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WritingIsMyReligion Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 02:43 PM
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Who here would rather not be around kids than be around them?
I'd never wish harm on children, particularly younger ones, but I just can't tolerate toddlers in particular for very long. I'm just not that great with children, until they're old enough to carry on conversations.

:)
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RebelOne Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 02:48 PM
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1. I am not little kid tolerant.
I prefer puppies and kittens.
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WritingIsMyReligion Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 02:49 PM
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2. Yeah, something about little animals bothers me less than little kids.
I dunno what it is. I'm trying to understand that. :shrug:
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MountainLaurel Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 03:30 PM
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18. The noise?
The smell?

:shrug:
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Maraya1969 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri May-23-08 12:22 AM
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39. If you picked up someone else's kid and started cuddling on him you would
be viewed with suspicion and also you have to deal with a protective mother all the time. Little puppies and kittens are open to be kissed and cuddled. Plus they're furry and love you right back.

But in general kids can annoy me pretty quickly. I love animals and I also love that you can leave them home alone.
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Iggo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 02:50 PM
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3. Kids of any age...I love 'em all.
They can all hold a conversation. You just have to speak their language. And yeah, it's a different language for every stage of life. Babies, toddlers, 5 yr olds, 10 yr olds, pre-teens, teenagers, and even college students all have their own languages.

Treat them as people who count as real people, and they'll have patience with you as you learn their language. This helps them to learn your language as well, and leads to more intelligent conversations at surprisingly early ages.
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TZ Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 02:52 PM
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4. I'm kind of the same way
But since my niece came along (she's now 4) I've gotten a little better.
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bertha katzenengel Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 02:53 PM
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5. my hand is raised
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Dangerously Amused Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 02:53 PM
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6. It totally depends on the kid.

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Iris Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat May-24-08 10:10 AM
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52. My first thought as well, but then I realized, it totally depends on the parent.
They set the tone.
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China_cat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 02:56 PM
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7. I don't care for them until they're housebroken and have manners.
I guess that starts at about age 25.
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stuntcat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 02:58 PM
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8. me
unless they're so closely related to me that I know them and love them.. other than that they're loud and unnerving, not usually too interesting either.
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Fleshdancer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 02:59 PM
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9. depends on the kid...same goes with adults.
Some people, young or old, are just tougher to be around than others.
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BlueJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 03:03 PM
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12. Ding Ding...We have Winner. I feel the same way.
I enjoy most kids....and then there's some that I have to get away from...(not their fault..But... :)
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AlCzervik Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 03:00 PM
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10. kids i like, some of their parents, not so much.
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quip Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 03:02 PM
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11. Hey, you kids! GET OFF OF MY LAWN!!!!
Just screamin'
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TZ Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri May-23-08 08:42 AM
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45. hey
Is your son 19 yet? I consider 18 to still be a child but 19...adult and therefore..fair game...:evilgrin: ;-)
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quip Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat May-24-08 08:02 AM
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49. Not until the fall, pev!
You will have to stalk him at his first year in college! :rofl: :hi:
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mike_c Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 03:06 PM
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13. I don't particularly enjoy children...
...unless they're bound and gagged.

Yes, I know we were all children once, and I fully own that the problem is mine, so I'm happy for kids to be kids-- I'd just prefer they not do it around me.
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graywarrior Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 03:09 PM
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14. Little bastards take all the attention away from me.
I hate them.










Well, I don't hate them exactly....I just can't compete with them.
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Sequoia Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 03:11 PM
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15. I love the little tykes. Toddlers are very cute.
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LisaM Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 03:12 PM
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16. I was going to ask what age! I love little kids.
I worked at a daycare for a few years, but the pay was terrible and no health insurance, so now I lavish as much time and attention as I can on nieces and nephews. I like spending time with them, and playing and reading to them. I recently had the opportunity to take a visiting niece (almost 4) and nephew (almost 2) to the Aquarium, and we had the best time! It was fun to watch the little boy string together a sentence: "Wook! Wook! Fish! Fish! Wook, yallow fish!"

