The Gay "Lifestyle"

What is the Gay "Lifestyle"? Getting up, showering, eating a bagel, checking e-mail, going to work. Screwing around on the internet at work. Hanging out with friends at a bar, going to the movies. Shopping for dinner at the grocery store. Playing video games, shooting pool. Volunteering at the food bank or pet rescue. Road tripping to Vegas for the weekend. Bemoaning your hangover on Monday when you get to wake up and do it all over again for another week.

In other words, the same damn thing as the Hetero "Lifestyle". Please, please stop using this offensive term.

We don't have a "lifestyle", we have lives.

Well, at least that's how the Republicans do it.

It's not about homosexuality. It's about a fetish.

Doesn't mean they do it more frequently, or less frequently. It's illegal to do it in a public place, period.

The people that use the term "Gay Lifestyle" are Republicans.

Republicans go to public bathrooms and try to solicit gay sex.

Therefore, Republicans think the "gay lifestyle" is going to public bathrooms to solicit gay sex.

Your first reaction to the OP was to post a lame joke (?) mimicking Republican talking points. Interesting.

Go read it seriously, as that is what it was.

And they still insist that they are progressives.

Nice to see some civility on the boards today.

Lost my election last night to a repuke (and I use that term purposefully) in a (R)-dominated town. Very frustrated today.

Lately I figure that Republicans only win when the machines are rigged, but I realize that some communities are still dominated by morans (DU spelling).

Even still, we only lost by 624 votes out of ~3000.

A lot closer than in past years (over 1000-vote difference)

Is your sarcasm detector busted??

Or people will point at you and laugh. :sarcasm:

Er, sarcasm tag in use--did you not see it? I was not actually saying that people would point and--oh never mind.

:smoke:

:blush:

And you rock too, Midlodemocrat! :toast:

edit: spelling meter broken

It's hard at times, aye? Then again, I usually assume everyone is joking when they say things like that... which sadly isn't always the case.

I have seen it repeatedly used on DU by well-meaning straight allies.

all those guys claim to be straight.

a poster talking about "disagreeing with the Gay lifestyle"..Wrong. First of all how can you disagree with being gay ? ( I'm Gay... "No you can't be , I disagree with it") ;and lifestyle? how f'n tired is that word?

It was the last straw after seeing people repeating this phrase over and over in threads on the Obama/McChickenhead fiasco.

:D

Some asshole gave me shit for calling that poster on his comment. No worries.

on this board.

Are there THAT many fucking STUPID straight people here on DU? Christ! Seems like I see a shit-headed "lifestyle" post here almost every fucking week.

I AM SICK TO DEATH OF IT.

:nuke:

Sadly, that does leave a significant fraction of clueless straight people. :(

FRENCH AND SAUNDERS! :D

They are a HUGH part of MY gay lifestyle.

Seriesly.

On DVD, again, last night. That Star Wars one gets me every time.

"Milk, milk, lemonade, round the corner chocolate's made!" :rofl:

Piss. Your. Pants.

"Poo stripe!" is my favorite sketch.

You're not helping with it. :)

because the repukes don't tell her what to say

:crazy:

Which might make her a repuke. Or a repuke wannabe. That's an example of a lifestyle - imitating repukes.

there's a lot of that going around DU, and it's not only about GLBT issues. I don't think there's an issue that a DUer hasn't posted right wing drivel about. And the response is "Even a broken clock blah blah blah...."

They actually argue that the repukes are right. It happerns every day on DU. But if I call someone a schmuck, I'll eventually get banned

:crazy:

"Gay Lifestyle" is nothing more than a(yet another) way for bigots to denigrate us. When alleged progressives use this term it's disheartening, frustrating and offensive.

:thumbsup:

Gasp. What does this mean? We're not "marching in lockstep!"

My "gay lifestyle" involves getting up, showering (so far so good), feeding the cats, running out of time to eat breakfast, dropping off my kids at school, going to work, working, meeting my partner at the gym (to actually work out - not troll for casual sex in the locker room - imagine that!), scaring up dinner, feeding the cats, doing laundry, reading the internets before bed, going to sleep.

I'm takin' your gay card away. :P

:sarcasm:

Just like the term 'Log Cabin Republican', that is an oxymoran!!!

