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XemaSab Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-08-07 07:52 PM
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If you took "your" baby home from the hospital and it was later found the kid was switched at birth
would you want your natural child back?

Why or why not? :shrug:
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Gormy Cuss Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-08-07 07:54 PM
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1. What have you done NOW, XemaSab?
:scared:
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XemaSab Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-08-07 07:56 PM
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4. It looked like me!
Same pointy head, same blank stare, same screechy voice... :shrug:
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Critters2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-08-07 07:58 PM
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6. LOL!!!
This is like one of those "Doctor, I have this friend..." things, isn't it?
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astral Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-10-07 02:15 PM
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46. I remember this happening on the news recently
and both sets of parents were traumatized the idea of making the switch. I think they were going to meet up and keep connections to both children, but I don't remember seeing any followup on the topic.
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Audio_Al Donating Member (536 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Nov-11-07 02:22 AM
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58. This happened to at least two families several years ago.
Edited on Sun Nov-11-07 02:27 AM by Audio_Al
There were books written and even a movie made -- my wife is trying to recall the names.

Here's the TV movie from 1991 "Switched at Birth" --
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0103017

This is the Kimberly Mays story and the Twigg family she was biologically related to -- all at this link:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Switched_at_Birth.
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Duer 157099 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-08-07 07:54 PM
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2. Depends on how much "later" it was discovered
20 years? Might very well want to. Or not. Just depends. :D
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Arugula Latte Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-08-07 07:56 PM
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3. I think it would depend on how old the baby is when the mistake is discovered
I'm not sure what my own personal "cut-off" age would be, though.
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Audio_Al Donating Member (536 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Nov-11-07 02:35 AM
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59. Here's the story of two women who found out 43 years later!
Kind of fascinating:

http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2002/12/05/48hours/main531970.shtml
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IndianaJones Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-08-07 07:56 PM
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5. if I could gain through a lawsuit of some kind.
otherwise, it would depend on how far away the hospital was.
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mainegreen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-08-07 08:07 PM
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7. This question is to evil to even contemplate. n/t
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leeroysphitz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-08-07 08:09 PM
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8. Believe it or not this happened to my wife and I about seven years ago.
It took about thirteen months for the error to be discovered and almost another four months to locate our biological child and his accidentally adoptive "parents".

Of course by this time we loved our little girl as strongly and deeply as ANY new parent would but we just couldn't see strangers raising our son!

In the end, as difficult as the decision was, we decided we would just have to raise both children as our own.
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Zoigal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-08-07 08:22 PM
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9. Didn't the parents want their
daughter?
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leeroysphitz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-08-07 08:23 PM
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10. I guess so but like I said above we already loved her very much nt
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Recovered Repug Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 04:27 AM
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20. I have to be missing something.
Your wife gave birth to a son, you brought home a daughter, and it took 13 months to discover the error? I'm not trying to be a smart ass, but I must be missing something.
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leeroysphitz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 12:13 PM
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21. Sorry, I should have explained it better.
The situation arose as the result of a paperwork snafu at the hospital and was only caught thanks to the efforts of an astute book keeper at our insurance company. We were angry at first but once we had a chance to cool down and think of just how many babies a typical hospital deals with every year I guess it's a wonder that it doesn't happen more often.
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Phillycat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 12:16 PM
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22. Yeah...that doesn't explain it at all.
Your wife gave birth to a SON, a boy baby with a penis and all, and you took home a DAUGHTER, a girl baby without a penis, and you didn't notice?

And then when you discovered the error, you ended up raising both babies...because the other parents didn't insist on having their child?

This story is complete bullshit from beginning to end.
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leeroysphitz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 12:20 PM
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23. Well at that age the differences between genders is not as pronounced as
it is once a child hits puberty. And frankly we don't base our affection on things like that, we love our children no matter what their gender.

Like the old saying goes we were just happy with ten fingers and ten toes!
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Midlodemocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 12:55 PM
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37. .
:thumbsup:

:rofl:
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Name removed Donating Member (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 12:35 PM
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DS1 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 12:36 PM
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27. trolling since before 2003?
Unlikely. I think there's some missed sarcasm/black humor going on here :)
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BlueIris Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 12:38 PM
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29. I don't know. It's been known to happen.
Trolls using legit posters' screennames has also happened.

Sarcasm and black humor are fine, but taken to that level is just kinda unnecessary. And less funny.
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leeroysphitz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 01:00 PM
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40. Ironically enough I was actually switched at birth with a freeper baby
so I could, years later, infiltrate D.U. and disrupt lounge threads.

Almost poetic donchathink?
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DS1 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 01:03 PM
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41. If only there were an original sock-puppet who you could kill
and then marry his sock-puppet wife.
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leeroysphitz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 12:37 PM
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28. A troll? Come on. It's just an intentionally silly reply to an intentionally silly
thread. Lighten up Francis.
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Zuiderelle Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 01:24 PM
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45. It would be funnier if it was funny.
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DS1 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-10-07 03:03 PM
Response to Reply #45
51. awwww
(insert picture of crying baby here)
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leeroysphitz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Nov-11-07 10:58 PM
Response to Reply #45
60. So would you.
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Guaranteed Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-12-07 12:02 AM
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61. I thought it was funny.
Just very dry, is all.
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truedelphi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 12:39 PM
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30. I envy you your understanding towards the hospital and also
Your decision to raise two children instead of one.

