i just got followed by some creepy guy

stupid me decided to go hang out around the street cuz there is this guy i like, so i kinda wanted to see his house :shrug:

anyway, this like homeless drunk bum came up and started talking to me. he seemed nice at first, i was being nice to him and we were talking and joking and all -- i mean he was total bum though, had a cane, a bag with shitty beer in it, and a black eye. i'm not a rude person, so it wasn't like i was gonna tell him to go away and leave me alone, but i didn't want to tell him i was going home either or then he'd follow me and know where i live :(
so, i told him i was going to this bar (which is actually in the same parking lot as my apt.) and apologize to the owner who kicked me out last time for being a bitch at last call (i insisted on getting more beer and was being a bitch lol) --- so i figured, this guy probably doesn't want to go to an actual bar since he has his own pack of beer, but no -- he said he wanted to go with me. FUCK FUCK FUCK!!!! i mean i can't tell him he can't go to a public place! so i'm like "um, yeah i guess...." so he walked with me over there, and i told him i wanted to wait outside for the owner cuz i knew he comes out to smoke, and i would talk to him then and apologize. so we'ere waiting, and i'm thinking how the hell am i gonna get home now? if he sees me walk to my house, he'll know where i live. the bar was actually about to close, so these people come out that i know from being in there and i told the bum i'd be right back. then he stood behind a VAN and HID from the people! WTF! so i go over to the people i know and whisper to them that i need help, i need to get away from that guy and he won't leave, and i want to go home but he can't see where i live! well one of the guys i was standing with walked over toward the bum (i guess to make sure i wasn't lying) and then started saying shit about it, about who's the creepy dude hiding behind the car...a few minutes later we're all standing together and the bum comes walking out and past us, he either got scared of the guy i was with or realized that i was just trying to get away from him. so he walked by and left, and we all stood around for a minute then they walked me to my house (which is right in the parking lot as the bar) AND NOW I'M SAFE, I HOPE.

i hope he didn't see where we went, we didn't see him around after that so hopefully he doesn't know where i live :scared:

that'll teach me to go out standing around the streets at 12:30am by myself :blush:

if you ever, EVER feel uncomfortable in any situation, GET OUT OF IT IMMEDIATELY. Do not hesitate for fear of being rude - your instincts are TELLING you something. Remember that - and all you parents reading this ADVISE YOUR KIDS TO DO THE SAME. So often when terrible things happen the victims will mention that they "felt something was wrong" but stayed for fear of being rude or whatever. ACT IMMEDIATELY!!!

if those people i knew didn't come out (everyone else in the bar apparently went out the other doors :shrug: ) -- i would have been stuck there with him, the hardest part is that we were pretty much at my house and i didn't want him to know where i lived :(

well i know now, and i'm tempted to call the police tomorrow just to let them know about this guy. i'm sure they already do, i've seen him hanging around liquor stores here before and i'm sure they know he's homeless and a bum. but i think i'm gonna call just to be sure and let them know. he told me his name too but i'm not sure if it was real.

if you feel others could be in danger, alert the police! You know it! :)

and that you talked to a guy who ended up being creepy?

At 2am? Are most of the drunk, beat up homeless people you meet at 2am a lot nicer?

Honey, what kind of people did you *think* you would meet at 2am near a bar... while you were out hanging outside the window of a guy you like?

Do you always hang around the houses of guys you like? What's up with that?

And picking fights with the owners of a local bar who then tossed you out?

You might want to examine your own actions here and get a handle on what's going on in your life... You're setting yourself up to become a victim of something potentially quite tragic.

Please, be a lot more careful with your life!!!

Seriously. If I had someone like you to sit me down hard and give me straight-up, no nonsense, in-my-face good advice like that at the times in my life when I most needed to hear it (teenager, young adult... heck, even now sometimes), I probably wouldn't have known half my problems. I mean that.

Thanks for putting it out there.


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but I learn every day from DUers, I really do! Thanks. :)

You should always trust your instinct in these situations.

Make sure you are in Europe where it is safe to do that sort of thing. :)

have something pretty awful happen to you.

