Are most of your friends of the same gender as you?

I'm one of those women who finds it very difficult to form close friendships with other women. Pretty much all of my best friends have been guys. So if you don't mind indulging my curiosity--have most of your "close" friends been of the same gender as you, the opposite, equally both, or something else? I'm not counting spouses/partners here, for the sake of focusing on the "non-romantic friendship" aspect.

I'm a prickly bastard.

I've never had more than three or four male friends at a time.

more online.

It used to be more male than female. Then I started really examining my own latent sexism, notions of male supremacy, male approval, and watching my own interactions a little closer made me realize I had some amazing women in my life who I was undervaluing just from habit.

I've never understood why women are comfortable around me.

Some of my closest female friends have told me I have a strong feminine side; they see me as a big sister. :shrug:

It is a strange situation for me, since I am straight, married with children, and strongly attracted to females. So there's no latent gay sexuality driving this feminine side. It is more of a thinking modality than sexual orientation.

It is just puzzling to me.

When I was younger, almost all my closest friends were male. (I'm female) It was a matter of common interests turning into deeper friendship, and I had a lot of stereotypically "guy" interests, so that just happened to be who I mostly associated with.

As I get older, it moves closer to 50/50.


Heee, I have this one friend who was the only male at his own bachelor party. :D

understands that she has no reason to feel insecure because of that.

Redstone

One of my closest friends, who I frequently hang out with, is an ex-boyfriend that I'd been with for 13 years. My current boyfriend thinks it's great that he's a good friend of mine. (My boyfriend from college is also a good friend of mine.)

Guys tend to just annoy me.

my best friends are of the same sex.

on edit: Even though I have some really close guy friends I can never really truly feel
comfortable with them...everyone of them has made it clear they would like to "jump my bones".
The sexual tension is always there beneath the service.

I have always been able to relate better to women, whether straight or gay. But I have had and still do have a few men that I consider good friends. I am not a man-hating lesbian at all. I just happen to relate better to women, and women are my preference as far as relationships are concerned.

Just because of the job, I think. I'm pretty much a loner (w/ my wife, if that makes sense), so that effects it, too...

...unless they're cats, of course.

But I don't get along too well with "guys." I can talk about Guy Stuff like cars and sports and power tools, but not only that; it gets boring, and there's a kind of pressure in it that I really dislike.

The guys I count as my friends are the same; we talk about lots of different things, and I can be myself with them instead of having to operate on borrowed testosterone.

of course, some of them - men and women - became my friends because they're married to someone who was already a friend. But of the currently single people, it's about even.

But I guess I'd say my closest friends were females.

:wtf:

hence more female friends since I don't socialize a lot outside of work.

Mark.

"Who doesn't?"

:hide:

I don't really "get" a lot of other women, and they don't get me either.

When I was focusing on music, and in orchestra, most of my friends were women. When I worked in a warehouse I hung out with guys a lot more.

For the most part I find that I get along with bisexuals, straight women and gay men better than lesbians and straight men though. Not sure why. I don't think it has anything to do with my own sexual preferences, or whether people are datable or not. I've had plenty of friends who I didn't consider to be datable at all. It's probably just because my mindset isn't at all like an 'average' guy's mindset. Nor are my priorities or interests along the same lines. Also, I don't know many lesbians, so maybe I just tend to get along with people who are not straight men better than people who aren't.

I mean, there just aren't that many straight guys who you can take a road trip with and sing along with broadway show tunes the whole way. :)

have mostly been male