Ok I've Never Had A Child Die But These Women Are Batshit Crazy To Me

sorry for all the snips but i just HAD to convey the 'batshit' part. note: NOT trying to be insensitive but am I the only one who finds this more than a LITTLE strange and unhealthy?

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Wherever she goes -- to a restaurant, to visit family and friends, or to court where her husband faces a murder trial in August -- Lori Lemons takes her dead daughter with her.

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But while surfing the Web for a suitable urn, Lemons came across www.huggableurns.com, a site for a California company that sells urns shaped like teddy bears.

"I thought it was perfect," Lemons, 27, said this week. "Now I have something to be able to hold on to. She can join me in parties. I can dress her up for the holidays. It's as soft as a baby, almost."

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"My son has taken naps with her, and I dress her up for the holidays like she's still part of the family -- she's just in a bear form," Lemons said.

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Putting ashes into teddy bears that can be hugged or carried around is the brainchild of Alexandra Lachini, 53, of Redding, Calif. But she credits her father, John Romero, who died in 1998, with coming up with the idea -- post mortem.

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Lachini said she took her father's ashes home, and "he started ... talking to me about the energy of the ashes and how important it was to keep them and hold them."

She said her father told her he wanted to go places with her, so she put his ashes in a nylon purse. Later, he suggested a teddy bear.

http://www.freep.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20060622/NEWS02/606220439/1004/NEWS&template=printart

but yes, that does seem a little...bizarre.

My heart goes out to them, though.

:cry:

The ex and I lost a child and it hurt very badly. But we had learn to let up a little and move forward.
That is too weird!

I've never lost a child and I'm not a therapist, but that does NOT seem like a healthy way of coming to terms with your loss.

It may seem crazy for us to watch The Weather Channel all day long with the sound off, but that's just what the Edwards' did when their son died.

where you bring the dead fetus home for the children to fondle

make people do batshit crazy things. And you never know what you will do until it happens to you, so I wouldn't judge her too harshly.

I feel sorry for this woman. :-(

There were moments when, after my mom died, I wished they'd have just thrown me into the grave too.

:hug:

Thanks, progmom. :hug: right back. :-)

This woman's child hasn't been dead a year, so she's still actively grieving. And that urge to old onto them, at any cost, is almost overpowering.

I've left instructions for my remains to be cremated... but I hope that they will be scattered or buried, or interred.

some place will turn your carbon remains into a diamond and he wants my stylish niece to wear him on her finger......I kid you not..

"What is a LifeGem®?

The LifeGem® is a certified, high-quality diamond created from the
carbon of your loved one...

as a memorial to their unique life.

as a symbol of your personal and precious bond."

http://www.lifegem.com/secondary/whatisLG2006.aspx

I'm not sure about carrying the ashes. But since I've never lost a child, I don't know how I would feel.

we are all meeting at the Olive Garden, ordering salad and putting your ashes into the pepper grinder so we can ALL enjoy you :D

:rofl: :rofl:

edit: smilie patrol

:hi: :loveya:

But seriously, the cremation to make yourself a diamond is interesting. I'd have to become 3 diamonds so the kids wouldn't fight over my 'remains'.

Is it stranger to have loved-ones frozen, turned into a diamond, or kept as ash in a teddy bear container? One more very personal decision.

:pals:

That would be cool! Good for laughs... I'd hope.

will that work?

I can't express how sad that is....

There was an episode of Six Feet Under with an accidental shooting of a Child. There was some dialogue about how we have a name for someone that loses their parents - Orphan - and we have Widow and Widower - but no name for someone that loses their child, that it's just too terrible. Of course, decades ago, losing a child was not that unusual an occurance.

I don't know how I would react if my spouse killed one of our children. I just don't know.....

I have heard some say that losing a child is like losing a limb, life goes on, you adapt, but you're forever seriously damaged....

Your remark about how it was more common to lose children in years past made me think of this. In the early days of the camera, it was not uncommon for a parent who had lost a child to take the body, dressed in its finest, to a photography studio and have a portrait made of them. Though it sounds horribly morbid now, the reality was that they had most likely never made the investment of a photograph or painting of the child in life and desperately wanted a likeness to keep as a remembrance. I've come across several such photos over the years and they always make me so sad. :cry:

I cannot imagine losing a child. I don't want to imagine it. While I find this particular women's way of dealing with it odd and probably not something I'd do, I can't say that I wouldn't do something equally crazy. That's got to be a situation that makes anyone a little crazy.

rings made of hair and such, lockets, mourning portraits. Considering how repressed the Victorians were in other ways, maybe they were sensible in their attitudes about death.

too kind.


Guano is actually quite usefull.

I swung by the website, and eesh, I feel all icky now.

I can't imagine that kind of loss. It does seem a questionable means of dealing with grief, but what would I know?

But, this is nuts. Death is a part of life. Sometimes it comes too soon, but life doesn't stop because of it.

Personally, I think it is a dishonor to the person's memory to obsess about them in death like this.

JMHO. YMMV.

All I can post is that I'm sure losing a child is on par with being batshit, in and of itself, in a way. But that's something that a childless woman like myself can only think about in a theoretical sense.

are nuts. The poor woman who lost her baby, well, it's just sad. I don't think she's in her right mind, and it's understandable. I think if something happened to one of my kids, I'd lose my mind. I might appear sane after a year or so, but I'd never be right again.

would it be less weird if she kept her daughter's ashes in an urn in the living room, or wore a locket with her hair in it?

taking a teddy bear stuffed with her daughter's ashes to parties?

dressing it up??

But if that is how they want to mourn, then fine.

I find other things creepy - like having a doll made to look like a dead child. But whatever helps them get through life.

They are batshit crazy, alright! :scared: That's incredibly creepy. I guess she just can't let go.

:yoiks:

sad... and yeah, that particular form of not letting go is just a leeeeettle bit nutty.