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Edited on Tue Jan-01-08 09:49 AM by crispini
Since it’s New Year’s day, when many make resolutions, I felt inspired to share this. We all struggle with wanting to be a better person, change our lives, or be happier. Here are some ideas and thoughts in this area that I have collected and developed over the years. Some of this may not ‘fit’ with you-- please, take what you like and leave the rest. Some of this may seem very, very obvious, but it often helps to say the obvious and return back to it when we are struggling.
So without further ado:
STEP ONE: BODY BASICS
To me, you have to have a solid foundation in your life before you can really take off and run with the other things you want to do. In much the same way that rockets are fueled by giant tanks that give them the boost to get out of the atmosphere, your life is fueled by good basic habits that give you the support to do other things. So I begin with, first, the body basics, the things that are necessary for your body to be happy:
1) Take your vitamins every day. (And, of course, whatever regular medication you may be on, if any.)
2) Drink plenty of water. Four to six glasses a day.
3) Eat good, regular meals, and especially eat your fruits and veggies. We’re supposed to get four to six, but if that doesn’t work out, try for at least one at each meal.
4) Get some exercise. You don’t have to go out and become a triathlete, just make sure you’re getting a short walk in every day, or some active movement of some kind.
5) Get enough sleep. Go to bed at a reasonable hour.
Okay, so these things aren’t exactly rocket science, but they need to be said and they need to be done. I actually have a checklist where I make sure I’m doing this kind of seemingly trivial stuff, otherwise I skip three days on my vitamins before I know it!
STEP TWO: LIFE BASICS
These may be a little more controversial to some, but I firmly believe that there are mental and organizational habits that help you feel happier and be more productive, and that having some of these in your life, rather than just “winging it,” will ultimately be better in the long run. They are:
1) Clean and de-clutter your living environment. A house has energy, and too much clutter and mess contributes to the bad energy of a house, which in turn makes YOU feel bad when you live there. You don’t have to do it all at once. Just fifteen minutes a day working on getting rid of “stuff,” done every day, will work miracles. I actually use the Flylady.net system and although I find her irritating sometimes, it has done a lot for my house.
2) Develop some kind of organizational system for your life. This is sort of an extension of #1 above, but adding in your psychic space as well. Some people swear by “Getting Things Done.” There are a lot of blogs on this out there as well. Just a calendar, a list of To Do’s, whatever works for you.
3) Keep your finances on a sound footing. If you’re the kind of person (like me) who can’t stand this stuff, you absolutely have to get into the habit of periodically examining your money and making sure you’re not going to skip a bill or bounce a check. Don’t shove it under a rug: You have to face up to it.
4) Love your neighbors, friends, and family. In this world that’s so busy and fast, sometimes it’s easy to forget about the human connections which are so important. So remember to slow down and call mom, invite your neighbor over for cookies, or join some local club or group. Look for the good in people. Every person has something good in them – connect with that good, and honor it.
5) Love yourself and be grateful for your life. No matter who you are, there is something wonderful in you, and something shining in your life. We tend to concentrate only on what’s wrong in ourselves and in the world. If you want to be happy you must break this habit immediately. If you have to, practice feeling like this. Every day, find five things to be grateful for and write them down. Leave yourself little notes about things that are good about you. Fill yourself up with so much love that it’ll spill over into the world.
Now. You may be saying, GOSH, she’s still on step two and she’s telling me to do all of this stuff that I only WISH I could do, I’m stuck on one of these already in a big way! What’s coming up? :scared:
Or, you may be saying, that’s great, but what I really want is to do X, and you’re setting up all of this garbage that I have to do before I even start thinking about X.
Well, the problem is that you have to read these in order, because that’s how reading works, but you don’t necessarily have to DO them in order. Except Step 1. That really is the most important one. Otherwise, think of it as a patchwork quilt. It doesn’t much matter what order you do the patches in, but you’ll want them all eventually if it’s going to keep you warm. So, let’s continue:
STEP THREE: LET GO OF WHAT YOU DON’T NEED
Here’s a fact: If you have too much stuff in your house, you’re never going to be able to organize it. It’s like putting ten pounds of shit in a five pound bag: it just doesn’t work. As we go through our lives, we accumulate, accumulate, accumulate, but stuff doesn’t make us happy. If we don’t want to drown in an ocean of stuff, we have to learn to box that stuff up and take it to the Goodwill.
