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Cannikin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 11:33 AM Original message |
Aside from celebrity marriages, what reasons would one keep their own last name? |
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femmocrat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 11:40 AM Response to Original message |
1. My DIL did that. |
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Arugula Latte (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 11:47 AM Response to Original message |
2. But why should a woman change her last name? |
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tabbycat31 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 01:50 PM Response to Reply #2 |
16. I feel the same way you do |
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trueblue2007 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 06:53 PM Response to Reply #2 |
36. MY FATHER WAS MURDERED 3 MONTHS BEFORE I GOT MARRIED |
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rbnyc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 07:39 PM Response to Reply #36 |
42. +1 |
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Rhiannon12866 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-21-11 06:02 AM Response to Reply #36 |
63. +2 |
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Dulcinea (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-21-11 07:51 AM Response to Reply #2 |
67. It's a matter of personal choice. |
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MicaelS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 11:48 AM Response to Original message |
3. IF the man states that IF |
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kentauros (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 11:48 AM Response to Original message |
4. My past-wife did that with mine. |
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Cannikin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 12:14 PM Response to Reply #4 |
7. I do understand that. My last name is a derogatory term for backwards country folk. |
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kentauros (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 12:23 PM Response to Reply #7 |
9. Including Bills Hicks? |
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Cannikin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 12:25 PM Response to Reply #9 |
11. We're not related. |
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kentauros (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 12:31 PM Response to Reply #11 |
12. Could be worse. |
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GoCubsGo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jul-23-11 01:48 PM Response to Reply #12 |
94. Oh, A LOT worse! |
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Book Lover (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 03:17 PM Response to Reply #7 |
24. You can do something about that, just saying |
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mythology (169 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jul-23-11 05:27 PM Response to Reply #24 |
98. In my experience it's kind of a pain in the ass if you're a guy |
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davsand (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 12:06 PM Response to Original message |
5. If the woman has a professional identity prior to the marriage she might want to keep her name. |
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Cannikin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 12:11 PM Response to Reply #5 |
6. Thank you, Laura! Outside of Hollywood, I hadn't considered keeping it for professional reasons. |
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elleng (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 02:27 PM Response to Reply #6 |
20. Amazing to me you hadn't considered this. |
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Cannikin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 03:19 PM Response to Reply #20 |
25. Currently disabled. Have worked in the physical therapy field for the last few years. |
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elleng (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 05:54 PM Response to Reply #25 |
31. Probably so. I'm in DC area, attorney, FULL of 'professional' women. |
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TZ (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 12:15 PM Response to Reply #5 |
8. +1000, my aunt who worked in politics/lobbying |
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av8rdave (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-21-11 08:03 AM Response to Reply #5 |
70. In the scientific community, a woman often wants to keep her name because of work she has published |
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distantearlywarning (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 12:24 PM Response to Original message |
10. In academia, it's important to have a record of publications |
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Taverner (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 12:38 PM Response to Original message |
13. I don't know why a woman WOULDN'T want to keep her name |
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JustABozoOnThisBus (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 02:47 PM Response to Reply #13 |
21. I can think of one reason ... Casey Anthony |
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LibertyLover (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 01:10 PM Response to Original message |
14. I kept my name when I married - |
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csziggy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 11:39 PM Response to Reply #14 |
60. But the problem with a child having a different name dates far back |
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nolabear (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 01:20 PM Response to Original message |
15. Why doesn't a man change his last name? |
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pamela (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-21-11 07:31 AM Response to Reply #15 |
65. You raise a very good point. |
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seaglass (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 02:17 PM Response to Original message |
17. I didn't change my name for no other reason than it is my name and I felt like if I was called Mrs. |
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lukasahero (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 11:23 PM Response to Reply #17 |
53. Isn't it even better to be called |
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seaglass (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-21-11 05:57 AM Response to Reply #53 |
62. My husband gets soooo mad when he is called Mr. MyLastName. |
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pamela (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-21-11 07:08 AM Response to Reply #62 |
64. My husband gets called MrMyLastName way more than I get called MrsHisLastName |
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seaglass (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-21-11 11:22 AM Response to Reply #64 |
73. It does amaze me sometimes how the male is deferred to in certain situations. |
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riderinthestorm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-21-11 01:36 PM Response to Reply #73 |
