So I asked for the date

She just looked at me funny, zipped up her jacket, and walked away.

:shrug:

:hug: :hug:


her loss.....



lost

:spank: :spank: :spank:

:hi:

found

:hug:

In time I will learn confidence and come across less nervous, but I've always been nervous... the only way to combat it is to face the fear head on.

When you're around someone that makes you nervous, imagine them as someone you are normally comfortable with.

Nobody is universally liked; it'd be foolish to attempt to think otherwise. I used to, and that caused more problems than life was worth. Particularly when I disagreed with a lot with things I was told I had to like...

Maybe you'll understand the context this time around. (you clearly didn't before...)

or something like that. Oh, well.

why should i have to explain my decisions?

thats sort of what i was going for... :hi:

Say it ain't so1?!1!?! :cry:

The long story is tedious and maudlin; but both sides kept saying for me to make up my mind; the usual anti-bi stereotype stuff. For that amongst a couple other reasons, I made up my mind.

Other people have their lives; I have mine. I made the choice. I've no qualms by doing so.

As in September 13?

Either way, it was pretty rude.

Body language has never been my strong point, but I do know I tend to make people feel nervous when I'm in the room...

And technically, it was the 12th... :)

a serial killer stalker type, the least she could have said was, "No, thank you."

Better luck next time.

And some people are just like that. And maybe I took their reaction the wrong way as well; I've been told to remain conscious of the difference between a personal attack and a generalized reaction; they can be different and I can misperceive others just as much as they misperceive me...

I've been misperceived as that sort of personality type, amongst many others. Some of the stories I have to tell are very interesting indeed... But I am also known for throwing off body language experts. Being an Aspie has its advantages, even if they are more often disadvantageous... :7

Well, they're not quite "stories" as they're not fiction, and the books I am writing either use the full events unabridged (based on a real life story), or even in the later autobiography I'm being 100% upfront, even with the darker sides of my nature. Otherwise there is no point; honesty must be full.

women often sacrifice too much to be polite.

Some men indeed are stalkers, serial killers, and other nasty vicious types. With the crap that does go on in society, even if it's an accidental misunderstanding*, I would never blame a woman for just leaving.



* despite coming across nervous, people who know me DO know I am not the vicious animalistic type.

infact i just did that a day or so ago.

If a guy totally creeps you out, there is nothing wrong with removing yourself from the situation. You should keep yourself safe at the expense of politeness.

I guess my response was clouded by the fact that HT seems like a perfectly nice person online. I assumed he would be somewhat the same in RL. :)

I am a nice guy in the real world and my actions prove it. I care little for words.

Also a very nervous and unsure one in the real world due to a childhood of less than friendly circumstances. AS on its own has led to some unfortunate misunderstandings, which is the core problem, but environmental factors always play on peoples' abilities or lack thereof to one extent or another. Genetics combined with environment is what makes people... people. We often forget that and I'm hardly immune. Like I said to LP, if the lady creeped me out, she had every right to vanish.

I just hope I wasn't acting like I was hitting on her for cheap sex. That sure as **** wasn't my intent and that's the one thing in life I certainly don't care for, for reasons I've said many times in the past... but that's as much her problem as it was mine if she misread me; I can't change peoples' minds. I can only hope to state my case on their same wavelength and hope they like it. If not, too bad, misunderstandings happen, it's time to move on in life if I can't convince a person what I said differs from how I said it. And sometimes, some people can become militant and pigheaded too. Again, nobody's perfect.

:spray:

...and a shit for not even answering you. There are better people out there....now go find them.

Cheers

You tried.
That's worth something.
I'm sorry her response was less than stellar. Hang in there.

:hug:

that may help explain her behavior.

Miscommunication was probably the ultimate cause; this isn't the first time I've said I have these little difficulties...

did you walk up to her behind the place after dark etc...

Those are the circumstances I was referring to.

Did you know her or talk to her at all beforehand? If you guys were friends or at least on speaking terms then I think you deserved a 'No thanks' at least. Of course if you were a stranger to her, then her response wasnt all that outta line, not nice perhaps but not outta line.

be your usual charming self. she will eventually succumb to irresistible ways. oh yeah, ask out other girls too ;) don't put all your eggs in one basket!!

If/when he sees her again, he should be his usual charming self, and if SHE decides she might have misjudged him, SHE can ask him to go for coffee or something.

At this point, she knows he is at least, somewhat interested. But "keep asking" moves into harassment/stalker territory. She didn't say "Yes." She didn't say "Maybe." At best, she left the question unanswered, and if he sees her again x number of times, and is charming, decent and not pushy, she can claim she hadn't made up her mind, and hadn't actually said "No." But in any case, any next move is hers to make.

:shrug: :hi:

:hide:

Now you know the date.

:rofl:

:)

:thumbsup:

But it's her loss.

:hug:

Has that ever made anyone feel better?

You're smart, cute and damn funny.