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I've been on both sides of this issue in my lifetime. This person needs to find his self-esteem. Anyone who is that needy and dependant is going to be a drain almost any where you take him in the long run. I'm not saying he's not a good or nice person, but how can he look at himeslf in the mirror if he treats himself,not to mention you and others, that way? This may sound harsh, but behavior like that signals an issue that seriously needs to be resovled, or it will eventually come to drive you up a wall.
We've all been lonely in our lives; in situations where we don't have many friends and will do what it takes to get out of the house and socialize a bit. I, myself, have been putting up with a friend who is not treating me with the respect I deserve, because she's really the only one I have to hang out with. I want to help her, but she uses me, and I have finally come to the point where I'm going to have to put an end to it - even if that means I'll be home every weekend for the next year. It sucks, but I won't let myself be treated this way anymore.
People like this want you to believe they are the victim. At some point, they have to stand on their own two feet and make friends for themselves. If they aren't always so available, then eventually they will make friends that come to them and say "Hey! Wanna come over?".
I wouldn't ever want to go somewhere I'm not invited. Sorry, just that southern upbringing. It's rude.
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