76. When we closed on the sale of our farm, I signed the top line on all the mortgage documents. |
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elleng (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 02:25 PM Response to Original message |
18. Because its mine. |
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Book Lover (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 03:23 PM Response to Reply #18 |
27. Plus One (nm) |
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Digit (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 10:54 PM Response to Reply #18 |
50. Same here |
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kimi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 02:26 PM Response to Original message |
19. Well, I changed my name when I got married |
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pitohui (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 03:13 PM Response to Original message |
22. i am just as important as any celebrity, but then i believe in equality |
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geardaddy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 03:15 PM Response to Original message |
23. Rupert's wife is Chinese |
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NewJeffCT (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-22-11 06:19 PM Response to Reply #23 |
88. +1 |
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Book Lover (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 03:20 PM Response to Original message |
26. Because they like their current last name |
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dana_b (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 04:09 PM Response to Reply #26 |
29. good ones |
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MountainLaurel (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 03:54 PM Response to Original message |
28. You're kidding right? |
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mulsh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 04:29 PM Response to Original message |
30. My wife is fairly well known in a couple of fields, shekept her |
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NightWatcher (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 06:18 PM Response to Reply #30 |
34. same here. my wife's a very well respected professional in her field and to change her name |
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LiberalEsto (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 06:09 PM Response to Original message |
32. I kept my name because I'm a feminist |
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KamaAina (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 06:10 PM Response to Original message |
33. For what reason would men keep theirs? |
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Kaleva (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 06:48 PM Response to Reply #33 |
35. Why is it usually the man who drives? |
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riderinthestorm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 07:27 PM Response to Reply #35 |
38. Not in my household. I'm usually the one who drives. I'm the better driver. nt |
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KamaAina (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 07:54 PM Response to Reply #35 |
44. Are you in Saudi Arabia or something? |
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Kaleva (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 08:20 PM Response to Reply #44 |
45. That really doesn't refute my observation. |
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Cannikin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 11:20 PM Response to Reply #44 |
52. Worse. Arkansas. |
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Cannikin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 11:24 PM Response to Reply #35 |
54. dupe |
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Kaleva (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 11:27 PM Response to Reply #54 |
55. I got yelled at by one lady for holding a door open for her. |
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Cannikin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 11:28 PM Response to Reply #55 |
57. hahaha Yeah, it's a lose/lose here, so I take a chance and do the polite thing. |
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Kaleva (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 11:36 PM Response to Reply #57 |
59. Yes. I hold doors open for everyone. That lady just assumed I was some kind of sexist. |
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kick-ass-bob (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-21-11 02:45 PM Response to Reply #55 |
78. Wow. Everyone I see holds doors for everyone else here. |
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riderinthestorm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-21-11 08:49 PM Response to Reply #78 |
81. Here too. Old people, young people, male, female - if you reach the door first, hold it open |
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sarge43 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-25-11 05:59 AM Response to Reply #35 |
107. Depends on whose car they're using. |
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riderinthestorm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 07:25 PM Response to Original message |
37. I'm a feminest. Why should I change my last name? (25 years married - NOT a business contract) nt |
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catzies (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 07:32 PM Response to Original message |
39. 'Cause it's easy and renders me virtually anonymous. Can't Google me, for starters. |
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REP (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 07:32 PM Response to Original message |
40. I didn't stop being me when I got married; why should my name change? |
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rbnyc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 07:39 PM Response to Reply #40 |
43. +1 (nt) |
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rbnyc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 07:37 PM Response to Original message |
41. I kept mine becaue... |
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LaraMN (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 08:44 PM Response to Original message |
46. I'm in the camp of going with whichever sounds better with your first name. |
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Dulcinea (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-21-11 07:58 AM Response to Reply #46 |
68. Agreed. |
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Odin2005 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 10:01 PM Response to Original message |
47. Because this is the 21st century and wives are no longer considered property of their husbands. |
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vard28 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 10:23 PM Response to Original message |
48. Because |
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mythology (169 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 10:39 PM Response to Original message |
49. I'm a single male but |
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lukasahero (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 11:18 PM Response to Original message |