Or the saying "You lied to us about your sexuality"
NO, its just not anyones business


"They are out of the closet"
Never been in one, again its no ones business, and you can live how you want

:hi:

as a recovering Homophobe ... was when I realized the following 2 things.

1) Homosexuality isn't just about sex.
2) Homosexuals have the same dreams, fears, problems, joys, etc. as anyone else. In as many words, "They are people too".

Cheers
Drifter

The Lifestyles Convention in Las Vegas is not about getting up, taking a shower, going to work, etc. "Lifestyles" is a euphemism for other-than-"normal" hetero sex, bet it swinging, gay, bsdm, whatever. Of course, Republicans are deeply involved in their closeted little "lifestyles" so they know a lot about this stuff, and use the term in an all-encompassing way.

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I don't care if other people are kinky or not, as long as they are being kinky with consenting adults. However, I am not kinky. The fact that I am a woman who loves a woman does not make me kinky, and I resent the implication.

Some gay people are into kinky sex, just like some straight people. Nobody considers all straight people to be kinky just because some straight people like S&M.

But the alt weekly newspapers also tend to put the "lifestyles" banner over the very-personals in the back, so the straights (especially the closeted Republicans, which appear to be most of them) can't separate being non-hetero with anything but "kinky."

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no wonder they are confused.

The personals in the back of alt-weeklies cater to a small subset of the population, and certainly don't reflect the points of view or behavior of most people, gay or straight.

This is not to put down the personals or anyone who uses them - I know that some people have found wonderful friends and mates this way - but the personal ads in the back of alt-weeklies aren't going to reflect most people's lives, lifestyles, or whatever.

that are into the BDSM scene!

with my disability than with who I would like to be dating and sleeping with. x(

I always wonder what it is they think I do differently from them on a day to day basis.

take that lifestyle folk

:loveya:

:hide:

(Feel free to flame; your own phrase "You could make a straight woman gay" speaks more than it possibly should.)

I figured the use of a silly smilie would have indicated that.

Just my thought, sorry.

Good natured humor, that is...

Well, maybe not all..

bob: "I'm so sad, my mother just died"

me: "Your mother died? I got one for you, Why did the chicken cross the road"...

bob: "dude, my mom is dead"

me: "to get to your mother funeral across the road"



argh, I'm lame.

idiotic crap.

It wasn't meant seriously, dude. The fact that everyone knows it is impossible is what makes it a compliment.

Thought you caught us a slip, eh? LOL!

Too many people, too many theories, nothing opaque, nothing solid.

BTW: If I caught you in a slip, I'd close the door and ask you to put some clothes back on. :spray:

a recruitment contest: LCDTV's to the top ten recruiters!!

:(

Hugs to you :grouphug:

and well said.

For my part, the glamorous gay lifestyle includes being broke most of the time, working two jobs, and driving a 16 year old car. Tres chic, non? :eyes:

single lifestyle

bachelor lifestyle

lifestyles of the rich and famous

children learn through stereotyping (dogs bite)

unfortunately, for many people, they continue to think in terms of stereotypes even as adults

here's a piece of fun trivia i just found:
The term "the lifestyle" can also mean what is more commonly called swinging. This term was first used in the early 1970s by ClubWideWorld, a swing club in Anaheim, California, for advertisements in the Los Angeles Free Press. "The Lifestyle" was a more inclusive and acceptable term for swinging. People in "the lifestyle" most commonly are a couple; often a married couple. They meet other like-minded couples or occasionally singles through various websites, private/ public clubs, and on tours to lifestyles friendly resorts, to engage in sexual acts/ activities. Not all lifestyle activities are sexual, as they may also meet to educate, support, or help others who are in "the lifestyle".
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lifestyle

Rev. Donnie the ex-gay clown won't bother you if you're one of those "happy" gays...you know, like Jack on "Will and Grace" or that nice Ellen fella. However, if you're an unhappy gay (and you must be because teh Gay is a curse that kills children, wraps you in addiction, and, heaven forbid, leads to dancing), let Rev. Donnie take you to his conversion therapy complex (also known as Room 1881 at the Charleston Hilton - Charleston S.C.) where he can perform his famous "laying of the hands" to cure you of your disease. On the down low, of course.

