My friend visited. Got drunk. Passed out. My puppy chewed her new glasses.

I offered to pay and she took me up on it. $600.

Man. Right before the holidays, too. Stoopid puppy.

and I have those frameless frames.

I mean shouldn't they have some responsibilty for such expensive glasses - like a glass case? Or did the puppy just pull them off his/her face? Even for my glasses, which were pricey cept I have insurance, I still make sure I put them somewhere safe or just not wear them if I suspect I might be drinking heavily.

I think a contribution towards the glasses was fine but why should you be responsible for his/her inability to put the glasses somewhere safe. It's a puppy and everyone knows puppies chew things.

And if she has new glasses, depending on where she got them, she might get free replacement - or maybe just a new frame if the lenses are still intact.

I applaud for having the integrity to be willing to cover the cost of something your pet destroyed - not many pet owners, sadly, seem to be honest as you - but I think you might have some options to look at before you cough up the $600.

She's a social guest. Technically, the only duty you owe her is to warn of known and hidden dangers. She's the one that got hammered and passed out. That is unless you live in the Kingdom of California which has weird rules for everything.

You should shortly be receiving your bill for the Malibu fires.

I personally stand to make a hauling from the Santiago Canyon Fire.

It's not like she handed them to you and then you deliberately destroyed them.

She failed to take proper care of one of her possessions while in your home. She shares responsibility for the damage.

Give her $300 and call it square.


Or did you give them to the puppy while she was horking her schnapps in the bathroom?

She is constantly trying to play the wine-snob with me by forcing that bucket made swill on me.

This is her fault not yours.

backs?

I'm talking..this tattoo covers half of her back. Birch trees, moonlight, howling wolves. The whole 9.

it was pleasant enough. helped to pass the time once or twice.

:eyes:

It's not a matter of paying for glasses at this point, it's a matter of paying to keep your honor.

;-)

if you haven't paid then STOP.

Unless you happen to be wealthy enough to have $600 lying around then you need to mention to her that she brought the bad wine and passed out. She was the one irresponsible for her glasses.

I think even $300 is a stretch but that's the most I would offer. She needs to take responsiblity too

Yeah, hang-on, I'm on the telephone with the bank. I want to see if they will accept integrity and honor as a mortgage payment.

He agreed to pay in a moment of weakness out of a sense of common, but misplaced, liberal guilt. She fully took advantage of it. Now he knows better.

When it's the principle and not the money that matters, it is because the money matters. I doubt either of them can easily afford $600.

The words were said, not to follow through is going back on those words.

But that is the way I was raised.

Being a host meant making sure that EVERYTHING was fine and dandy for your guest.

Lesson learned.

Sorry, but this feudal personal honor crap doesn't change anything. Powerful people came up with that centuries ago to justify peonage and debt imprisonment. There is nothing morally absolute about words. They are not magic. They do not make wrong right. Ones moral compass should be based on right and wrong and not the idea that a hasty word immutably makes the unjust right for all time. What a load of crap. Put it another way, if the drunken visitor is really his friend, would she really want to be paid out of some notion of honor while knowing that the OP resents it because it isn't right? He should just tell her how he feels about it and go from there.

Here's an anecdote:
A wife wakes up at night to find her husband pacing. After an inquiry he says that he owes the neighbor $5000 and he cannot pay it back. The wife then telepones the neighbor an tells him. "There, now he can pace all night and you can sleep."

That would have been a lifetime of you paying out.

She should take a little responsibility for not keeping up with her stuff and go dutch at minimum.

:shrug:

:shrug: Not sure how that's your responsibility, but you were generous to offer to pay. :)

own up to that instead of bilking you for $600.

I say you shouldn't pay her until after the holidays. :(

but it was MY fault both times for laying them down where she could get at them.

what ever happens when drunk is the drunks responsibility. It's the unwritten code of law of the bottle.

So I'm going to disagree with most of the thread and agree with you that you should pay. And that you're being an honorable person and doing the right thing.

That said, why not ask her if you can do half now and half later or something? Like you said, it IS right before the holidays.

Also, looking into your homeowner's / renter's insurance is not a bad idea. You may be able to claim for acts of Dog. :rofl: :rofl: (I crack me up sometimes, I'm so funny.)

and was only trying to help.

But I agree, you are doing the proper thing

Question-what the hell are the glasses made out of Milk bone???

I have worn glasses for over 50 years and my 3 boys have all worn glasses.
They are pretty sturdy. Can see maybe frames getting messed up a bit but the lenes?????

I would take them back to the eye glass joint and have a shit fit.

If that happened at my home I would have offered to pay half. After all, your friend is responsible for getting drunk, and knew in advance that there was a puppy in the house. She should have taken some precaution with her glasses. :(

But I totally understand why you're eating the whole cost, and once you've offered you certainly can't back out of it. And that is a lot of money to have to shell out, and it will put a damper on the holidays. :(

:hug:

The vet bill came to $600.00, so now you're even.

She needs to learn the phrase "assumption of risk".

I think you are partly to blame, maybe even mostly. I don't think you are on the hook for the whole $600. I'd have offered to split the cost with her, maybe gone up to $400.

You want to keep this relationship? Really? Why?

Second thought: Don't pay. If she chooses to try to force the issue, that's on her, I guess, but short of retaining an attorney whose fees would far, far outweigh the cost of replacing the glasses, I don't think she can force you to pay for her irresponsibility. It's not your fault she got so drunk she lost control of her faculties and it's not your fault your dog ate her property.

I'd say she took advantage of you.
Duckie

BUT I would sure be thinking about maintaining the friendship. She is taking advantage.

Would probably save you a boatload. My new glasses there were $160 versus $300 at Four Eyes.

Your friend in turn should offer to mitigate the cost since a)she may be able to get replacement frames only, b) she's the one who didn't store them in a safe place knowing that there was a puppy in the house. If she doesn't offer to pay half, she's either broke or selfish but she has a good friend.

Maybe the puppy says She was drunk and chewing on her glasses and offered me a bite

The OP could send the check inside a card containing that caption.

you will let your friend take the dog for walks 1/2 the time and feed the animal 1/2 the time...seems fair to me!

otherwise . . .

believe it or not, they made a claim on their home owners and they PAID!!!!

Redstone