Age difference and love

how important is age in a relationship?

The most important thing is the mental connection. If you have it you have it, if you don't, you don't.

common interests, experiences. If two people are compatible in many areas, I don't see where age really makes a difference. I've known many couples that were 10+ years apart and had wonderful relationships. Just depends on the people.

On edit - well, as long as both are above the age of consent, that is ....

I didn't mean it that way, ya pevs...

up to the couple how they deal with them

and lifestyle choices but that is just me

Mrs. V. was born eleven years before me. If anything the difference in our ages strengthens us.

I just love her. Cherish her. Nothing else matters.

For me, I don't think a big age gap would be important at all. Then again, my father was 18 yrs older than my mom and they were madly in love.

I have never found another human being to be so compatible. We have excellent communication, mutual respect and a realistic understanding of the difficulties of relationships in general.

I think that age is not simply calculated by a person's number of days so much as it is their view of the world.

Also, congratulations. Whatever works, works, and should be enjoyed to the fullest. :thumbsup:

Just as the questions "How important is education to a relationship?" and "How important is leg length to a relationship?"

:shrug:

That's not the question you want to ask, though, is it?

I assume you meant to ask "Can a relationship work successfully if there is a gap in ages?"

Twenty days older.

She is SO going to kill me if she reads DU! :rofl:

I think that's about right. ;-)

they grew up in. However, I do agree that love knows no age divide. My first wife, who passed away a few years ago, was 7 years older than I, and my second wife is the same age as I am. Sometimes I felt left out when my first wife would talk to friends her own age about their childhood/young adult experiences.

At least, that's what the year descriptions on Chinese restaurant place mats say.

I felt she was just too young, although she was probably more mature than me at that point.

Now she'd be 26........it wouldn't really matter now, and it feels like a lost opportunity.

I might, if I were you.

Sent her an e-mail a few years back, but for all I know it was no longer active. Part of me fears she looks at me as some "creepy older guy" in hindsight. But that's likely just my hangup.

A couple of years ago I found myself dating a 24 year old. All that great friendship chemistry means nothing when you try to fit it into a romantic relationship. 41 year olds and 24 year old just have different goals and expectations. We've stayed friends, but damn was that a bad call on both our parts.

Even if it hadn't really worked out, nothing ventured, nothing gained. As far as goals, I'm sure she's already far beyond me in her career than I am.

We stayed friends, no romantic bullshit, but every now and then I hit that like the fist of an angry god. :nuke:

EDIT: That last part was gross. Lemme just say "we had fun."

That's like February/February OF THE FOLLOWING YEAR. :o

My best friend is 21, her BF is 31.

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...when she was 18 and he was 29.
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Married within a year or two and had a 7-year-old boy when I knew them.
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He was an ex-wildman (Harley tat on his bicep) who had gone "straight"
and was at the point I knew them a senior VP with an insurance company.
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When he turned 40, he told his wife he wanted a Corvette for his birthday.
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Always the more conventional of the two, she told him she thought he
should have a Mercedes or Beamer -- something "more in keeping with your
station".
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My friend was a SMART man, if nothing else. He immediately told her that
all married men, when they turn 40, go through a midlife crisis and either
get a sports car or a mistress.
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My friend's wife was a SMART woman. She thought for a moment and then asked
him, "So... what color 'Vette do you want?"
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No joke.
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And the answer was 'Red'.
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Of course.
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differences. My first husband was 22 years older than me. He was the love of my life.

My daughter is engaged to someone 17 years older than herself.

Maturity is the key, not chronological age. Age does not matter as much as common interests, education, goals.

We had a lot in common.

I would totally date someone 20 years older than me again, but I would never date someone 20 years younger than me.

'Cause dating a 12 year old would be gross and sketchy. :o

And while my Wife is indeed a treasure, I don't think of her as a trophy.....

We seemed to be OK. We like the same music, the same design and the same movies. I think you just have to find the right person and age doesn't really matter (unless you're under 18). I met my husband when I was 20 and he was 37. I just grew up faster than some girls I guess.

half one's age plus 7.

I am the eldest child of young (Mom 18, Dad 22) parents and my wife is the youngest child of older parents (Mom 31, Dad 33)

We get along just fine, the only difference is that I like schlock 70's Pop Music and she likes schlock 80's Pop Music

After age 25, it all sort of blends together

Take your age, divide it by two and add seven. That number is the youngest you should date or become involved with.

I have to say that the only time I dated someone younger than the formula, it ended in disaster, so maybe there's something to it.

For the most part the age difference isn't a problem. However, we did start dating around the time my 25th high school reunion took place. That was a little odd.