A Question for DU Couples That Live Together Re Using The Toilet

Do you let your S.O. walk into the bathroom with you as you use the toilet?

There are some things I still consider private.

i cured him of that real quick

i have had 4 home births. he has had 2 op surgeries. and those are just the fun times. taking a pee? let me just say- you don't sound ready for marriage.

Been together 24 years with only 1
bathroom in the house.

I would venture to say that there aren't too many homebirth mmamas here on DU. Anyone who has given birth at home will recognize the special importance the toilet has in a home birth! Also nursing family members through extreme illnesses makes one immune to bathroom niceties.

Besides which, my dogs and cats pretty much ensure that no door stays closed for long unless I'm willing to endure deep claw marks while I'm sitting there....

I swing the door shut not latched, and if someone comes in what's to see anyway? The side of my thigh? No biggie.

lots of folks here who think that m.d. means made by the devil, or something. you didn't have yours with homefirst, did ya?
one of the docs had a motto- good births make good families, bad births make bad families. might be a little wiggle room in the cause and effect there, but i had one in the hospital, and divorced that guy shortly thereafter. this one has been around for 25 years. having them at home is a really different animal. and yeah, the toilet- the last one almost landed there! funny how well worn that path gets by number 5!

but SOME of us are.

I really think it's a matter of personal preference, isn't it?

:hi:

i just can't make sense of that kind of feeling. i am that way in general, wysiwyg. can't for the life of me figure out what use the rest of it is. been raked over too many coals in my life to care about insubstantial things. fight about the things that are real. let the rest be. :shrug:

Obviously you are very comfortable with it, and that's cool. It's also cool that I'm not, I believe.

and as such, goes pee-pee and poo-poo on the potty. I can see no reason to pretend otherwise. I may not go in there to hang out, but I'm not going to freak out about it...

I know it's weird, but we don't consider that the other one even does that.

Maybe it's because we were both only children, but the bathroom is private and totally off limits while in use.

It is okay to enter the bathroom if the other is in the bath or shower, though.

:freak:

but he's really the one with the complex about it, not me...but I'm fine with the arrangement.

I don't think it's a big deal but the SO views it otherwise. Having said that, I wouldn't make a habit of it because I grew up in a large family and time in the bathroom was the ONLY time I was able to have guaranteed alone time, if only for a few minutes.

I think if you are more comfortable being by yourself, then that is the way it should be. I am more comfortable being by myself. It is all a matter of personal preference.

It's unavoidable.

You are shaving at the mirror and she comes in and sits on the toilet to pee....then you know you're married...

...you have to go real bad? The men's line is moving faster than the women's line, so when you finally get your turn, your wife rushes in the door with you, so she can take a leak. It's kind of like that in real life. Peeing while the "SO" is in the same room ain't that bad. Now, if we're talking about taking a crap, then that's a different subject...

if they are closed a knock is appropriate

but they usually are never closed

But we have lots of bathrooms, so it's not usually a problem...

And yes, he watched me give birth!

And we've been married for well over a decade.

I've done my share of doing all the bathroom stuff women do with no privacy whatsoever (thanks, US Army!) with other women sitting directly opposite to me, eye to eye, with no barriers. I didn't shrivel up and die, it was what it was, but I still prefer privacy.

I see some talk here about how you aren't ready for marriage if you can't watch each other use the toilet, but the way I see it is different. I figure you aren't ready for marriage if you aren't willing to respect each other's boundaries. If you are trying to bully them into doing something they clearly aren't comfortable with, that's the time to assess whether you are ready for marriage. One attitude about toilet viewing is not inherently better or worse than the other, just not respecting the others' wishes is bad.

I'm in my mid 40's, and I still prefer to spit toothpaste in private.

If I waited til I got over that to be in a relationship, the only relationship I'd ever have is with the staff of the geriatric ward.

from one another. Also, she doesn't want me to watch when she puts a tampon in. As IF!... :eyes:

and I still have no evidence that she's ever pooped - not even once.

that we women don't do that? :shrug:

And when they do, it smells like violets.

Not mine...

:yoiks::nuke:

Whichever is in season. :)

you're sitting there taking a dump and your wife comes in and starts brushing her teeth.

But for the last 14 years we've had his 'n her bathrooms.
I can leave the seat up all the time.
Well, except for about once a day.
TMI?
;-)

I've lived with two people as a couple, and at the beginning of the relationships I wouldn't let them in the bathroom while I used the toilet. Eventually the comfort level with those people did up there, though. :D

We call her the Potty Monitor. I fear the day she does her trick when we have company.

My sweety & I will sometimes come in when the other is in shower if a potty break is required. We are getting on in years and sometimes we don't wanna make a dash downstairs to the basement water closet.

but we each have our own bathrooms. :hi:

On rare occasions, we've peed in the same room- i.e. usually one's in the shower and one pees, but for anything more, no. We were both married before to people who seemed to not care when it came to that and to me, well, it's personal. I'm a nurse and I deal with human bodily function stuff all day. I'm the opposite of repressed. But I don't prefer to "shit where I fuck". In other words, there's some things that I don't want to experience with someone I'm also sexually involved with. I think it makes you too familiar and it's like saying, "You're so NOT special to me that you can just smell my poop and watch me do it." Please. :eyes:

:D

...and mine or her time in the bathroom is certainly one of those.

There's just a point where I draw the line.

we share. It's no big deal to me. :shrug: