Should I be gracious, or "I told you so?"

So, the "lesbian" friend who was being snarky to me for being bi has come out as bi herself.

After I came out as bi after ending up in a relationship with a guy, she constantly made obnoxious biphobic remarks like "Eww, men!" or "Penis is groooosss." (Not just once or twice - all the time.) Oh yes, and implying I was a sellout.

Even after she slept with a guy, and I was like "hmm, maybe you're bi?" she kept this schtick up. I was like "Well, I consider myself bi because I can really have an emotional attachment to guys", she actually said "Bah, men!"

Now that she's come to this conclusion, should I:

a) Forgive her trespasses, since the poor dear was obviously trying to cover up her own insecurities,

or,

b) Tell her "Well, someone owes me an apology!"

(Seriously, I wouldn't be considering b if she hadn't been making said remarks all the time for months. Plus, she's been rather hostile in general, so I'm not particularly inclined to be generous right now.)

After you tell her "Well, someone owes me an apology!" :7

When the opportunity to be gracious presents itself... take it.

sometimes it's hard to accept who we are.

I probably wouldn't be friends with someone who's so quick to judge, period. She sounds like a shithead. I try to keep my shithead-friend count as low as possible.

From your description she sounds like a bit of an asshole.

be gracious, but cut this person loose.

It's the cool Zen thing to do

Forgive her, but tease every now and then. :)

:D

so be devine dahling!

to herself who she really is. Maybe she is confused. Take the high road whenever you can. It is hard to do, but, usually, it is the right thing to do.