can I complain a bit?

Just got back home after 5 days with the family in Minneapolis. Had a good time.

My partner stayed home - we couldn't afford 2 plane tickets out to Minneapolis plus having to board 3 dogs and making arrangements for someone to feed the cats and someone to dog-sit the foster greyhound. Ennywho- I had previous expressed some reluctance about going out to Minneapolis - especially during the holidays and leaving my partner alone. She insisted I go, so I did.

Yesterday she came down with a cold. The foster greyhound, in meantime has decided she is no longer house broken - probably due to the change in routine with me gone.

I got off the plane and was informed that the foster greyhound has got to go and was treated to a laundry list of complaints on the ride home, and presented with another list of things that I had to do when I did get home.

I realize that most of this is due to my partner's cold - she's a miserable cuss when sick. I took the dogs out, picked up the house, unpacked, fed the dogs, fed the cats, cleaned the litter box, hauled in wood for the wood stove, cleaned out the woodstove and started it up.

She then informed me she was going to take some meds and a nap. Fine. An hour later she's up crabbing because she can't sleep, I tell her to take some more meds. No, won't do that, going back to bed.

She got up after 2 hours complaining she couldn't sleep. I bit my tongue, wanted to point out that she did sleep because she was snoring. Would I nuke her some soup. Yes. Made the soup - forgot the crackers. Got the crackers, now the soup is in the WRONGE BOWL. Swapped bowls. NOW SHE'S NOT HUNGRY.

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I should have stayed in Minneapolis. Thank-god I have to go to work tomorrow....

Don't wanna editorialize beyond that as I know you love your partner and are just a bit thwarted by the mess, the dog situation, the fact that she's sick and cranky and the fact that you expected that after 5 days gone you would have received, well, a different kind of welcome home.

Bitch here all you want - we can take it!
But just keep giving her the TLC she wants (and doesn't realize she's already getting from you). If she doesn't snap out of it in a day or two, then I'd speak up.

Bless you for being so loving. :)

a :hug:

I hope your partner feels better soon and harmony reigns once more. You sound like a very loving person. Hang in there.

:hug:

You mean she spent the holiday with just the animals? Did your partner have a dinner to go to, or her family to celebrate with?
Does she ever get to go off for that amount of time?

our holidays are usually limited to just the two of us

which is one of the main reasons I was reluctant to leave her alone for this holiday - but she insisted I go and see my family -- we discussed this for over a month before I even made plane reservations, and up until the day I left I offered many times to cancel out

most of this is due to her having a cold...

she sort of come out of it last night after "joking" to me that maybe I was sorry I came home.... well, I snapped and said "What the hell is that suppose to mean!!!???"

by this time I was tired and when I get tired I get "overly sensitive" - started crying and she realized what she said and how I took it....

all is forgiven...

I hope your partner feels better soon, for both your sakes.

Good luck!

First of all, :hug:.

Second, I hope that your partner gets well soon so that she can get back to her old self. Then you can get back to being her partner and not her nurse/servant--even though you don't mind helping her when she's down.

As to venting, do it all you need to. We're always willing to listen.

Hugs and Metta, :grouphug:

Buffy