:sarcasm:

:spray: :rofl:

Brother Donnie is a charter member of BASH. http://www.bettybowers.com/cash.html

watching Dr Who, chatting on IRC and building computers. Oh wait, all the gay people I know are geeks.

I should have put down "go to anime cons" too. :rofl:

eom

On the female side there is Ani DiFranco, Sarah MacLachlan or anyone else who played Lilith Fair and/or Michigan Womyn's Festival. :P

;-)

couldn't you tell when you met me?!?! :crazy: :hi:

:P

<sarcasm>

Somebody's got to lead the choir.

We can't give this stuff out to heteros or HQ will punish us. First offense, they ban you from Home Depot and Pottery Barn. :scared:

How dare you! Why that sounds "normal".

At one of our meetings I was being teased by a couple of people about my straight lifestyle. It was rather funny to me but in reverse it becomes something entirely different doesn't it.

And playing D&D. :silly:

See? It IS different. :crazy:

Funny, you sound a lot like my gay friend Arthur.

I don't know if that's a compliment or what. :rofl:

Kept on gay shelves in flamboyant plastic sleeves, paid for with absolutely flaming money. That's pretty gay.

"Lifestyle," my ass. why can't they just admit that they hate Teh Gay?

:loveya::rofl:

And then stumbling out to find TP to stop the bleeding? :rofl:

you nasty girl! ;-)

seriously though. everything you said.

gotta keep reminding people til it sinks in. for the most part it's not deliberate, just thoughtless.

:yourock:


Oh, and "Lifestyles" is also a brand of condoms.

Everyone knows that.

If gay is a Lifestyle?
Tell me what do hets have? Another lifestyle.They have a het sex orientation so it must be the hetero lifestyle..right?

fundie christian hets,a lifestyle plus a CHOSEN religion.
A chosen toxic religion justified by a lifestyle that wants to dominate others lives and control society through the "christian lifestyle".Christianity of the fundie kind demands adherents follow a god based lifestyle lest they become backsliders and piss off their chosen god....

Christianity and a church that controls whom you see, how you relate to others,who you can have as friends, right down to what you do with your own time,is a lifestyle of religion and it IS always a choice.

Babies are not born singing hymns and praising jesus they are TAUGHT to do that.Usually by christian parents insisting on living a "christian lifestyle" and having thier kids live it too or suffer..All babies will become adults.And as they mature and the hormones enter their bodies, they might find they are not attracted to the opposite sex.They might not be hetero oriented. They find they are gay by their own bodies by sexual attractions.Like heteros do,but they are not and cannot be heteros.They lack the opposite sex attraction heteros have that certain kinds of a hostile controlling religion just happens to demand of all it's followers..

Being gay is a sexual orientation.As in you are either gay,bi or straight.What gender you are attracted to is what your orientation is, end of story. And there is no choice in sexual orientation.Does any one know how many hets turn gay who did not at least have a bi curious side to begin with???

The only choice for queer people than becomes being open about it or closeted until you die ...

For gays it's either cave in to this social pressure induced and self induced psychological torture,a life of stress, loneliness,isolation and denial or being out of the closet and at risk of being hurt or denied things like housing or a job by bigots.Gays,bisexuals, and trans-people are put in real life danger all because of the chosen christian lifestyle that some people choose to have..

Gay/Bi/Transgender or hetero sexual orientation is not a choice or a lifestyle for anyone.. The appearance of choice to stupid people who never have been scapegoated really comes from the social situation created by pushy christian life-stylers who choose to force their christian lifestyle onto the whole world .

They push that "lifestyle" out of their own narcissism. All this suffering so jesus will make an extra nice crown for them when they die.Narcissism and domination is the motivator of many a christian bigot...Despite what they may choose to say to the contrary.They wanna be gods favorites.

Hide the truth or not, for queer people, who exist on either side of the closet door,regardless of what 'lifestyle' or religion they choose to have, they are still gay...

A person has to have to have a conscience and empathy for others for real to care about the issues queer people face, to have that kind of humanity regarding a gay person may require a christian to make a new lifestyle choice,to care instead of dominate, intimidate and convert or destroy the gay person..

