Question dealing with being pulled to someone

There is this guy friend who I've known since I was in the seventh grade. I've told about him before so I won't retell everything. The whole point is in 2002 I started having romantic feelings for him. We talked off and on throughout 2003. In 2004 we talked up until May or so and than we stopped talking. I never bothered to Email him because I didn't want to get in his way and have him annoyed with me and things like that. Earlier this year (around January or so) I had this feeling to read an online profile of his. I could tell my guardian (also my soul mate) didn't want me to, but I did anyways. The profile said he was married but looking. He never made any type of indication that he was married. He even used to talk in 2003 about this girl he was liking (or so it came across that way). I've tried to move on without him and onto other guys and things like that, but no matter what I do I keep coming back to this guy. The feelings and the pull. I've been thinking of Emailing him lately but I don't want to risk it and I'm still unsure and one of my motto's in life is "if you're unsure don't do it." So what do people here think? He keeps coming into my feelings and my dreams as well. I still have flashes of someone who feels like him but I can't see his face and it's always the same flash ( :blush: ). Well, thanks in advanced. Any question's and I'd be happy to answer. This is just something that has been really bugging me lately and I felt like I should ask.

pursue this friendship to another level. It could happen and you both can start on a fresh slate. To do otherwise would be very unwise. Your guardian is giving you good advice. There's nothing psychic about physical attraction. It's just hormones.

is I don't know if he's really married or not. :shrug: We don't talk anymore. And this is a tug with emotions and not harmones. I can tell the difference. Everytime I'm getting over this person emotional wise and liking someone else or engaged in other things with life something will come back and pull me to this person. I haven't made any moves on this person, not even Email. I keep wanting to Email him but I know my guides are telling me "no". :shrug: For whatever purpose (probably freewill is my guess) I'm not supposed to be with him anymore. There is someone else I'm feeling pulled to as well but I know I'd never have a chance with this person since I hardly see him and don't even know him yet.

that he has some characteristics, personality traits, outlook on life or other things you feel you might be lacking in your own life? I found that to be true of someone whom I had a very difficult time of letting go. He made me laugh all the time. I could not stay sad if he wanted me to laugh. He was cool in other ways. I feel now that he brought some of that out in me. He helped me reach parts of myself I had not explored.

Maybe recognizing that you would not be so attracted to him if not for the fact (I believe) that you possess those qualities you love and admire most in him.

It also helped me to FEEL all the pain. Trying to stuff it or misdirect it does not make it go away. Feeling it and moving through it does.

Let us know how you are doing.

I'll have to think about it some. It took me a good long while to admit that I had any sort of feelings for him. I thought time and time again of making a move. At least just telling him how I felt, but I never did because I was so unsure. :blush: I keep having flashes of me with someone but I don't see their face. :blush:

Don't spend too much energy on this guy, who may be married and don't think too much of that committment, or who may not be married but is using that as a way to get involved in a non-committment-type relationship.

And this is a tug with emotions and not hormones.

Something tells me it's quite possible that you, yourself, aren't really ready for a romantic relationship.

In the second instance, again, you are directing your romantic feelings towards someone you are not currently in a position to get romantic with.

Falling for the conveniently unavailable is a great way of avoiding the risks one takes in becoming intimate with another person. They'll never be able to walk away from you and break your heart and you'll never break theirs, either.

It just seems like every so often I'll be pulled back to the person emotionally. I think for the most part I'm doing okay for moving on even if I had high feelings since I'm an empath and everything. :blush: