I must ask, is it strange ... - Democratic Underground

Akoto

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Thu Jan-10-08 12:57 PM
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I must ask, is it strange ...

... that I don't want to get married? Surely, I must not be the only one. :shrug:

My family won't leave me alone about it. Nagging me about dating, asking why I wouldn't want to have kids, etc. Is it so hard to believe that one could be alone (with friends) and be happy?

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OneGrassRoot

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Thu Jan-10-08 01:01 PM
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1. Not at all...

I think anyone who's been married - and divorced - thinks you're being very wise.

;-)

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Fleshdancer

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Thu Jan-10-08 01:04 PM
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2. I don't think so

It bothers me to hear non-married people being pestered about marriage. I also get annoyed at childless people being pestered about parenthood.

It's up to us individually to know what is right for ourselves. I can't imagine telling someone how they should live their life. Live the way you want to live.

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Droopy

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Thu Jan-10-08 01:05 PM
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3. It's definitely considered abnormal in our society

I'm 35 and I've never been married. I have no desire to get married and/or have kids. My family used to nag me about it, too, until they finally realized that I was telling the truth when I said I'm happy being single. They've all just come to terms with my weirdness I guess. I'm not a hermit, however (nothing against hermits, mind you ;)), I do enjoy the company of friends and family.

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Akoto

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Thu Jan-10-08 01:07 PM
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5. I'm the same way.

I'm not a hermit, but I'm just genuinely happy being alone and maintaining friendships. A guy's gotta be happy, right?

I suppose I just needed to vent about it. They've even gone so far at times as to inquire about my sexual orientation, since I don't date!

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Droopy

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Thu Jan-10-08 01:14 PM
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7. Don't go messing your happiness to please someone else

It's much better to be alone and happy than to be hitched and miserable.

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dropkickpa

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Thu Jan-10-08 01:07 PM
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4. I'd rather eat razor-blade cocktails

Than get married.

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Akoto

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Thu Jan-10-08 01:11 PM
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6. Well ...

At least I know you're firmly on my side. ;)

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KitchenWitch

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Thu Jan-10-08 02:02 PM
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10. are you divorced?

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dropkickpa

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Thu Jan-10-08 02:08 PM
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11. Never married

Never wanted to be. It just never appealed to me. I never dreamed of a wedding day when I was little girl (I hate wearing dresses). My parents have been happily married for almost 39 years. I MIGHT live with someone (in sin, of course :evilgrin:), but that would be it. I hate sharing my space, and having a kid is more than enough of that for me.

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KitchenWitch

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Thu Jan-10-08 02:18 PM
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12. Gotcha, I knew you had a child, just made the incorrect assumption

that you had been married.

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dropkickpa

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Thu Jan-10-08 04:08 PM
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14. That's okay

Edited on Thu Jan-10-08 04:29 PM by dropkickpa

My marriage aversion often makes people think I must have been previously married :rofl: Which only strengthens my aversion!!

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BelleCarolinaPeridot

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Thu Jan-10-08 01:17 PM
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8. No because I feel the same way.

Edited on Thu Jan-10-08 01:18 PM by CarolinaPeridot

Right now I would rather have kids than get married because love with another person on level of intimacy is a fucking joke ::I am bitter::

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formerrepuke

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Thu Jan-10-08 01:18 PM
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9. The only thing 'strange' is that people keep asking you about it...

..its like asking married people when they're going to get a divorce, or asking fat people when they're going to lose weight. Really, expecting you to conform to a narrow(er) definition of what others find 'normal' is unfair. As one who is not married, I finally began asking (with levity) the above questions in response to the "whenyagettinmarried?" queries.. Nobody bothers me with it any more.

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Orsino

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Thu Jan-10-08 02:33 PM
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13. Not strange.

No one's business. Once you've state your position, that should by you a few years' peace, at least.

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Fire Walk With Me

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Thu Jan-10-08 04:28 PM
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15. Collect clips from Futurama of Amy's parents pestering her about grandchildren.

And play them whenever the subject comes up.

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