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Maine-ah Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Dec-30-06 08:17 PM
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So, my hubbie's ex from high school has contacted me
Edited on Sat Dec-30-06 08:18 PM by Maine-ah
At two different websites that I am a member of. We were um, lets say, not very close back then...just to be nice about it I suppose, as it was about 13 years ago. She was nice in her message. But she was completely psycho, and seriously fucked my hubbie up back then. It took him a long time to realize I wasn't going to do the same thing...what would you do? Should I reply in kind, or go with my first instinct and ignore her?


duh, spelling..
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Gormy Cuss Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Dec-30-06 08:18 PM
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1. Ignore.
Replying is inviting more contact.
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Scout1071 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Dec-30-06 08:18 PM
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2. Politely blow her off.
No need to go back to a bad place.
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noamnety Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Dec-30-06 08:19 PM
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3. If you don't want to have a relationship with her
then don't. That seems pretty simple. You have no obligation to correspond with her.
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Maine-ah Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Dec-30-06 08:21 PM
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6. all of my thoughts exactly...
I just didn't want to seem too petty since this was HS.
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Omphaloskepsis Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Dec-30-06 08:20 PM
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4.  Ignore...
What could possibly come out of this that is positive?
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Canuckistanian Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Dec-30-06 08:21 PM
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5. High School injuries are the worst
Whether physical, mental or emotional.

Steer clear.
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Maine-ah Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Dec-30-06 08:23 PM
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8. tis the plan...
how would one politely reply to her (most likely veiled) compliments?
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Canuckistanian Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Dec-30-06 08:46 PM
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11. A thinly veiled request to take a hike...
You and your mate have life figured out. Try to keep it that way.
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Kat45 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Dec-30-06 08:22 PM
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7. Ignore. For your husband's sake, if not for yours.
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Maine-ah Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Dec-30-06 08:24 PM
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9. all for my hubbie's sake
I can take the bitch...:evilgrin:
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Writer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Dec-30-06 08:36 PM
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10. Unless she has something truly groundbreaking to say, ignore her.
She sounds like a destructive person.
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mainegreen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Dec-30-06 08:48 PM
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12. No good and no fun/pleasure can come of talking to this woman.
As I'm sure every instinct in your being is telling you.

Listen to that.
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WCGreen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Dec-30-06 09:06 PM
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13. I say invite her over and see who your husband really likes...
You know, it's good to get these things out in the open so there is no what if's or coulda been's, no rosebuds, so to speak, hanging around to eat the very soul out of your marriage...

Then again, you could just blow her off...

But personally, I always like to think of what Dr. Phil would do and follow that same path to enlightenment...
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BarenakedLady Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Dec-30-06 09:10 PM
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14. I'd say ignore her
since you two do have a past together. I did see an ex of mine a couple of years back (ran into him). He and his wife invited me and my children over for a playdate. It was nice. We still keep in touch with emails and x-mas cards. But I never knew her before, so there wasn't a negative female history at play. I'm pretty sure she just wanted to check me out, since I was his first "love" and his "first" and all, but it all worked out in the end. :)
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Crabby Appleton Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Dec-30-06 11:01 PM
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15. ignore n/t
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momophile Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Dec-30-06 11:15 PM
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16. kick her ass... okay, no, just ignore
:hi:
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