gay question

I know this is weird, but I would like to hear people's thoughts on this.

What do you think of people who are only attracted to their own race? What do you think of people who are only attracted to a specific other race?

I want to hear opinions. thanks.

to whom they should or should not be attracted.

ETA: Consenting adults, of course.

Where are you coming from?

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And none of them are pleasing to an open palate.

It could be the result of a sense of shared experiences - a bond, like veterans have a bond, like any survivors have a bond.
It could be a physical attraction, which begs the question do they put physical traits about personality.
A race-specific attraction could be the result of racism-based preconceptions.

I would be hesitant to lump everyone together when it comes to guessing at their mindset on something so individual as attraction.

There is no such thing. We are the human race.

are most commonly referred to as racists.

Where are you coming from?

The discerners of differences have more to answer for, imho.

:spray:



Hello?

In my years of experience, there doesn't seem much we can do about to whom we are attracted. Now if someone does or doesn't respond to a race or color or height, etc., (you ask what we would think about the person), and I guess I'd think they were probably genetically predisposed to their attraction, of lack of same. I suppose there could also be some socialization involved, but wouldn't know how to analyze it relative to the person. None of the above would make me think either good or bad of the person and certainly wouldn't judge the correctness or normalcy of their feelings to which they are entitled.

and ignore every single question in response to the meaning of what you've written.

I too want to know how is this a gay question.

I want to hear opinions. thanks.

be romantically involved with your mother or father, as the case may be.


As has already been mentioned, but is worth mentioning again, your thread title really sucks and has nothing to do with the question you then asked.

I realized after 9 years of marriage that my wife was just like my mother.
So that means that, if Freud is correct, I slept with my mo, mo, moth, oh damn, I can't say it.

You posted a "question" that made no sense. You need to return to the thread to clarify what you are talking about.

Please explain.

What is your favorite meat dish?

:crazy:

LOL

There are too many variables as to why people date others from the same or different race to give an answer. I believe a lot of it has to do with the environment in which a person has lived. I am Hispanic and I grew up in a largely non-Hispanic neighborhood. I was raised in an environment that allowed me to feel comfortable with people from a lot of different races. I believe because of that I've been attracted to females without taking race into consideration. I have relatives who grew up in Hispanic only areas and have never dated or married anyone other than Hispanics. I've never thought less of them for their choices because I figured it was what they were most comfortable with. They didn't have the multi-cultural experiences I did, so they stayed within the culture they could identify with the most.

The reasons vary too much for me to judge anyone based on the race of the person they happen to be attracted to. To each his own, I say.

And by the way, why the "gay" question thing? If you meant 'stupid' or 'silly' question by using the word gay, I really thing you should consider finding another word to use. Many people may be greatly offended when gay is used in place of stupid, including me.

about this?

This is you, no? Derek Gullage?

http://www.urbanonramps.com/rc/cheeryouth.html

http://www.urbanonramps.com/rc/prismpk.html

Curious, since the articles I found have something to do with race...and a LOT to do with religion, but I still can't figure out the "gay" connection. Perhaps it's time to explain?

edited: to avoid the appearance of thus-far unsubstantiated accusations.

You've already received some good explanations about attraction. The reason why someone might not be interested in their own race, probably has to do with bad experiences.

My sis-in-law for example who is white/indian, was married to a white guy, who passed away a few years ago. She is overweight and the white guys she dated since, used her. She started dating black men exclusively, because they treated her better. She is getting married next month, and couldn't be happier.

Get used to it.

with others? Truly diverse.

Seriously. I don't think much of someone who is attracted to a specific race (his/own own or another). The heart wants what the heart wants.

Plus race is becoming increasingly more difficult to label onto people. Where once people were much more bound geographically, intermingly of races is happening more than ever.

Please study.

within species. Humans are a species which can be argued as having subspecies or varieties.

and all humans share the same dna.

There are some theorists who for political reasons (antiracism) and because taxonomical boundaries between races are fuzzy would like to do away with the term, but it is still valid to speak about clusters of differences within the human species that were brought about by relative geographic isolation, microevolution, and adaptation to different environments.

Again, the word race is synonymous with subspecies so when you say human race you are using strange phrase. Its the human species.

The mingling of humans of different color, region, and environment has eliminated any pure ethnics.

I never claimed such a thing existed -- In fact I discussed race as a fuzzy category as much natural catergories are. One can still discuss races in humans and other organisms even if the boundaries are blurry.

Face the facts. We are all humans not subspecies of the human race.

There is no true Chinese, or Vietnamese, or Danish, or Bolivian, or Spanish, or Hispanic, or African.

But I tend to go for the ethnic girls.

Or solely gay people, I should say.

And to answer, I think both types of people in your question are being shortsighted, but it is their prerogative. Personally, I am attracted to all ethnicities.

I can see how the OP might have wanted some "no further info provided" responses
to those hypothetical questions, to use them to make some sort of point
about how "gay issues" are regarded and reacted to.

But, speaking as somewhat of an expert on "rubbing people the wrong way",
I really think the OP needs to END this little experiment right now
with a nice explanation of what they were hoping to acheive.

As in "stupid." Bad move on his part.

I certainly post a lot of stuff that is poorly worded, snarky, knee-jerk sarcastic,
and not very well thought out. Quite often, alcohol is involved. :crazy:

But I actually CARE about the responses
to my posts enough to READ them, so the resulting misunderstandings
generally get sorted out with a few explanations and/or sincere apologies.

But to drop such an obvious Flame-Grenade into GD, and then
just walk away without comment? It's not looking very good
for my "benefit of the doubt" at this point, is it?

I dropped a GD-worthy flame grenade in the Lounge once, but I still replied to the overwhelming majority of the posts.

This is flamebait.

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