How Many Of You Gay DUers Want or Are Raising Children?

I'm asking this because I'd like to know if there are any gay DUers who want children or are in the process of raising them. I'd love to have children someday, and as my girl can attest, I get the maternal bug really bad sometimes. I'd like to hear your stories if possible.

A natural-born daughter to one of the women. Katie is a great kid, I think 12 or 13 now. Go for it. These women have a long-term committed relationship, and had been together years before they took this step.

probably within the next eight to ten years.

but I know a number of same-sex couples raising children very successfully.

Personally, I subscribe to Sam Austin's saying that homosexuality is God's way of insuring that the truly gifted aren't burdened by children.

Hadn't heard that one!

I have friends who are a lesbian couple, and are raising their own 9 year old daughter. They seem to all be doing well.

I believe they went with a.i., but I didn't want to pry.

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we (males) want to adopt. But first, we need to get financially situated: finish school, buy a home, find stable jobs, etc etc.

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It'll happen eventually. We're still pretty young.. :P

*sigh*

A perfectly respectable democractic heterosexual (if her current crushes are any indication).

My partner and I have been together the entire lifespan of our daughter. We look back and are so grateful for the opportunity to raise a child.

Once in a while we get the bug for another child, but I think this is gonna be the one and only for us.

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Last spring at a family reunion I had a great time teaching some of my cousins' children little songs on the piano. (I think some had never seen a man play the piano before--they were enthralled!) It was lovely. The next day, at breakfast with my parents and sister, we were talking about it and my dad blurted out that I would make a good daddy one day. Then he sort of realized what he'd said and we all had an uncomfortable moment of silence. How I wish I'd had the presence of mind to say I might want to be a daddy some day.

settle down and raise kids.

with my partner, for the last three years. (My partner and I have been together for six years). Brandon and Eugene were foster kids who needed a permanent home. They were 11 and 8 when they moved in. We decided to bring children into our home because we had a "nice" life and lots to offer. It was important, especially to my partner, that we try to adopt siblings because so often brothers and sisters are torn apart to live in different adoptive families.

Raising children has been the most difficult thing I have ever done. I had envisioned trips to museums and theaters, but most of the work is just making sure the boys are safe and keeping up with their homework. Luckily, our boys love going to the theater: musicals, drama, comedy and we have season tickets to at least one venue per year.

The domestic part can be a drag. My night life is shot. Alisa and I used to go on day trips, but the boys get bored antique shopping in small towns. It's been worth it, mostly, but I would think long and hard before doing it again.

friend so they can play video games while you go on day trips with your partner to keep up that romantic spark?

Please, not now, not ever. Our lives could have been miserable, trying to make peace between assorted broken families. Instead, we have each other.

Also, I have a 21 year old god-daughter and various nieces and nephews to quench my thirst for children.

Its a VERY small thirst.....

couples should have children. ;-)

Plus, our dog gets more direct attention, affection and guidance than most children in this town could dream of. Still, some people (myself cheerfully included) aren't made for parenthood and knowing what you want from life is the most important breakthrough...

you as their uncle :hi:

...because just last night during the three hours sleep I managed to get before I had to get up, I dreamt that Sapph and I adopted a three year old girl and a five year old boy.

I know I dreamt about this because of the Australian PM declaring war on gay adoption rights here in Oz, over the weekend, and it has been on my mind a lot.

Yes I would love to adopt a child or two. I know Sapph and I would make wonderful parents.

Sapph and I haven't really talked about raising a family apart from kitties yet, basically because we are so unsettled in our life at the minute. Once we are finally together forever though, I am sure we will be talking more about it.

Like you, I get the maternal bug as well, but my biological clock ran out for me when I was in my 20's and learned that a sickness I have has caused me not to ovulate. So if Sapph and I decide to have children we will most likely be adopting. :)

The maternal bug's bitten me really bad, and my poor girl has to bear the brunt of all the baby-talk coming from me. :P

...need to get together. Poor Sapph goes through it with me when it bites me real bad too. LOL

all she does is grin, and nod when I get carried away with talk about babies. ;-) *sigh* I really want a cute little slinker or a cute binary running around the house. ahhh, domestic empire dreams. :hi:

I was scared to death of kids. Being gay, I've always thought people wouldn't want to let me hold their kids in my lap. Kinda afraid they might thing I'm a pervert or something. So I haven't held many kids in my lap. I haven't told that many people over the years that I'm gay.

But my husband (now 17 years) had a previous marriage. A heterosexual marriage with a son. That son is now grown up and I've watched him grow up for many years.

And now my husband's son is married and has three kids.

And we're all close, and I've loved watching each and every one of their kids grow up. I feel lucky as hell to have this family!

I've held all of those three kids while they've been growing up and felt how wonderful it is to watch those precious babes. And no one has ever looked at me like I'm a pervert. They don't have those stupid prejudices. And it's been weird at times. Who am I? Grandpa's friend??.... The oldest is now eight years old and those difficult questions aren't too far in the future. But I think things will always be cool....

I don't think I ever wanted kids of my own. But I'm so delighted in having this family that I didn't expect. We're much closer than I'd ever imagined would be comfortable, but I love them so much...

My husband's son is a definite "nascar dad". And his wife is such a sweetheart... And the kids have been mostly wonderful. Though I do know what the "terrible twos" really means!! And there's the youngest still who is three, but hasn't yet shown too bad what a monster he can be!!!

So, short answer: Yes, I'd like to have kids,
but I'm content with the bunch of "grandkids" I have.

And they're coming down this weekend. Fun!!

Love to all,
barking_23

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