Ideas and negative events in our past are the same thing. We’ve got to let it go, and keep letting it go. Throughout your life, look for habits that hold you back, ideas that don’t work for you anymore, things that make you sad, things that make you unproductive. Don’t ruminate on them. Box them up and take them to the psychic Goodwill in the sky! Change happens, and unloading your baggage (physically and psychically!) is the only way to travel lightly. You have to free up some space for the stuff you really want around.
Today I’m going to write down on a piece of paper all the crap I want to leave behind in 2007 and burn it. Do this today – or anytime.
STEP FOUR: VISUALIZE WHAT YOU WANT TO BRING INTO YOUR LIFE, AND WORK ON IT.
Acknowledge that dream, that goal that makes your heart sing, the one that’s been whispering in your ear a long time. Write it down and look at it honestly. Is it something you really want to make real? Chew it over. If it feels like the right thing, then dream on it, put your energy into it, and make a plan for it. If the goal is big, or a long way away, it may seem impossible. Your steps may not seem clear. Or your goal may be abstract, and the shape it will take may not seem sure. Just keep thinking about it, keep dreaming on it, and keep taking the next step. As you walk your path, you may meet obstacles you have to climb over. But you will also meet unexpected helpers. Only you can know the right way to walk your path for you. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Every time in my life that I have accomplished major things, I have had a clear idea about what I wanted to do (graduate from school, go into the Peace Corps, ride a bicycle across Texas, buy a house) and the persistence (see Step 5) to chip away on it every day.
If your path is clear like that, embrace it. Today, for me, I am still thinking about the next step. Sometimes we come to places where we have to cast about a bit and wonder and let things just come together. So, today, I’m going to write down one word that symbolizes what I want to bring into my life for 2008. I’m going to write it on smooth white stone that I can carry in my pocket or put on my desk and concentrate on it, and bring that energy and clarity into my life to illuminate the next step. Do this too, today, or anytime!
STEP FIVE: PERSISTENCE AND DETERMINATION
“Fall down seven times, stand up eight.” -- Japanese proverb
“We can do anything we want as long as we stick to it long enough.” – Helen Keller
“Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no help at all." -- Dale Carnegie
This is perhaps the most difficult thing to learn, or at least it has been for me. To continue when you want to quit. To pick yourself up after a failure and start over again. To face defeat but not let it get the better of you. But you have to apply it over and over again, and do it for every single thing on this list, everything that’s listed in numbers 1-4. Because there will be so many times something gets undone, or something gets messed up, or something gets lost, or something gets forgotten, or a detour gets made. The only way you can recover is just to say, “Oh well, now we know, let’s start again” and pick yourself up and start over again.
I have learned a lot of this in my garden. If you planted something that dies, plant something else. If you forget to cover something, and it froze, next time, cover it. If your spring garden fails, plant a fall garden. If your fall garden fails, order different seeds and start sprouting for the spring.
I always used to get so frustrated with myself. For example, when I would spend six months in a row exercising and getting really into a good habit and feel good about myself, and then I’d let something knock me out of my rhythm and before I knew it, six months had gone by and I hadn’t exercised and I just felt awful about myself. Now I was back at the beginning and I had to start over again! All of that effort wasted. I was starting in the same place. But gradually I began to realize that I had learned a lot from that earlier effort and I wasn’t in the same place. Some cultures think of time as a spiral. So in that new beginning, you’re not starting over, you haven’t been “set back” along a straight line, you’re continuing along in what looks like the same place, but is different, on a different loop of a spiral.
So you can say to yourself with love, “Yes, here I am again, in the garden of the soul, in the garden of the world. It’s time once more to sprout some seedlings and see what will grow.”
Namaste, - C
p.s. I hate to post and run – but I have to go get some black eyed peas on the stove. I’ll be back in a bit. Happy New Year, ya’ll! :bounce:
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