And this atomization has been conditioned into us, over generations.
The paradox of privacy
by Underground Panther in the Sky
Why do we desire to have separate houses, separate rooms? Separate tables when we go to restaurants, separate cars?
This desire for a wall of separation between other people is a recent innovation. It is a thing created to manage people and discourage solidarity...
Our culture's need for privacy is manufactured. A social control experiment gone awry. It is the result of a long trend of state sponsored social conditioning.
Private institutions and courts in the late nineteenth century and federal agencies in the twentieth took a particular form of family autonomy and privacy, present only in a minority of the population, and worked to spread it among the rest of the population — even if it meant violating families that violated the prim "norms" these agencies set as examples for society to conform to. These agencies were unwilling to accept diversity in family or community life. Maintaining a particular "norm" the "nuclear " family is at the heart of a lot of social control in this country and a cause of inequality.
Early proponents of properness, privacy and domesticity turned to state power to create public and private coercion to induce family and community conformity. They intruded upon people's home life and privacy to enforce their own vision of what 'proper' home life and social divisions must be. And this intrusion into privacy, in the name of privacy, went beyond obvious examples like the enforced segregation of blacks and whites in the south. Families were torn apart literally, if they were poor, different, or had children that were not properly submissive to authority, or prim enough in their manners.
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