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First, about me. I'm an atheist, but grew up rather fundie. I never really rejected my upbringing so much as I grew in a different direction, therefore I'm not angry at Christianity and think it's a wonderful religion. Not trying to start a debate on that, just explaining where I'm coming from.
So Saturday my seven year old daughter and I were touring the Christmas lights in central Texas, and in the fun little town of Marble Falls (once home to Salam bin Laden--Usama's older brother and former W Bush business investor), we toured a walk-of-lights display set up along the local lake. Very pretty and fun. Near the end they had a display of the empty cross, draped with a cloth, and several angels around it, heralding. I mentioned, somewhat bemused, that that should be an Easter display, and that it seemed sad to celebrate Jesus's death on the celebration of his birth.
My seven year old had no idea what I was talking about, and I realized that she had no idea who Jesus was or any of the Christmas story. She's heard the name, of course, but not much else. I remember her telling me recently about one of her friends, a boy who I assume is Hindu from his name and country of origin, asking her who Jesus was, and her not being able to answer.
So, since I'm a bit of an afficianado of religions in general, and since the whole Jesus story is such a part of our culture--like it or not--I told her the story of Jesus, in rather abreviated form, leaving off all the disclaimers like "historians believe this" or "the scientific evidence says..." I told it basically the way a believer would tell it, with the beginning disclaimer that it wasn't what I believed. I told her the full story of Jesus's birth, from the epiphany to the slaughter of the innocents (playing that aspect down), and then, because of the cross we had seen, I gave an abreviated account of his life, then explained how he was crucified, and then that he rose from the dead on Easter. I told it basically the way I had learned it at her age.
I was rather proud of my telling, actually, because she had listened to the whole story, and asked a couple of questions, so I knew she was listening. I felt good that I had educated my daughter, and that she would now be able to understand what her church-going friends talked about, but that I hadn't preached the story to her, nor told it in a way that would make her reject it. It was a neutral telling, respectful to the story and to believers, without being an indoctrination.
So a little later we passed another nativity display, and I pointed it out to her, and she turned away, and in her precocious voice that gets annoying but is still adorable, she informed me that she never wanted me to point out the baby Jesus again. "Every time I see that now, I'll have nightmares about them sticking a spear in his side to make sure he's dead."
Sigh. That really wasn't my intention! I just told the story the way I learned it as a kid. I never really thought of how scary it would be to someone who hadn't grown up in that culture. So I accidentally struck a blow against Christmas, even though my intentions were honest!
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