They're the ones that are trying to redefine the family, recruit kids, etc. They do everything they accuse us of doing. Projection much?

(How have you been, dear? I've missed you. :hug:)

Has a GLBT person ever come to your door and offered to talk to you about the joys of being GLBT?

Have you ever had to walk around a gay person on the street because they were standing there raving at the top of their lungs about the joys of gay sex?

Are there Gayvangelists on the TV begging for money?

Has anybody handed you a GLBT tract lately?


:P

:rofl:

No GLBT person has told me that if I don't become one of them I am going to hell...

An inexplicable love for house music?
TV permanently set to Bravo?

And for the lesbians...

A lifetime supply of softball gear and power tools
Matching flannel shirts

(No offense to my gay comrades. I'm just poking fun at the stereotypes.)

I SWEAR that bit Suzanne Westenhoffer did about lesbians and the Home Depot was right on. I used to live near a 24 hr one and my gf would call me at 3 in the morning to go shop there. Home Depot is the boringest place on Earth to me.

I got her a drill for Xmas and you'd have thought I bought her a diamond, she carried on so much. :rofl:

Does that make me gay? :blush:

:D

I need all the help I can get to maintain my "lifestyle" ;)

"Can I watch?"

:P

You know, a group of local kinky people used to do an annual tour of Lowes. Pointing out all the fun toys in the hardware section and what they can be used for :evilgrin:

(another stereotype). I don't wear flannel shirts and you don't want me on your softball team (trust me, well-meaning people have done this and regretted it).

I do kind of like power tools, though I don't have any.

Then again, I've never thought it was a choice, so the entire thinking is foreign to me. It's got to be super-frustrating to have people dehumanize you on a daily basis by constant little barbs like this. It would piss me off, I know.

:hug: Your days sound an awful lot like mine. Add kids and a dog, and we're set. :)

Also, we're from the same county, so that means we're sisters!

:hug:

I just did pies for the church bake sale on Saturday, and one of them didn't come out quite right, but the other one I made for us anyway. Peach, apple, and Michigan dried cherries with an almond crumb topping. We'll talk cats and kids and all sorts of stuff. :)

:hug: back at ya!

You just described my favorite pie. I miss Ohio pie.

Hubby's fine with it, but I hate the taste of burnt sugar. I'm dipping into the apple, peach, cherry pie tonight. Yum! Come on over for pie! The house is kind of ready, if you don't mind toys and some clutter.

:(

It's true that we have no water but it's not very cold here now. :-)

We just finally saw some snow (that didn't stick) this week. November for the first snow?! And people still write lttes here saying there's no global warming?!

You know, I've never been to North Carolina. I should get there someday, huh? I've heard it's awfully pretty.

The two are pretty much mutually incompatible. "Lifestyle" means pretentious and ostentatious. I've been inflicted with a lot of "lifestyles" from people of all sexual orientations, sexes and races.

Curiously enough, the heteros with "lifestyles" are personally blamed for their idiocy - their pickup trucks or their trophy wives, their day spa treatments and their abuse of subordinates at work. But when gays do it, they seem to drag down their entire category.

Anybody want to offer any ideas as to why this happens? I have some, but I'd rather not get flamed right here and right now. Let me hear what someone else thinks first.

"lifestyle" as I do. Wake up, try to wake kid up to go to school, have some breakfast, go back to waking kid up to go to school, get dressed, drag screaming kid out of bed, throw some food and clothes at her and frog-march her to the bus stop, drive to metro station, get caught in traffic jam, get stuck on metro train going no where fast, get to work, get some liquid caffeine, work, reverse commute process with similar results, deal with cranky kid who is tired from a full day of kindergarten, eat dinner, pay bills or help kid with homework, bath kid who doesn't want a bath, throw kid into bed hoping she will get a few more minutes of sleep tonight and not be so cranky tomorrow, talk to spouse who is busy playing computer games or looking at model railroad equipment on line, take shower, go to bed. Oh, hold on a minute, that reads like it's a "life" not a "lifestyle". Well, darn - there goes that theory up in smoke. Most people have lives and, as far as I can see, in this economy, not many of us make enough to have a "lifestyle". But, if I did, it would be Neo-Depression, with a soupcon of Traditional Recession mixed in.

which all liberals & democrats are trying to foist on those poor beleagured Republicans. Right along with our Islamofascist agenda, and our commie-pinko-nazi agenda, and, of course, our War on Christmas and Christianity in general.

just kidding, of course.

