Damn I hate being in a state of confusion and doubt . . .

So as many know, the reaosn I haven't been around DU much lately is I've been dating and spending a whole lot of time with a woman I met who, most of the time, seems like everything I've ever wanted in a companion . . . except for days like yesterday and today.

And it's not because of anything she did, it's me and my own doubts. I don't even know what exactly it is that I'm doubting.

It's weird, when I'm with her, I'm absolutely convinced that all is well in my own little world. . . then, sometimes when I'm alone, I start to wonder if I'm building the whole relationship into something more than I should.

Maybe it's because of bad experiences with past relationships and I'm over analyzing everything and injecting too much self-doubt.

I'm so confused. :(.

So far I've been able to talk to her about absolutely everything, but for some odd reason, talking to her about all this self-doubt . . . I don't know whether I should or not.

Maybe I'm just having an off few days, I don't know.

Maybe I'm just looking for some reassurances from someone that everything is alright.

Is all this doubt normal?

I think you're answering your own questions.

When your mind goes off on tangents like that, I found that a little meditation does the trick in resetting my thought patterns.

Simply sit quietly (lock yourself in a broom closet if you have to) and do your best to empty your mind. Close your eyes and barely open them to just slits. Breathe deeply in through your nose and out through the mouth, and let it all go. Empty. No thought. No inner monologue chattering away. Nothing. Concentrate on your breathing.

You'd be surprised what 10 minutes of that will do to your attitude.

more self confidence. Relax and go with the flow, it's really not been that long since you've met :)


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it will work out.

aA

I doubt my relationship every other day as well. And I know that I don't have anything to worry about. I just get insecure and start wondering what he sees in me.

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her and her company relax and go with it. No need to rush into any life altering decisions. :hug:

The input helps. . . doesn't dispel the doubt, but it helps me feel better about it :).