt (associate attorney general of U.S. under Clinton).
http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/opinion/chi-0512210142dec21,0,3553632.story?coll=chi-newsopinioncommentary-hed

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LynneSin. http://mediamatters.org/items/200512240002 Go down to myths 3 and 4. I think this may help you.

he's less conservative than when we first got married.

He's "a bit disappointed" with President Bush...

sympathetic toward immigrants, including illegal aliens...

after some bad career experiences is a bit skeptical of upper management and very understanding of the issues facing workers...

thinks Ann Coulter and Michael Savage are too extreme...

agrees Fox News is biased...

and while he really hates the idea of abortion, when pressed will agree that it's a decision best left between a woman and her health care provider...

I don't think he'd every leave the Repub party, but he's certainly not a hard liner.

We do some bickering during election time, but most of the time politics aren't a big part of our lives.

Pretty much to me they are mis-educated!

I just meant that he has degrees from a highly regarded university.

just well-connected

But husband came from poor background, attended on scholarship.

:D

He's not a Bush fan and isn't very politically opinionated, but he calls himself a republican. He is stuanchly opposed to abortion so we don't even touch that subject much, because I'll end up hurting his feelings. He was raised in a very religious household; I had no religious indoctrination. My entire family is comprised of Democrats. There probably isn't a liberal among his relatives.

Back in 2004, he told me he couldn't wait until the election was over so he could "have wife back." :rofl: My experiences leading up to the election, though, had been very eye-opening for me and I told him I was never going to be the same as I had been. I've always been a liberal, but until then I'd never been so stirred by the state of politics. I think once the fire is lit, there's no going back.

For me, it's just an aspect of my life that I don't really share with him much; at least, if I do, it's not appreciated. I try to commiserate with other like-minded people so he doesn't have to hear as much unwanted ranting and such from me.

:wow: Shocking.

:)