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seaglass Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 06:25 AM
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Is having a cut-off time for phone calls at night old-fashioned?
I wouldn't call someone after 10pm at night unless they asked me to call back and gave a time cut-off later than that. My daughter called me at 11:03 last night which I think was too late (my daughter lives in my house, she called me on her cell phone from 2 floors down to say goodnight and tell me she thought she was going to be too sick to go to school today).

Anyway, I was just thinking that it's rude to call someone after 10pm and before 7am and wonder if I am just old-fashioned.
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rucky Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 06:27 AM
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1. 9 is my cut-off.
and no calls during dinner. sometimes I have to restrain my wife when it rings, but she supports it.
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seaglass Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 06:28 AM
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3. Do you have a time in the morning too? n/t
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rucky Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 06:30 AM
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5. anybody who knows me knows better
and anybody who doesn't will hear about it.
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Strong Atheist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 07:29 AM
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16. Agreed on the 9 thing. Don't expect me to answer, 'cause I won't. nt.
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Midlodemocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 09:13 AM
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19. Mine, too. I won't call anyone after 9.
Edited on Wed Mar-01-06 09:13 AM by Midlodemocrat
or before 9 in the morning.
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Whoa_Nelly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 06:28 AM
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2. Not old-fashioned
It's courteous. For me 10 PM and 8 AM. But, my family and closest friends know they can call anytime if they really need to talk.

...and your daughter called you while in the house? :rofl:

Hope she's not sick :hug:
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seaglass Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 06:29 AM
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4. She calls me every day 2-3 times from downstairs and yes,
it drives me insane especially when I have to run across the room to grab the phone.
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Whoa_Nelly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 06:36 AM
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7. Just curious
How old is she?
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seaglass Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 06:38 AM
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8. 16...is that what you guessed? She's at the age when it's
all about her.:-)
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Whoa_Nelly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 06:41 AM
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10. Nice she keeps in touch :-)
and communicates with you...that age is the toughest bridge to keep built between parent and child. Hang in there! :pals:
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seaglass Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 06:46 AM
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11. I have to agree that we have great communication, she even
asks my advice about who she should date. Though that does make me a bit nervous because on one hand I want her to be prepared to make decisions on her own but on the other hand I don't want her dating guys that don't treat her well.
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Whoa_Nelly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 06:48 AM
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13. I have a son
He's grown now, age 27, and has two kids of his own. The teen years got a little rough, but we're close again...he just doesn't want my advice...juat wants me to be the doting grandma.
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seaglass Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 07:12 AM
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15. Yep, my son is a teen and I can feel him pulling away from me.
We have a completely different relationship, he doesn't want to share and he doesn't like me showing him affection (that is really hard!). He feels like I'm babying him and because he's small for his age, he thinks that is why. He asked me the other day if I loved him when he was a baby because a teacher told him that not getting love could stunt a child's emotional and physical growth (he's really reaching to find a reason he hasn't grown much yet).:-(
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NMMNG Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 06:34 AM
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6. It's not old-fashioned
It's common courtesy. Unless the call is an emergency people should abide by your rules as to when you will and will not accept calls.
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Nicole Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 06:40 AM
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9. Not old fashioned at all
It's your house, your rules.

In my house I have a cut off time of 12:00 a.m.- 12:00 p.m.
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tjwmason Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 06:47 AM
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12. It possibly is old-fashioned.
Given that basic manners do seem to be old-fashioned these days.
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ScreamingMeemie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 09:18 AM
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20. Bingo tj! We don't allow calls after 9 here...but so many of my
daughter's friends will call after 10 on a school night. :hi:
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REP Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 06:48 AM
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14. Nope.
Or if it is, I'm old-fashioned. I don't call people after 9pm (unless they are blood relatives who leave me a message telling me to call them later than that) or before 10am.

I keep weird hours, so calling me after 10pm is just fine, but let there be mercy on your black soul if you call before 11am unless you're on fire and only I can put you out.
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blondeatlast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 08:25 AM
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17. I'm with you--emergencies only. Simple etiquette. nt
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last_texas_dem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 08:30 AM
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18. I do it out of courtesy
I usually don't feel comfortable calling someone past 9 PM and 10 PM is the absolute latest... unless I know for sure that they stay up late and aren't living with someone else who will mind. I don't mind bugging my friends very late at night, but try to take into consideration what their living situation is. Cell phones are a little bit different situation as well; if I want someone to call me and I figure their cell phone is off, I will call their cell phone at whatever time of night and leave them a message.
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MissMillie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 09:26 AM
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21. Who cares if it's old-fashioned?
First of all, I don't think it IS, but seriously, if it is, so what?

It's your home, and you're entitled to set the rules, and if you expect quiet after 10 pm, then that's what you should have.
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seaglass Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 09:32 AM
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22. I don't really mind being called old-fashioned on this because
I'm not going to change what I think about people calling late at night (and my initial reaction when I get one of these calls that something is wrong) but I was wondering if other people thought the expectation was a throwback to the past or not.
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Gormy Cuss Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 09:34 AM
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23. Yes, you're old-fashioned.
You have the quaint notion that politeness and consideration of others is important. :thumbsup:
It's not a bad thing.
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