long distance relationships

anyone ever had a long distance romance/relationship? How did you make it work? Or did it fizzle because you didn't see eachother a lot?

i was in no shape to make a commitment and neither were they

if it was due to crash and burn, distance just helps it along.
I don't know anyone involved in one who doesn't see other people though, so flexibility is key.

really good at phone sex :evilgrin:

or, an internet webcam link, even better :wow:

What, I can dream.

I'd say nice try but you missed the mark entirely, so... bad try?

Were you intending to say the thread would fizzle?

Is that what you were trying to say?

Congratulations on working that out.

are your own. Good luck, nonetheless.

I dunno why I'm so pissy today.

until he moved to NY from Cali and we got married :)

with DUer, actually, and it's working out very well. We see each other every couple of months, and talk every day. I think part of what makes it work so well is that neither one of us is rushing toward anything, and we usually know the date we'll see each other again by the time a visit is over. So we always have something to look forward to. :D :hi:

lived on opposite coasts. Me in California, her in Maryland.

Worked out fine, we are together 12 years in the very same place, married for 8 now.

And we're learning not to mind the 5-hour drive so much. So far, it's beyond great. What you have (or not) in the relationship can transcend the distance; this is much better than any "in-town" relationship I've ever had. Ever.

We see each other every 2 weeks, btw.

because it's still a long distance relationship, and it's never going to be anything else. Long Distance isn't a problem for a while, but either you get together at some point or you cut loose.

and I'm visiting her tomorrow, and I'm a nervous wreck.

We met as Internet penpals, penpals turned to phonecalls, phonecalls turned to mail packages, turned to meeting in person. This turned into a quick proposal and few more meetings and eventually marriage.

Constant contact, reaching out in other ways that you can and staying committed is what it took.

Because eleven months after we met online, I moved out to be with her. We saw each other twice during that time.

We never had any trouble making it work. It was just the way it was. :shrug:

Thankfully, we'd been together for 8 years before we took separate continents for our careers so we had a very solid and wonderful relationship first.

It's tough being apart, but we're also both committed enough that it works for us, and both too lazy to go look for someone else (plus neither has any desire to look for someone else), so that also works for us.

The distance was only 4 hours, from Maine to Massachusetts...
Lasted several months, he brought most of his belongings here...
Our goal was to live together...We started out seeing each other every weekend....but I always had that 'feeling' that something just wasn't right. I felt like I was clipping his wings...have never met such a free spirit and that's what I loved about him....I just had to cut him loose before the storm....Saw him for the last time a couple of weeks ago when he came back to pick up his stuff....I'm still numb. Never again.

I read the sweet posts about how things worked out and are beautiful....
He said he thought the distance was too much for me to deal with....I guess he was right.
I don't know.....I guess I wanted all or nothing.


peace~