I know several homeless people. They are alright people for the most part, but they usually have some serious problems. If they do not battle some type of addiction, then they battle mental disease. (or both) You often get guys who will be normal one minute, possibly seem pretty normal all the time, but then the next minute they will get damn scary very quickly. I heard a guy I know talk and he seems alright most of the time, but he disturbed me a little one night, he started talking and acting a sort of off the wall. I never noticed it before and I've known this guy about two years now. You have to be wary of that stuff. Street people often have problems which will make them get violent very quickly. You probably should not have talked to him in the first place, but since you did, you definitely should not have let him go with you. You have got to get out of a situation like that as fast as possible.

I'll give you an example.

This one time, I was at a bar listening to a friend's band play, and I approached this attractive girl alone at the bar. She was very pretty, but minutes after talking to her I realized she had some serious mental problems which had to be exacerbated by her drinking alcohol. Alarm bells were going off, I mean she seemed seriously dangerous. She also had all these bracelets covering her forearms, which I think maybe covered up something, like scars from attempted suicide possibly. So after I got my drink I went and sat by my friend etc, and she started screaming at me from across the room. She turned erratic in an instant. She kept it up for quite a while, getting violent acting. Ok, now I'm a guy, no way could she overpower me, and she was trying to get me to go home with her. I could have just went home with her for obvious reasons, but something was definitely up, she seemed dangerous. If I was to fall asleep, I could wind up with my throat cut, you know? So basically I acted like an asshole and ignored her. I waited until she left, then ended up getting a ride home with my friends. It was an uncomfortable situation, but it is better to be a bit of a jerk than to get hurt. Better safe than sorry. Anyway, point being, you have to make sure you get out of those situations right away.

in your first paragraph. he was really nice actually the whole time we were talking. we were actually having some decent conversation. but i still just don't trust anyone really, doesn't matter what they look like or who they are, i'm not all that comfortable around strangers. normally when i'm with a group of people and a homeless guy or bum comes up to us, i'm the first one to take off to get away from the situation. well, although most of the conversation was good, what kept really kind of scaring me was him talking about some girl who was supposedly "cut up" on that street a while ago (which i don't think is true at all) and this was his excuse for wanting to come with me, he didnt' want me to "be alone". yeah....SURE. so that's when i started feeling uncomfortable around him.

(by the way, to the person up there ramming me for everything, where i was standing was really only yards away from my own house, the person i like lives down the street. as for the argument with the owner of the bar, unless you know the whole story of the situation don't sit there and knock me. the bartender and i made up, it was only a matter of talking to the owner to let me back in, which everyone thinks is likely if i just talk to him. as for telling the police, it would not be tell them he was 'following' me, but just to let them know this guy is around town in case they don't already know)

anyway, Wetzelbill -- he did seem nice, that's why i kept talking to him. other than just "looking" a little creepy", i really didn't feel threatened by him to just walk away from our conversation. it's when i said i was leaving and he insisted on following that creeped me out. the worst part is that we were so close to my house, i didn't want him to know where i lived. so i figured if i went to public place, at least i could find someone to help me get home without him following me. apparently i did do the right thing, and thank god i know just about all the people that go in that bar. when we were waiting outside i told him he didn't have to wait with me, i knew all the people that would be coming out and would end up hanging with them. but he insisted on staying. thank god people i knew came out right then so i could get away.

anyway, it's over now and i just pray to god he didnt' see we where me and my friends went when they walked me home.
who knows, maybe he is harmless and just a drunk bum, but who can you trust, you know?
thanks for the support anyway all of you :hug:

Glad that you're alright

you sound like someone I know...

Glad you're okay, but you're right that'll teach you not to go out places by yourself after midnight and talk to people you don't know!

Don't mean to come off as whatever, but this is a pet peeve of mine. There's enough trouble you can get into with the people you know without talking to strange men in the middle of the night. I'm not going to pass judgment on the "going to see the house of the guy I like" thing because everyone has done stupid things for love.... but screw being polite and not being rude when some strange man comes up to you.

He didn't "follow" you, from his perspective, because you talked to him nicely and said he could go with you.

Oy! Don't do that anymore, okay???