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Edited on Wed May-11-11 07:11 PM by rbnyc
First, I am not religious. I believe that spiritual texts contain many powerful metaphors for things that are largely unknown, unseen or otherwise beyond our grasp. I generally respect each person's right to interpret as they see fit, as long as they don't hurt other people, etc. etc.
But I've often had a fantasy about Judgment Day. Because I wasn't raised in any religious tradition, my fantasy is pretty disconnected from the resurrection of the dead, second coming of Christ and judgment of the nations. In my fantasy, the world ends and everyone is waiting in a long line to come before God and be personally judged. My husband and I are in line together. When we reach God, God has an inventory of every bit of housework I did and every bit of housework he did during our life together as a couple, and proves definitively,once and for all, that I have done 10 times as many dishes, 20 times as much laundry, 90% of all bathroom cleaning, 60% of garbage and recycling take-out, 10 times as much meal preparation, 80% of the sweeping, mopping, dusting and vacuuming 70% of the cat box cleaning and 100% of the window cleaning. The inventory will also show that he did 75% of the yard work, but BFD!
My darling husband has such a distorted view of how much each of us does. If he does something once, he despises and resents the work so much, it feels like he did it 10 times. If I do something 10 times, he doesn't notice. But if I don't do something once, it's like I never do it ever. At one point, I instituted a housework log so we could look at the end of each week and see how much each of us did. This was not good for our marriage at all.
Sigh.
EDIT: typo
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