Can I get some opinions here! ~ N, S, E. W?

Breeze54

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Tue Jan-01-08 05:42 PM
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Can I get some opinions here! ~ N, S, E. W?

Edited on Tue Jan-01-08 05:43 PM by Breeze54

This is the big question!!

Long story short; My ex and I shared custody (I'm being nice about it)

and now the boys are in their late twenties. Both have talked about getting

married BUT I think they're holding back due to me and their Dad.

I don't want that to happen but how do I go AND avoid that bastard??

I feel violent when I hear his name.

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SeattleGirl

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Tue Jan-01-08 05:48 PM
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1. You have to suck it up and go.

Not trying to be nasty or anything, but weddings belong to the bride and groom. Avoid your ex as much as possible, but if he comes and finds you, bite your tongue and get away from him asap.

And who knows? Maybe he would want to avoid you also.

Focus on your boys and their brides, and try not to let the nasty feelings you have for your ex get in the way.

My best to all of you.

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Breeze54

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Tue Jan-01-08 05:55 PM
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4. Good advice ....I'll ponder that...

When my son was deployed to Iraq.... :cry:

That day... he left I didn't know it then but

my ex had bowed out of the send off... so I could be there.

That sounds sweet but it pisses me off!! :grr:

Why?

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auntAgonist

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Tue Jan-01-08 05:50 PM
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2. you rise above it.

Wedding days are about the Bride and Groom. Hopefully the day would go smoothly and everyone would have a good time. :)

aA

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Fleshdancer

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Tue Jan-01-08 05:53 PM
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3. Swallow the anger and pretend all is well

It sucks, but that's the only fair thing to do for your sons and soon to be daughters. :hug:

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Breeze54

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Tue Jan-01-08 06:01 PM
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5. You made me cry when you said; "soon to be daughters"

:cry:
I'm very emotional sometimes. I'm sorry.

Thanks to you all! :cry:

I will think about what you said!

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Fleshdancer

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Tue Jan-01-08 06:11 PM
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6. you're talking to the queen of tears!

Your tribe is growing and it's a pretty intense thing. :hug:

You mentioned up thread that you were pissed off at your ex for not going to the send off for your son so that you could go. Now I know nothing about him or what happened, but it seems like he's in a no-win position with you. Perhaps swallowing the hurt is not enough...it sounds like you would benefit from releasing the anger. Hope I'm not being overly intrusive by saying this...

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AlCzervik

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Tue Jan-01-08 06:32 PM
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7. it's their day and not yours. Go and be happy for them.

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