"Male" posters turn out female, "female" male, I'm confused

uppityperson

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Mon Mar-13-06 03:50 PM
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Poll question: "Male" posters turn out female, "female" male, I'm confused

Edited on Mon Mar-13-06 03:54 PM by uppityperson

I forgot the message part here, sorry. I have been on DU for 1 1/2 yrs and it still amazes me that someone I had assumed to be female or male is not. It constantly reminds me to not make these assumptions, but still it happens. Just wondering how you see yourself, how people see you. Thanks.

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Shine

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Mon Mar-13-06 03:53 PM
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1. My gender is clearly identified in my user profile.

plus, it's fairly obvious by the context of my posts.

:hi:

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Strong Atheist

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Mon Mar-13-06 03:55 PM
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2. Same here. nt.

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uppityperson

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Mon Mar-13-06 04:04 PM
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3. I just changed mine to indicate as I've been blasted for being male

Maybe I am just dense, reading along, responding, reading along and all of a sudden someone turns out to be opposite sex than I'd thought. Odd.

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Gormy Cuss

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Mon Mar-13-06 08:11 PM
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23. You're female?

You know, gender undeclared is presumed to be female. I've had several DUers tell me that. They were the ones who bothered to check my profile. Some of the others assume I'm male. It's so confusing.
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progmom

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Mon Mar-13-06 04:09 PM
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4. I figure the "mom" part gives it away

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entanglement

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Mon Mar-13-06 06:09 PM
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13. Yeah, kinda subtle hint, isn't it

;)

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NMMNG

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Tue Mar-14-06 05:51 AM
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42. By the way, do you have any kids?

:rofl:

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Warren DeMontague

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Mon Mar-13-06 04:09 PM
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5. If, by "obvious", you mean it's indicated in my profile

then I guess it's obvious.

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xchrom

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Mon Mar-13-06 04:28 PM
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6. i'm xchrom.

need i say more?

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khashka

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Mon Mar-13-06 08:27 PM
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27. Yeah, say more

Mr. genetics are totally beyond me!

Love ya, but x chromosomes are female, y chromosomes are male.....

Wanna change your name to ychrom? Doesn't have quite the same poetry, does it?

LOL

Khash.

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xchrom

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Tue Mar-14-06 05:45 AM
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41. i am xchrom.

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La Lioness Priyanka

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Mon Mar-13-06 04:30 PM
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7. i am female

my user profile says so

as does my username really

and my avatar

i think its pretty obvious...i am a girl!

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Redstone

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Mon Mar-13-06 09:09 PM
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34. Are you ever...

Redstone

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ghostsofgiants

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Mon Mar-13-06 04:31 PM
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8. I'm male and it's obvious to anyone who checks my profile.

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Nikia

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Mon Mar-13-06 05:27 PM
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9. I am rereading Paradoxes of Gender and find this sort of funny

I have always clearly idetified myself as female. Other people also clearly identify their gender by their profile, user name, or make references to their gender in posts. Some DUers do not do any of these things. Over the internet, it is more difficult to determine gender in real life. Why are we uncomfortable though if we cannot determine gender?

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entanglement

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Mon Mar-13-06 06:12 PM
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14. I'm slightly uncomfortable if I don't know a poster's gender

Don't ask me for a reason because I don't know why

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Nikia

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Mon Mar-13-06 06:46 PM
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15. According to the book it is because gender is so important

In society. She argues that it is the most important class. People treat and judge people on the basis of gender as well as folow their gender script or reject it. She argues that it is created by society though, rather than naturuaul.

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entanglement

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Mon Mar-13-06 06:53 PM
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16. What about race, sexual orientation and economic class?

Are they a factor at all?

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Nikia

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Mon Mar-13-06 07:15 PM
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17. To some extent

They often interact with gender in various situations. She also ties in sexual orientation to gender. The male-female dichotomy is strongest though, at least according to her. Are you uncomfortable if you do not know the race/ethnicity of the poster or whether she or he is wealthy. middle class, low wage worker or living on government assistance?

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uppityperson

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Mon Mar-13-06 07:58 PM
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18. I find it strange that I even subconciously genderize people.

It is not just what people post, but how they do it, or their icon thingy, or their name. Even gender neutral ones. I find it odd because I try to see people as just people, and this popped up today when someone I thought was male wasn't. I don't check profiles often enough perhaps.

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BikeWriter

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Mon Mar-13-06 05:46 PM
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10. I'm a guy. Due to my obsession for women I may be a Lesbian.

;-)

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Rowdyboy

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Mon Mar-13-06 05:59 PM
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11. I'm pretty easy to guess,.....

Edited on Mon Mar-13-06 05:59 PM by Rowdyboy

But the name comes from a comment on "Designing Women" about "rowdy girls" so maybe I'm virtually transgendered.....

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beyurslf

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Mon Mar-13-06 06:06 PM
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12. It is clear I think. Although sometimes in a drivethrough I get called

ma'am. I can never figure it out because I sound nothing like a woman. Maybe a gay man, but certainly still a man.

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LeftyMom

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Mon Mar-13-06 07:58 PM
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19. Between my name, photos and flirting with men, I'd hope it's obvious

:shrug:

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supernova

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Mon Mar-13-06 08:00 PM
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20. Female, BUT I had to talk that up

when I was first new here. The first year I was here, most people assumed I was male from my typing/speaking style. I wasn't aware of that until I got called "sir" and "he" one too many times.

