Would you be turned off?

My friend and I got into a discussion and he said that if he is invited over to a girl's house, and they are about to "get busy", he finds it revolting if she has a condom for him. He said that even though he appreciates the fact that she's using protection, he wonders if she makes it a practice to bring guys over as she so readily has condoms in her possession. I told him that I thought it was responsible of her and I asked him if he'd prefer she rather have a whole box of condoms in her top drawer, or a ton of condom wrappers all over the place. (Of course a new, unopened box of condoms could just be a replacement for a previous box that she annihilated. LOL). Of course his point is totally selfish considering that he was going to have sex with this girl which he's only known for a short period of time, so why doesn't he take an introspective look as well before judging? But everybody has their reasons/opinions and I want to hear yours.

So, my question for the guys is: If it was apparent that you and a girl, whom you have known only for a short period of time, were going to have sexual relations for the first time, how would you feel if she reached in her chiffarobe and pulled out box of condoms and handed one to you? Would you be turned off, or on?

Ladies: Do you prefer a man comes prepared, or would you consider him to be arrogant if he pulled a condom out, even as things started to heat up?

he was. (I'm not in the market because I'm married, but I'm just sayin'... :P ) If a guy would be offended that I was prepared, he'd be a total hypocrite and not worth my time. So there. :eyes:

To either be virginal or inexperienced, it wouldn't bother me in the least if she pulled out a condom.

It sounds to me like this guy was turned off/got jealous that the woman was obviously prepared for the evening, ie meaning that she had other men in her life. Stupid chauvinistic bullshit if you ask me.

the feelings/sentiments about this topic change as you grow older. I guess younger guys (in general, of course)may see it as a turn off, yet older/experienced people know that it's responsible? Who knows. :shrug:

Even when I was young and fumbling. I always figured that if guys are getting to screw around, then there have got to be women who are screwing around, otherwise a lot of men are in for a big suprise in the morning.

But having observed young macho posturing and personalities, yeah, you could very well be on to something there. It seems that more and more, young men these days have a very *delicate* sense of masculinity. I think part of that stems from the fact that as a society we haven't had very many masculine outlets for a number of years. After all, this is the first really serious war we've had since 'Nam. Men aren't the sole bread winner anymore. More women than men are attending college(darn, why couldn't that dynamic have been in play back in the day:evilgrin:) Women are increasingly working in traditional male jobs, etc. etc.

In addition, I think that a man's sense of his masculinity has been turned into a joke by the MSM and people like Limbaugh, etc. Granted, it was never great to begin with, but I think it is now a cariciture now. I see so many young men acting uber tough, swaggering about, driving the biggest pickup they can afford, etc. that I really do laugh at it all, except when I contemplate where this all leads us. Part of the deal about being a man used to be that a man did indeed have a gentle side to him. No more. Now apparently young men, and many older men, feel that they've got to be uber macho, all the time. They play into the jokes and stereotypes of males as presented in sitcoms and comedic movies, and that's truly sad.

I'm hoping that this is some relatively short lived trend, something about the guys who came of age during the Reagan/Bush era, when all was tough, macho swagger. But sadly, my hopes aren't too high on this score, and I think it will take some sort of major crisis to restore this balance to the male psyche.

If she invites him over to her house, and they "get busy," then chances are, when she invited him over, she knew there was a chance that they'd be getting busy.

What sane woman in 2006 invites a man over to her house when there's a chance and desire for sex and DOESN'T have a condom?

I don't mind it if a man comes prepared. But I'd be prepared, too.

Besides...as you said, he's ALSO getting busy. He's in the habit of going over to women's houses (at least that once). It's a double standard.

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So, he is going to have sex with an almost stranger, yet he is upset that she is also going to have sex with an almost stranger, is prepared to do this? Double standard. If someone is going to have sex, they better be prepared. I am far past the "oops, I didn't mean to do THAT" stage.

not 1956

There ain't no virgins anymore...she is just lookin out...

good health!:patriot:

but if I were older, and I liked him, and all that jazz...I would not find it arrogant for even a moment that he thinks for a change about personal responsibility.

That could just be me, however. :shrug:

;)

Was he prepared and if not was he going to get busy with a near stranger without protection. She sounds smarter than he does.

on which point of "getting busy" she chose to do it. If she waited until strategic articles of clothing began to fly, I'd be a bit put off — especially if that were the first mention of it. To wait that long seems pretty high school to me, and it's a rather awkward time for the interruption, much less the introduction of the topic.

I'd find it much more appealing if the sheath were presented early in the evening's activities. In addition to being less awkward, it'd also be a rather obvious and welcome signal — and kind of erotic if done properly.

Oh — and taking out a box of condoms and producing one says "I fuck a lot." :eyes:

Oh — and taking out a box of condoms and producing one says "I fuck a lot."

Yeah, especially when it's one of those boxes from Costco...

:P

for your honest reply (your last sentence). hahaha

That's a myth perpetuated due to society's discomfort with discussing male anatomy. So if I was still single I'd be a little annoyed if the woman assumed I was average. Yes, I know that condoms are made of rubber which stretches a lot. However, if you buy an inner tube for your bicycle you get a multitude of size choices and condoms should be the same way

I'll know her well enough that it won't be an issue.

What if she had a full box of wigs? Would that make her 'wiggly?'



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