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My husband S. and I share a birthday - July 4 - and there is an eleven year difference between us. I was 23 and fresh out of a relationship when we met in 1993, and he was in an unhappy marriage. He and his mate divorced and we married 02/09/02, nine years after we met. There's so much there that I'm leaving out, but I could talk for hours. We married outside at a public park, and there was a hawk in attendance, as well as a flock of birds that circled in the sky three times during the ceremony, then flew away. We've been together for sixteen years in all, we have a four year old son, and our relationship seems tumultous at times, and tranquil at others. There are little coincidences we share in our family histories a generation or two back that have always inspired me to think about family karma. We had very different childhoods from one another, and that difference really shows in the issues that we struggle with today.
I dropped out of university three times before deciding to just go to work and live on my own for a while. I enjoyed that, but went back to school when I realized how limited my options might be later in life. Strangely enough, I returned to school the same summer I met S., and I remember those first couple of years as very challenging and energetic. I was without a car, and always riding my bicycle to school and work and about town, and having a new relationship of a kind that I'd never dreamed I'd be in. I was reading runes at the time, and had also visited a psychic. It's funny how little I remember of that session, but at the time it all seemed very fitting, and some of it a little frightening, and I remember making the decision to create a future different from what she suggested may come to be. And how!
School was enervating and surprising. I majored in English, and had an intuitive flash one morning at the bike rack outside the Lang & Lit Bldg that publishing would be the industry for me after I graduated. I was taking writing workshops at the time, and won a writing competition as an undergraduate that usually was won by graduate students. This inspired me to apply for a writing fellowship at another school in PA, and I won that as well. I studied in PA for one semester, then returned to my home institution in order to graduate. Well, because poetry seemed to be working out so well for me, I explored graduate schools, and ultimately landed in a program in Austin that allowed me to study, write, and play for three years.
Almost immediately after graduating, I was hired by the university press here - an academic publisher of some 90-100 books per year - five years after I decided I wanted to work in publishing. But I've been aching to get out of it almost as long as I've been here. It's quite puzzling to me. I've landed a job in the field of my "dreams" but I feel trapped and powerless. I've been the assistant to the director for seven years. I've applied for positions three times over the years so that I can move out of my rather limited role and learn new skills that will allow me to progress further in the industry, and I've been rejected three times. I've struggled with my own anger, procrastination, contrariness, resentment, you name it. My boss, the director, was a child in WWI England, and has sufficiency issues. As well, she's distant and critical. My mother has sufficiency issues, and was distant, and critical. Her mother has sufficiency issues, and was distant and critical...
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