I agree with your post.

:)

You are the best, Estimated Prophet.

:hi:

I keep picturing a really tasteful leather organizer...

I mean, I could see how some people who are not homophobic may innocently use the term "gay lifestyle" not thinking of what it might imply to those who follow that lifesty..heh just kidding, those are gay. However, the "gay agenda" thing always cracks me up... I mean, are there meetings where gays get together to discuss world domination, and plan methods of making everyone gay? I mean seriously, wtf is "gay agenda" suppose to mean, and who the hell do they think is setting it?

Oh hell! I thought the "gay lifestyle" was all about going to brunch and stuff.

I was all set to sign up and now you have completely burst my bubble. My biggest dilemma up to now was WHO to share the toaster oven with! Now that I know what y'all REALLY do, I think I'll just keep my boring old "straight" lifestyle and live without that toaster oven...

Seems like my day begins by getting my kid out of bed, fed, and ready for school. THEN I get to go to my office and let taxpayers yell at me while I figure out how to deal with the current real estate market as an assessment official. THEN I go to the gym and the grocery store, make dinner, and do laundry and homework with my kid, while I'm doing laundry.

And then I go to bed.

I dunno, that Mimosa thing still sounds pretty good to me. IS there any lifestyle (excluding that of Paris Hilton) I can adopt that will allow for lazy brunches every day?


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Laura

Your lifestyle sounds just like ours - are you sure you aren't gay? ;)

I have always maintained that I am a political lesbian with an unfortunate appreciation for male anatomy. Right now I'd probably switch teams for a plain old Bloody Mary if you want the truth--even without the toaster oven. (It has been a fun old day in my world, let me tell ya!) It wouldn't even have to be a good BM, either. Just some V8 and vodka with a lone ice cube floating in it would probably be enough. I'd even be ok without the celery stalk...


:hi:



Laura

All you have to do is show up, sign on the dotted line, and we'll hand you a super-duper drink of your choice! Then you can join the line for toaster ovens and even plasma screen TVs over there.

If only. Oh well. I'm sorry that you had a bad day - hope today is better! :grouphug:

Ketel One drinkers, line up a'hind me.

For a twist you can take me home to meet your mother!

We used to take Stoli and put it in the freezer with a twist of lemon peel dropped into the bottle. I would consider the idea of vermouth while I poured and they were PERFECT. That was back in the days when Stoli was still good vodka. Today, I'd have to say that Ketel One and maybe Grey Goose are my personal choices.

Man, y'all play dirty when you recruit!


;)


Laura

I've had a few "churchy" Friends I worked with that feel it necessary to let me know that they disapprove of my "lifestyle". Gee thanks. But they were otherwise courteous and professional with me, so I just ignored it.

But the thing that irks me to no end is that they, among other freeper types, viewed my relationship with a woman as purely about having sex all the time. And criminy, that was far from the truth.

We actually SLEPT most of the time (imagine that!). We both had jobs, bills to pay, other friends and activities, did grocery shopping and planned dinners, watched a lot of movies, visited parents and other family. We got sick sometimes, fortunately not at the same time, cared for each other. And yeah, we also kissed good morning and good night every day. After all, we loved and cared about each other.

Lifestyle my butt. I never felt normal my entire life until i did come out and admit my true sexuality.

Thanks for the opportunity to vent.

They're being like the Pharisee in the Seven Woes, ignoring their own sins and shortcomings while finding nothing things that God doesn't even think about in other people. Do they go around telling teens to stop dancing, too? Do they write letters to the editor about how evil earrings and pants are for women? Seriously, they need a wake-up call.

you didn't say anything about praying, or going to church :hide:

Also, what sort of immoral person screws around on the internets when they are supposed to be working?? :P

That's Republican-speak. But even they never say "straight lifestyle" b/c they know it's all a bunch of stupid talk.

I've never used the term gay lifestyle, but I never thought into the term too much...

You failed to mention D&D sessions and your Anime obsession! Ha! I'm a poet and didn't even know it!

No morning bagel.