I have a friend that's always too busy to get together with me

CreekDog

(1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore

Fri May-08-09 06:25 PM
Original message

I have a friend that's always too busy to get together with me

But you know what? I just realized that when we talk on the phone, she's always quoting from commercials, commercials that it takes me months to notice, if I even notice them at all.

Busy. :wtf: :eyes:

Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top

EFerrari

(1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore

Fri May-08-09 06:38 PM
Response to Original message

1. Maybe something else going on? Depression? Phobia?

Don't take it personally until she tells you you stink. :)

Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top

Rising Phoenix

(1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore

Fri May-08-09 06:42 PM
Response to Reply #1

2. In defense of your friend

I have bipolar and agoraphobia and often say I am busy because I am to embarrassed to say I'm scared or sick......not saying this is the case with your friend.....but there are reasons why people say they are busy when they are not....

Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top

CreekDog

(1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore

Fri May-08-09 06:52 PM
Response to Reply #2

4. I wasn't criticizing her and there are lots of reasons to believe this isn't the cause

I'm just laughing a little in thinking that I've been trying to get together and she's always saying "busy" and I finally realized that in all these conversations she'll always mention or quote the latest tv commercials.

So I was like, hmmmmmm... :dilemma:

I'm not upset about it, I don't think she is, it's just something I finally put together.

:D

Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top

Rising Phoenix

(1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore

Fri May-08-09 06:56 PM
Response to Reply #4

5. didn't mean to suggest you were criticizing her

just opening up ideas

Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top

CreekDog

(1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore

Fri May-08-09 07:01 PM
Response to Reply #5

8. it didn't bother me and it shouldn't have anyway

yes, i totally respect and accept that people will say "busy" for a bunch of reasons and that's their call and it is better than "i don't want to be around you" and it's also their choice if they don't want to share that they stay in because of depression.

but in this case (we have mutual friends) she is getting out quite a bit and keeping a busy schedule of fun and work. i'm just reading the writing on the wall here i guess.

Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top

LoveMyCali

(694 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore

Fri May-08-09 09:47 PM
Response to Reply #4

15. Maybe she is really busy

so if she gets an hour or two to herself she just wants to sit on the couch and veg out for awhile instead of having somewhere else she has to run to, that's the way I feel lately anyway.

Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top

CreekDog

(1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore

Fri May-08-09 11:22 PM
Response to Reply #15

16. she's keeping up with others

Somewhat anyway. That's the way it goes.

Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top

CreekDog

(1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore

Fri May-08-09 07:02 PM
Response to Reply #1

9. it could come to that

:rofl:

Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top

EFerrari

(1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore

Fri May-08-09 07:13 PM
Response to Reply #9

10. I get that from my favorite family members all the time

(Well, so far, not the stinky part!) Guess what, workaholics are rife in our family.

They all make me feel like an under-achiever because I have time to call them.

lol

Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top

(1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore

Fri May-08-09 06:44 PM
Response to Original message

3. Maybe she hates your "cat"

Or maybe she's just too polite to tell you she can't hang out with a Rush hater....;)
But I do agree there could be something personal going on she doesn't want to share....

Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top

CreekDog

(1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore

Fri May-08-09 06:57 PM
Response to Reply #3

6. she doesn't want to be seen with me in public

:think: :rofl:

i don't know what the deal is but i can handle not knowing.

she actually does have a busy life, but after a couple times trying to get together, the last time she suggested a few weeks later, so i called and maybe it was bad timing but then she told me (in April) that May looks bad (we live 7 miles apart). so i said, "am i going to remember you when we finally get together?" and she said, "oh i'm sure you will."

ball's in her court. :shrug:

the tv commercial thing just made me go :wtf: for a moment though :rofl:.

Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top

bettyellen

(1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore

Fri May-08-09 07:00 PM
Response to Reply #6

7. some people actually think watching TV is doing something, and that makes them busy...

isn;t that fucking insane?

Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top

Mike 03

(1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore

Fri May-08-09 07:17 PM
Response to Original message

11. I'm a lot like her. (not the quoting TV part...)

Edited on Fri May-08-09 07:21 PM by Mike 03

I have no idea what is going on, but I can tell you that I am really avoiding my friends lately, and it's just insecurity, insomnia, anxiety and so many bad things going on in my life.

And it worries me that they will take it personally. The truth is, I feel weak, and I feel terrible for not keeping up friendships. I love them and miss them, but I just don't have what it takes to communicate with them right now. Life hurts too much, or something.

And it is not personal.

That is just my case, and your case could be totally different.

Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top

madinmaryland

(1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore

Fri May-08-09 07:35 PM
Response to Original message

12. Maybe if you stopped referring to him as a female, he wouldn't be so upset.

:hide:

Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top

Dr. Strange

(1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore

Fri May-08-09 08:08 PM
Response to Reply #12

13. This is, of course, the real reason.

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top

Midlodemocrat

(1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore

Fri May-08-09 08:20 PM
Response to Original message

14. Dude. Bathe. It will make all the difference.

Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top

CreekDog

(1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore

Fri May-08-09 11:30 PM
Response to Reply #14

17. how did your friends respnd when you started bathing?

:rofl:

Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top

UTUSN

(1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore

Sat May-09-09 10:02 AM
Response to Original message

18. Line from "Devil Wears Prada": "The one always calling you on the phone? That's the one you're in a

relationship with."

Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top

skygazer

(1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore

Sat May-09-09 10:30 AM
Response to Original message

19. I have a friend who watches tv when we talk on the phone

I'll be talking away and suddenly she'll say, "Oh wow, Ken just broke up with Marcie!" or something and I realize she's watching a damn soap opera. :eyes:

Makes me feel so interesting and important. :rofl:

Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top

DU AdBot (1000+ posts)

Wed May 15th 2024, 02:46 AM
Response to Original message

Advertisements [?]

Top

Powered by DCForum+ Version 1.1 Copyright 1997-2002 DCScripts.com
Software has been extensively modified by the DU administrators

Important Notices: By participating on this discussion board, visitors agree to abide by the rules outlined on our Rules page. Messages posted on the Democratic Underground Discussion Forums are the opinions of the individuals who post them, and do not necessarily represent the opinions of Democratic Underground, LLC.