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unpossibles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 03:21 PM
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17. for the most part, me and my wife
we don't hate kids, and some kids are very cute and smart and precocious, etc., but.... I'd just as soon not hang out with them either for the most part. Then again, a lot of adults get on my nerves too.
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Wcross Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 03:36 PM
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19. I don't care to be around children at all.
I avoid them if I can. I really don't care for their antics.
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applegrove Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 05:19 PM
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20. I love babies and toddlers. All kids really.
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ohiosmith Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 05:21 PM
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21. Kids creep me out. They're like human beings only smaller. And the younger they are the
weirder they smell.
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lightningandsnow Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 05:23 PM
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22. I'm kind of the opposite, actually.
I love little kids - I can kind of sink down to their level, I guess (I'm a Sesame Street fan...ha ha). However, I cannot stand most preteens between the ages of 8-12. (Unless they're really smart for their age, or very agreeable).
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some guy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 05:47 PM
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23. I'm getting better.
I used to not like children until they got to be about 4 or 5 years old.

Now - as long as they're not mine :scared: and as long as their parents are nearby (for when they get cranky or smelly) 'm okay with them. :)
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khashka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 05:53 PM
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24. I can deal with kids until
they hit school age. I can deal again when they are in high school. But between those - lock them up, or at least keep them away from me.


Khash.
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MsKandice01 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 06:14 PM
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25. I was never a big lover of kids...
I loved babies but toddlers annoyed me more often than not. And then I got pregnant.

I love my little guy more than anything but I'm still not the biggest fan of kids in general....even though I have softened up quite a bit. I do, however, try my best to make sure that he's on his best behavior in public and gets in other people's way as little as possible so as not to annoy others. I definitely realize that although I love my little guy to pieces, not everybody feels the same way. That said, most people we run into tend to just adore him.
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Jade Fox Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 07:35 PM
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26. I have less tolerance these days.....
for kids in public places. I don't know if people are getting worse at controlling their kids in public, or if I'm just getting crankier. I have even gone so far as to tell other people's children to knock it off when they're behavior seems truly unreasonable. It often works quite well. Directions kids will ignore coming from parents make them sit up and pay attention coming from a stranger.
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femmocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 08:52 PM
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27. Me. And I'm a teacher! LOL
By this time of the year, I have had enough of being around kids.

I wish the parents could see how their "little darlings" behave in school.
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NV Whino Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 09:47 PM
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28. Me
I'm allergic to children.
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hobbit709 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 09:52 PM
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29. Hairless howler monkeys
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kwassa Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri May-23-08 08:49 AM
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46. so that's a positive, right?.
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pitohui Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 09:55 PM
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30. i prefer not to be around them
Edited on Thu May-22-08 09:57 PM by pitohui
society being what it is, it just isn't a good idea to be around kids unless their parents are also present, considering how many teachers and coaches have been accused of molesting kids in my parish i sometimes wonder why anyone would be willing to do those jobs at all

i also agree that little kid's conversation is boring but no doubt my conversation bores them right back

i will say this, i'm personally AMAZED at how smart today's kids are how early -- those times i do get inveigled into conversation with kids i'm usually impressed
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Robeson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 09:58 PM
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31. I'm with you. That was one of the main attractions to my wife, and her with me...
...on our first date, we both mentioned how we never wanted kids.
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NMDemDist2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 09:59 PM
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32. I love kids, they taste kinda like CHICKEN!!!!
I keed I keed

:hide:


Nah, parental types can keep the childred, I'll pass, thank you very much.

there is a reason I'm 53 and childless......
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The Velveteen Ocelot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 10:01 PM
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33. I'm afraid I don't have much patience with small children,
especially in groups. I don't dislike kids, but until they get to be about 7 or 8 when it's possible to carry on some semblance of a conversation with them, after a little while I usually find myself wishing their parents would come and take charge of them.

On the other hand, I'm a total sucker for puppies and kittens.
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harmonicon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 10:01 PM
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34. I used to feel that way
Then I got to an age where I had friends with little kids, and then when I became an uncle a few years ago, it was over: I love kids, I just don't want my own (yet... for another decade or two, if ever).
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Withywindle Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 10:36 PM
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35. Me!
I don't have the same level of revulsion I used to, but whatever this mystical feeling of love and tenderness a woman is "supposed" to feel when she looks at is a small child is, I just don't have it.

