The trauma of gender

This is a VERY good commentary. Check it out.



...The boys who did not act enough like boys, when I was growing up, were not treated well by boys who strove to be real good patriarchal boys. Those real good patriarchal boys had sacrificed parts of themselves to become that way, often unconsciously, or with great pain and effort, and in order to complete the process of transformation, had to beat the shit out of, or at least systematically shame, all the boys who didn’t follow suit. Boy culture was vicious, when I was a kid. Troubled, insecure, and cruel. At one point in dominant Western culture, boys were obsessed with toy Transformers. I believe this obsession derived from what they were doing, unconsciously, to themselves: from emotionally vulnerable human to hard invulnerable machine.

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http://stangoff.com/?p=230

You are correct, it is VERY good.

For reading it.I posted it because it speaks to everyday of my life,I've lived it.
I am a male appearing androgyny.A transitioning person-feline who isn't a man or a woman. I rejected the gendered world long ago and I have suffered alot emotionally and alot of abuse,and some surgical interventions for my desire to be what I really am.
Sad ain't it? Forced gendering of children is a socially sanctioned parental reinforced cruelty.I wish people would respect children's human right to be and become what they really are,especially the kids parents need to respect that their offspring are not property That kids are not a parental mini me or a way for a parent to vicariously live forever .That a child is not for a parent to live the life they never had vicariously through..too.