Both kids are loved and very lucky, is my bet.
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Phillycat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 12:45 PM
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32. Yeah, he's lying. Because it's "funny", apparently.
:eyes:
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leeroysphitz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 12:49 PM
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34. Please refer to reply number 28.
Sheeesh... and so forth.
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truedelphi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 12:54 PM
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36. When you do have a baby that ends up switched at birth - don't come to me
with your complaint!!
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leeroysphitz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 12:56 PM
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39. Lol. It'll serve me right. nt
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truedelphi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 12:52 PM
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35. My belief in DU is utterly destroyed.
Here was a topic on the Lounge that I could believe in. I was about to stat knitting baby booties for Pete's sake!
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leeroysphitz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 12:55 PM
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38. You better not be trying to make any jokes in that reply without
telling everyone, cuz' if you are then that makes you an evil troll and a liar. :)
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truedelphi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 01:12 PM
Response to Reply #38
44. Those who call me a troll and liar will
Get no BABY BOOTIES from me!
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DarkTirade Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-10-07 02:32 PM
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47. What if you just get called a troll OR a liar? Will they still get baby booties?
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truedelphi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-10-07 03:02 PM
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50. In that case they will NOT get
One of the booties that makes up a pair!
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DarkTirade Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-10-07 05:22 PM
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54. Ooh... evil.
I like it. :)
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truedelphi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-10-07 10:27 PM
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55. And I won't E-E-E-ven say
What will lurk inside of the bootie that they do get!
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Breeze54 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-08-07 08:28 PM
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11. Absolutely would want my natural child back!
Because he's mine! He's blood! He's family!!

Now...if he was 33 when it was discovered, that might change things! :P

But that would depend on him and how he feels.

But I'd still want to meet him and make a connection.

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BelleCarolinaPeridot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-08-07 08:29 PM
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12. That would be totally impossible with my mom and I ...
because I look just like her.
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Oeditpus Rex Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-08-07 09:03 PM
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13. You been watchin' the Dick Van Dyke Show?
:shrug:
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TheCentepedeShoes Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-08-07 09:31 PM
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14. Oh gods
that was a funny episode.
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mwooldri Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-08-07 09:41 PM
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15. Tough question. never faced with that one.
I have a son, yes but the OB-GYN hit the blue emergency button just as he was born. I followed him and pretty much never left my view or someone else's (who I trust) view.

If the situation were to occur where my baby was switched at birth it would be hard to let go of whoever I had bonded with and having funny feelings about bonding with someone who I hadn't set eyes on before.

However there are thousands if not millions of people who do this with more grown children (stepfathers and stepmothers) on a regular basis and manage to get along fine.

Mark.
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Ellen Forradalom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 12:32 AM
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16. What if I didn't keep my receipt?
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Rosemary2205 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Nov-11-07 02:02 AM
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57. Best answer ever.
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Monk06 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 01:08 AM
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17. I would have much preferred a situation where my wife was switched at birth.


My kids were magic. She on the other hand
was an obsessively jealous control freak
who really didn't like men very much. (No
I'm not saying she was a man hating lesbian.)
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dpbrown Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 01:14 AM
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18. Yes

There is nothing like knowing that my genes run through her veins.
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bridgit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 01:15 AM
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19. no, i'd make the *new* little freak-izoid join Cirque Du Soleil cause mommy needs...
booze & fresh cig's http://www.cirquedusoleil.com/CirqueDuSoleil/en/default.htm :thumbsup:
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Shell Beau Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 12:22 PM
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24. I haven't a clue! That is toughie!
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DS1 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 12:27 PM
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25. I wouldn't have the heart to make someone else raise a mini-me
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BlueIris Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 12:44 PM
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31. Probably not. I would consider the baby I had raised from birth my "natural" child.
Also, I would think that it might be less traumatic for the children to remain with their familes. You know, the ones who had raised them.
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Pithlet Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 12:47 PM
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33. I know this is the lounge, but I'll answer seriously.
If I found that out right now, I'd want to just leave things alone. If I'd found out a few days after the accidental switch I'm sure I'd want to switch back. But not now, years after the fact.
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Parche Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 01:03 PM
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42. You Watching Young And The Restless Again?
:shrug: :hi:
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Fire Walk With Me Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-09-07 01:06 PM
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43. Interesting possibility that we would love what is ours more than what is yours.
Until we know which is which.

One goal is to love all things equally. This would imply that we are indeed capable of doing so.
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NewWaveChick1981 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-10-07 02:37 PM
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48. I have no idea. But I was almost switched at birth.
Some weird coincidences (same sex, same last name, similar initials, born within three minutes of each other) led the hospital staff to bring the wrong baby to my mother. My dad had seen me immediately after I was born, and I had no hair. He told Mom all about me, so when the nurses brought Mom the other baby (who had a head full of hair), they thought she was crazy until they checked the wrist bracelet carefully. There's no doubt I made it home with the right parents---I'm the spitting image of my mother. :)
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Bucky Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-10-07 03:00 PM
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49. I would breathe a sigh of relief.
I'd probably just hang on to the one I took home, however. She's annoying, but she's 17 and I'm kinda stuck with her.
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cuke Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-10-07 03:03 PM
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52. Nah!!! Where I come from, there's not much difference between one and another
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Mojorabbit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-10-07 03:19 PM
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53. Your guidance counselor told you that to make you feel better
:)
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rebecca_herman Donating Member (494 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Nov-11-07 01:29 AM
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56. Depends on when you find out...
A few days after the birth? Pretty sure I'd want to switch the babies back and raise my biological child.

Years later? Nope. I'd have been raising the child and would presumably think of he or she as my own.

I don't have kids yet though, so that's just my guess how I'd feel.
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