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I'll be honest: I don't get gender. It's, after all, not always--or even usually--a straightforward thing, either psychologically/socially or biologically. What makes a man a man or a woman a woman? You could say sex chromosomes--XX for a female or XY for a male--but nature sometimes laughs at you; there are XX individuals with a male appearance, XY individuals with a female appearance, and individuals who chromosomally are neither, being XXX or some other odd combination. In biology nowadays they teach you that the SRY gene on the Y chromosome is what causes physical gender (maleness--it jumpstarts testosterone), and that when that gene fails to turn on, an XY individual doesn't develop into a male, and when that gene gets fucked up and transferred to an X in meiosis, an XX individual develops into a male. That doesn't happen too often, but it does occur, and there are all sorts of other biological pitfalls/complications.
Okay, so physically it's pretty complicated. What about the social/psychological stuff? Clearly there can be a large dichotomy between physical and psychological gender, or else there wouldn't be transgendered individuals; again, nature gives you the big middle finger. There are absolutely ridiculous social constructs involving gender, as anyone with half a brain knows; this foolish stereotyping of women as weak things good for being baby incubators is a dumb as stereotyping men as "providers" and "breadwinners." I've known women who were Stepford Wives and women who could kick anyone's ass, regardless of gender; I've known men with way overblown superiority complexes and men who loved to cook and clean and other such things. Quite frankly, society fails miserably at honestly defining "man" and "woman," though it does a great con job on far too many men and women as to what their "roles" are.
You can't even look to sexuality to tell you what the deal with gender is. Sure, a lot of men like women, and a lot of women like men, but there are men who like men, women who like women, and members of either sex who have no preference (in that either they just don't want sex or in that they'll be attracted to either a man or a woman). Children can only be conceived naturally through male-female vaginal intercourse, which some would say promotes heterosexuality as the "norm," but homosexuality and bisexuality have existed for thousands of years in humans, and I think science is starting to show that other species also have "shades" of sexuality and gender relations. Hell, some species have no gender at all, or have individuals who are, biologically, both genders at the same time!
Clearly nature "dropped the ball" on gender, if neither biology nor man nor any individual species in general can get it right and honestly define what gender means. I'm far from being a scientist or a biology expert in any sort of capacity, but it seems to me that nature doesn't give a shit about what any species "thinks" or "feels." Nature/evolution/whatever does what makes sense for the propagation of the species and the planet as a whole, meaning that, yes, sometimes what's best for the species is for it to end. But even saying "nature does this" and "nature does that" is something of a fallacy, because as far as any human can provably determine, there is no central power making these decisions, no guy moving all the species around on a giant chessboard and saying, "Okay, apes, time for you to walk upright." "Nature" isn't so much an entity as it is an immensely complicated system of actions and reactions, adapting, changing.
So then is gender of nature? Is it purely a human construct?
Raw sex and sexuality is not at all of human making; every species propagates in some way, whether sexually or asexually or a combination of both or even some odd "third" function. A penis, a vagina, a breast, a testicle--humans did not make these. That was "nature," whatever the hell that means. "Nature" is not perfect--it is a process, and that is all, not something all-pervading and all-knowing. Like all processes, it is complicated, swirling, made up of infinite little steps that must enact perfectly. Very frequently, these little infintestimate bits go off without a hitch, but sometimes it hits some snag, something goes awry, and wham! a dichotomy is created.
"Gender" is more vague and wishy-washy than "sex," and while also of nature, it has been considerably influenced by humans. Gender takes into account not only your "naughty bits," your hormones, and your chromosomes (which in themselves, as discussed above, can already have some conflict with one another), but also throws in all sorts of psychological stuff, both biological and social, all your instincts, all your social conditionings, everything. No wonder gender is such a slippery bastard--all those discrete parts well able to contradict one another! Confusing enough for "lower" animal forms, but downright ridiculous in us oh-so-evolved humans.
I think, overall, that gender can be extremely misleading and downright foolish at times. I'm biologically female and, pyschologically, I've never felt the desire to be a male, but I don't revere womanhood and demonize manhood, because I know that I don't necessarily feel like a part of either, just as so many individuals less sure of their sex and/or gender feel. I identify with menstruation, frigging breasts, the so-called "complexity" of women, but I largely don't identify with lusting after males (or other women) or any other socially traditional female things. I laugh at men and am not able to fathom anything physiologically male, but I'm "stoic" in the traditional male way and I get many socially traditional male things, such as sports, open-mouthed-ness, etc.
I'd like to eventually be able to transcend gender, or to become the best of both worlds. To generalize completely and unfairly, I'd like to be emotionally "rich" like a woman, able to care for another like a woman, but technically/intellectually sensible like a man, speak my mind like a man, and avoid the foolish pratfalls of both genders.
I'd just like to be human, please.
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