:-)

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davsand

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Mon Mar-13-06 08:04 PM
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21. "YOU are davsand?? I thought davsand was a guy."

Yep, I've heard it several times when meeting people from DU. I find it kind of funny, actually, since I make a point to sign all my posts as "Laura" and my profile says I'm a female...

It would seem that people see davsand as short for Dave Sand(insert final suffix here) rather than as the meld of my maiden name and married name. I was Davis for 35 years of my life and then I married Kevsand. Does THAT help any???

Oh well, whatta ya gonna do? :shrug:

Laura

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YellowRubberDuckie

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Mon Mar-13-06 08:09 PM
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22. I'm a girl!!

What dude would have a name like Yellow Rubber Duckie?
Duckie

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Oeditpus Rex

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Mon Mar-13-06 08:14 PM
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24. For some reason, this thread reminds me

of the time Jack's son on "Will & Grace" was explaining to a girl at his first dance why his dad could dance so well.

"I dunno. I guess it's because he's gay."

"Yeah? One of my moms is gay."

:rofl:

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nytemare

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Mon Mar-13-06 08:19 PM
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25. I think my username and avatar lean toward maleness.

Edited on Mon Mar-13-06 08:19 PM by nytemare

I, however, am a female. Thank you very much.

:D

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Patiod

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Tue Mar-14-06 06:15 PM
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50. I have friends named "Mare" (Mary) so I assumed female

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khashka

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Mon Mar-13-06 08:22 PM
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26. Oh Lord! Not again!

I'm male but sometimes get mistaken for female. Just ask Wetzillbill - he thought I was a cute girl and started flirting. Broke my heart to tell him I was male and old enough to be his Dad.

I also got into an argument with a guy. It got silly. I eventually told him "Go fuck yourself!" His response? "All you women are the same!" I didn't know whether to laugh or cry......

But I am very much.... (Khash looks inside his boxer-briefs)..... male.

Khash.

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uppityperson

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Mon Mar-13-06 08:30 PM
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28. yes, it was you

and thanks for the reassurance. Yesterday it was a female I thought was male.

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salin

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Mon Mar-13-06 08:33 PM
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29. for years folks mixed up my gender

I guess due to a genderless nick? Doesn't happen so much anymore...

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Laelth

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Mon Mar-13-06 08:34 PM
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30. People don't always check the profile.

I'm male, and I say so very clearly in my profile, but The Magistrate still calls me Ma'am. :rofl:

Laelth is just a "pretty" name, I guess, and people make assumptions ...

No harm done.

-Laelth

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khashka

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Mon Mar-13-06 08:39 PM
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31. I never check profiles

I prefer to see what people say without any preconceptions.

He calls you Ma'am? LOL. Just wait until he calls you Sir! Trust me, it is very scary....

:)

Khash.

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In_The_Wind

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Mon Mar-13-06 08:43 PM
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32. I'll end your confusion about a DUer.

I'm the one on the left. :hi:

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Redstone

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Mon Mar-13-06 09:08 PM
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33. Picture threads are your friend.

Redstone

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RevolutionaryActs

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Mon Mar-13-06 09:11 PM
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35. I've had people think I was a guy before.

Not so much anymore. Unless they're new, then they might think I'm a guy. :shrug:

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El Fuego

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Mon Mar-13-06 10:59 PM
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36. They always think I'm a guy

And it got weird. So I changed my avatar.

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El Fuego

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Mon Mar-13-06 10:59 PM
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37. They always think I'm a guy

And it got weird. So I changed my avatar.

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RevolutionaryActs

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Mon Mar-13-06 11:01 PM
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38. You're a chick?!

OMG! No way.

:P

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El Fuego

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Mon Mar-13-06 11:04 PM
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40. Bwah ha ha ha!

:evilgrin:

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TroubleMan

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Mon Mar-13-06 11:01 PM
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39. I'm not lying with my user name.

nt.

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In_The_Wind

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Tue Mar-14-06 06:21 AM
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43. I have a question about your name.

What kind of trouble are you talking about. :)

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uppityperson

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Tue Mar-14-06 05:04 PM
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44. it just happened again

Skidmore says she's female. Oh well, I guess it doesn't make a lot of difference since we are all people so maybe I just shouldn't fret.

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TheBaldyMan

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Tue Mar-14-06 05:11 PM
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45. I thought Kashka was a gay man until I found out the truth today !

goes to show you never can tell.

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kwassa

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Tue Mar-14-06 05:12 PM
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46. I thought kashka was a Jewish holiday food ...

little did I know!

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leftofthedial

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Tue Mar-14-06 05:14 PM
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47. I'm getting the creeps now.

how do we know who *anyone* really is?

I'm beiginning to wonder about myself. Maybe I'm not the cynical, insensitive asshole you all assume me to be and I'm really a mousy little cat-loving nun.

:shrug:

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Cobalt Violet

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Tue Mar-14-06 05:21 PM
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48. "No one cares if I'm male or female on DU, including me"

And that okay with me.

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hyphenate

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Tue Mar-14-06 05:26 PM
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49. When I first got online back in 1989

it was an atmosphere where you really strove for ambiguity in your online identity because it was safer that way. So I've managed to retain some of that through the years. However, people who have posted with me over time know I'm female, because I will often answer with my real name, Mary, or discuss some things from a female point of view.

The only thing I really dislike as a result of this is the "enlarge your penis" spam mail, since I ain't got one. :)

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