Children are people, I guess. Like all people, some are supercool, some are vile little turds, most are in between. Meh.

The only ones I have any clue how to interact with are the ones who spend all their time with their noses in a book, like I did.
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Prisoner_Number_Six Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 10:40 PM
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36. I do a little nonprofit work at local preschool one day a month
I'm here to tell ya, a little goes a long way when it comes to four year olds, especially when they're in a herd.

Don't get me wrong- I love 'em all, but I truly pity the poor teachers who are there day after day after day after day...
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madeline_con Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 10:40 PM
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37. I work with middle schoolers, but the little ones freak me out. n/t
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Dark Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-22-08 11:27 PM
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38. I don't mind SOME kids. Others (the annoying ones) though, I cannot stand.
Edited on Thu May-22-08 11:27 PM by Dark
I have some spoiled cousins who annoy the hell out of me. but I love to spend time with my nieces.
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Lil Missy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri May-23-08 12:48 AM
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40. As I get older, I have less tolerance for children.
My sister has one monster child, that I totally cannot stand to be around. He has the attention deficit disorder, as well as many behavior disorders. He has been kicked out of several schools so far over the last 4 years, and he's only 7 now!

They have another son who is about 4 or 5 years old now, and he is the most sweetest and laid back kid, and very adorable and loving. However, I have a conflict about paying more attention to one over the other, so I just choke it down and treat them both equally.

I figure adults should be able to do that, anyway.
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Fox Mulder Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri May-23-08 12:48 AM
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41. I can't stand kids.
Edited on Fri May-23-08 12:51 AM by Fox Mulder
That's why I'll never have them.

And what pisses me off is some business will let their employees (who have kids) time off to see their kids' plays, ball games, and stuff like that whereas single people and childless people don't get that kind of time off. God forbid if I want time off to enjoy a play or watch a ball game. :eyes:
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My Good Babushka Donating Member (966 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri May-23-08 07:21 AM
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42. I never thought I'd be tolerant of kids
Then I had a few. Now I'm a natural kid wrangler. I don't know why that happened. Sometimes I do like to be alone, though.
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WinkyDink Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri May-23-08 07:49 AM
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43. Me.
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raccoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri May-23-08 07:51 AM
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44. I used to couldn't stand to be around kids. Now I can take them in small doses,
unless they're the bratty, obnoxious kind. (Nor to I like to be around adults of the bratty, obnoxious kind.)
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ScreamingMeemie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri May-23-08 09:10 AM
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47. I love my children, and those of my friends...because we've tended to
raise them with manners. As a teenager, I was never going to have children and then boom! Here ya go...and I had to take WannaB home, apparently. There have been times I haven't enjoyed them as much as some moms have... but they are well behaved and a part of me and my husband. I am grateful, now, that I have that. Which probably also makes me selfish as all hell in some ways.
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Midlodemocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri May-23-08 12:43 PM
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48. Love kids. All ages, shapes and sizes.
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat May-24-08 08:32 AM
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50. yeah me. i don't really enjoy the company of children.
that said -- it certainly doesn't keep my friends from asking me to baby sit when they want a night out -- and i do it.

then -- because of the whole gay=child molester thingy -- i never, ever spend time in the company of people with kids who i don't know.
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hippywife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat May-24-08 10:08 AM
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51. Don't like to be around them
for even a few minutes. I inherited my father's patience when it comes to kids so I'm sparing mine the horror of my childhood by not having them in the first place.

I just have a very low tolerance for noise of any kind, which is inherent with kids, and I like to be able to do what I want, when I want.
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MilesColtrane Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat May-24-08 11:50 AM
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53. Not just kids...
With me it's people in general.
Unless it's getting together with a few of my friends, I'm pretty much a hermit.

I don't mind my friends kids in measured doses.
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zanne Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat May-24-08 12:04 PM
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54. I feel a little guilty about not enjoying kids.
I knew from the time I was a kid that I didn't want any of my own. I think they're adorable and often very sweet and innocent, but I prefer them from a distance.
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