So Today She Told Me She Now Has A Lawyer...

and we talked about it some...

she said her lawyer told her that since we'd been separated in the eyes of the law in our state for 18 months at least, that unless either of us contests anything, it won't have to go to court.

(divorce)

Who lives in a city 2 hours away. However, she practices here sometimes too. :shrug:
So she will get me the contact information for my attorney since this is not the one she was going to hire.

Joint custody... looking more promising... have to iron out the details of our agreement on this.

Property... whatever...I just am not very concerned about it right now.

Finances...will work that out over the next few months.

Theoretically this could all be over by the end of summer.

I wish I could say this felt "good", it feels sad, and it is what it is.

We both agree it is time to move it along and get things finished though.

Just thought I'd share that with y'all.

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I'm not celebrating, rather sad about this, and some other things. It's all kind of hitting me at once.

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Sorry, endings just suck.

that we both think things ended a while back, it still is not so much fun.

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:hug: I should goose you to make you feel sexy at least.

Thanks, I don't feel too sexy right now :hug:

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What KW said, and let me add remember to care about your boy, yourself, and your property division in that order.

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like I said, the rest... whatever

I don't want to take it bent over, but he is the priority.

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make sure you don't get fucked

and I won't get fucked... :D

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And that joint custody looks promising.

Hang in there...remember, one day at a time. :-)

gotta remember that, one minute at a time sometimes

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I went through this (no kids) a couple of years ago. It is hard to deal with and to be reminded of your failures. Not to mention when you see her and think, "Why am not still in love with her"?

my parents were married for 50 years before my mother died.

I have a feeling of failure.

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you know, don't you that . . .





we've all got your back!!

thanks Bullwinkle

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I'm here for you...

You know it too...

Love ya, babe...

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Won't say why.

Wishing you the best.

it is

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At least it seems to you that things are going as well as they could, considering the circumstances.

I have a cousin who's going through a divorce right now, and her husband (who was cheating on her) is being a real dick and trying to sue her for some kind of financial support for causing him "emotional damage". uh-huh.

sounds like you could have it a lot worse. good luck, all the same.

It could be worse

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My uncle had given him a job, just because he was married to his daughter, and I think the guy was too stupid to realize that he was getting paid far more than he was worth, just so my uncle's grand kids wouldn't starve. A real dummy.

suing her for what? OMG... I'm in disbelief :P

She's a stay at home mom, and I'm pretty sure that her parents still legally own the house she and the kids live in, since they gave it to them - some people are completely nuts.

edit to add: nuts, and greedy.

nuts and greedy

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on the path to resolution. Hoping all goes well under the circumstances. I know that you have your son's needs in mind, but don't forget to take care of yourself too.

Divorce is not a failing. It's just taking another path.

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another path...

I'm trying to take care of myself as well...

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You are braver than me.

bravery is not so much what I feel right now

mostly numbness and sad

and the reality is that we've been done for a while, just making it official.

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no it doesn't feel good
even though you know its for the best.....

I go back to my lawyer on the 14th.. I was wondering today
why I get to do all the work... :(

and yes
I feel like a failure


I don't envy you though. I am so grateful my kids are all old enough and I don't have to worry about visitation .
Yeah it's killing them but its a lot easier
I hope, like you said above, that the custody goes easy

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no it doesn't feel good

and its very hard with a young kid

but life is full of hard things

we will just have to hammer it out and then we get to tell him as well :(

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it's a hell of a lot easier to get married than it is to get "unmarried"

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Good luck slogging through the details. :hug:

and no theoretical aspect to it now

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..with my (now) ex-wife.

It's not such a sad feeling as...um...an Uncomfortable one. :)

Good Luck and happiness to Ya.

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In your post your state that property will be taken care of later and finances are currently being worked on.

Please do not give up what you are entitled to in order to get through this quickly. I made the mistake that many other men have made. Give up property and cash and valuable assets that you have a real equitable interest in. WHen the smoke clears you will still have bills and expenses and unforseen financial obligations. If things are truly going to be decent between the two of you (and you should try to get along for the kids) you have to be on equal footing.

Having to clean up bad debts and dented credit is hard enough, it is even harder while under the cloud of heartache.

Get your own lawyer, have your interests taken care of, accept nothing less the joint custody and take care of your financial needs. Don't sell yourself short.

and she is looking out for my interests

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...are always beginnings, too.

Always.

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