51. I'm sorry but what reasons would make one change their name? |
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Cannikin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 11:27 PM Response to Original message |
56. I appreciate the funny and informative replies! |
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NewJeffCT (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jul-23-11 08:36 PM Response to Reply #56 |
102. I live in a pretty blue state in Connecticut |
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csziggy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 11:32 PM Response to Original message |
58. I simply did not want to change my name |
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LeftishBrit (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-21-11 02:26 AM Response to Original message |
61. Because they prefer their own last name; or because they are professionals already known under that |
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CBGLuthier (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-21-11 07:32 AM Response to Original message |
66. Business. if a woman were a realtor or other name recognition, client based profession |
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graywarrior (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-21-11 08:00 AM Response to Original message |
69. I kept my last name |
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PassingFair (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-21-11 08:23 AM Response to Reply #69 |
72. My husband didn't care either...funny story: |
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graywarrior (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-21-11 11:24 AM Response to Reply #72 |
74. We walked about it before we got hitched |
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annonymous (850 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-21-11 08:19 AM Response to Original message |
71. Credit reporting purposes |
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Scout (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-21-11 01:09 PM Response to Original message |
75. why SHOULDN'T one keep their own last name? |
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sinkingfeeling (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-21-11 02:39 PM Response to Original message |
77. Being the last of a family. I'm the youngest daughter of my dad's, who was the only |
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Manifestor_of_Light (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-21-11 06:13 PM Response to Original message |
79. I was divorced twice. |
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BlueIris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-21-11 08:42 PM Response to Original message |
80. Because I'm not a fucking piece of property. I have a life and identity other than my spouse's. |
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saras (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-21-11 09:47 PM Response to Original message |
82. To disavow the tradition of women giving up their names - that's enough reason |
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Recovered Repug (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-21-11 10:04 PM Response to Original message |
83. I think there is a simple solution to this argument. |
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applegrove (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-21-11 10:13 PM Response to Original message |
84. I know that rich people in England and some neighbourhoods in Canada would have |
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LeftishBrit (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-22-11 02:33 AM Response to Reply #84 |
85. Yes, hyphenated names are quite common in England |
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Tabasco_Dave (744 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-22-11 03:20 AM Response to Original message |
86. I know a man who's last name was Dorkin. |
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NewJeffCT (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-22-11 06:16 PM Response to Original message |
87. His wife is Chinese - Chinese women, by tradition, do not change their last names |
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Cairycat (454 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-22-11 06:31 PM Response to Original message |
89. Because it's who I am |
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lunatica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-22-11 06:37 PM Response to Original message |
90. It's a custom that should end |
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DFW (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jul-23-11 07:33 AM Response to Original message |
91. Here's one |
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Manifestor_of_Light (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jul-23-11 12:17 PM Response to Reply #91 |
92. I can tell you about two women who changed their names. |
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DFW (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jul-23-11 04:13 PM Response to Reply #92 |
97. Those names belong in some kind of special archive! n/t |
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Gormy Cuss (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jul-23-11 01:43 PM Response to Original message |
93. Funny, changing one's name at marriage screams "chattel" to me. |
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Rabrrrrrr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jul-23-11 03:39 PM Response to Original message |
95. Because we aren't property that gets renamed when handed over to a new "owner", |
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Bucky (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jul-23-11 03:44 PM Response to Original message |
96. I think about half of women who get married (to men) these days keep their birth name. It's normal. |
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mzteris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jul-23-11 07:26 PM Response to Original message |
99. outdated tradition implying OWNERSHIP! |
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Lex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jul-23-11 07:43 PM Response to Reply #99 |
100. True. |
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frogmarch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jul-23-11 08:36 PM Response to Original message |
101. You've got to be kidding. |
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OhioBlue (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jul-23-11 10:50 PM Response to Original message |
103. because that's my name. that is who I am. |
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trackfan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jul-24-11 12:08 AM Response to Original message |
104. Except for tradition, and the convenience of conformity, why would one chage one's name? |
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Curmudgeoness (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jul-24-11 12:23 PM Response to Reply #104 |
105. I went to school with a girl with the last name Fink. |
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sarge43 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-25-11 05:50 AM Response to Original message |
106. The paper work |
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