Neighbor's 14 y.o. daughter is missing.

Believed to have "runaway." I've helped with fliers, mall security, and searched the local mall hangouts: music stores, food courts, girls' apparel shops. I have tried to give her mom as much encouragement as I can think of: "She'll probably come home tonight or tomorrow, missing her bed, clean clothes, etc." Or, "She's probably hanging out at a "secret spot" with friends for the day.

Anyone know the stats on this sort of thing? The family had a fight. She lost her cell phone privileges several weeks ago (too bad she doesn't have it so they can track her).

Any ideas to help look? A police report has been filed.

they found her after 5 days, she was hiding out with her boyfriend. She is 14 as well.

She ran away again after she was found, stayed away for a few days then came home.

As suspected, she stayed with a friend. No one was cooperating with her parents to help find her, though. Lot's of family dirty laundry going on. Glad I don't have to be a part of anything else going on with the situation. I'm glad I could be a comfort to her mom, though, and help her dad in posting flyers.

I hope the family can get some counseling.

the village that we want to live in. I hope they pay it forward to someone else in need.

You did good just by doing what you could to help. Not many people give a damn any more. Big time Kudos to you Ilsa.

Hope they find her soon...

No idea about stats, though...

Sounds like all the bases are being covered as to where to look...

Kudos to you for being there for her mom...

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As suspected, she stayed with a friend. No one was cooperating with her parents to help find her, though. Lot's of family dirty laundry going on. Glad I don't have to be a part of anything else going on with the situation. I'm glad I could be a comfort to her mom, though, and help her dad in posting flyers.

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it over to look for her. I'm hoping her mom knows she can count on us to help when they need it. We have to behave as a community if we want a community.

As suspected, she stayed with a friend. No one was cooperating with her parents to help find her, though. Lot's of family dirty laundry going on. Glad I don't have to be a part of anything else going on with the situation. I'm glad I could be a comfort to her mom, though, and help her dad in posting flyers.

at least in CA were not helpful. Seems many teens do it, too many to track.

Very nerve wracking. Does she have a boyfriend? I'd start there, or of course, call all her friends' parents. They might not know she's 'missing'.

my personal detective services (amateur services, I might add) if they think her friends are car-watching.

As suspected, she stayed with a friend. No one was cooperating with her parents to help find her, though. Lot's of family dirty laundry going on. Glad I don't have to be a part of anything else going on with the situation. I'm glad I could be a comfort to her mom, though, and help her dad in posting flyers.

on local TV and perhaps radio news that there are people who care about her out looking for her?

the family will permit tv coverage. I'm thinking the father may have to offer a small reward to get one of her friends to talk.

As suspected, she stayed with a friend. No one was cooperating with her parents to help find her, though. Lot's of family dirty laundry going on. Glad I don't have to be a part of anything else going on with the situation. I'm glad I could be a comfort to her mom, though, and help her dad in posting flyers.

As suspected, she stayed with a friend. No one was cooperating with her parents to help find her, though. Lot's of family dirty laundry going on. Glad I don't have to be a part of anything else going on with the situation. I'm glad I could be a comfort to her mom, though, and help her dad in posting flyers.

If she's just run away, she's probably calling one or two of her closest friends, especially if she has no money. Ask her friends if she has a boyfriend. I assume the police are doing this already, however. Friends might not cooperate, though, if she's told them why she's run away and why she doesn't want to be found. Ask the parents of her friends to put a little pressure on them to come clean.

her out for awhile. If she is with a friend, a parent will have to know that something is up eventually. She can't be a house guest for too long without raising suspicions.

As suspected, she stayed with a friend. No one was cooperating with her parents to help find her, though. Lot's of family dirty laundry going on. Glad I don't have to be a part of anything else going on with the situation. I'm glad I could be a comfort to her mom, though, and help her dad in posting flyers.

the ones who were just angry about an isolated dispute, usually came home on their own after they learned that sleeping in doorways was no fun. (By the way, have you checked with the local youth shelters or the ones in the nearest large city?) There were two obstacles to their doing so:

1. The belief that their parents would never forgive them for running away and would not welcome them back

2. Being quickly snatched up by the pimps who prey on runaways

If the family of origin is abusive or neglectful (not true in this case, it seems), then the kids will absolutely refuse to go home and even threaten suicide if forced.

But alert the local youth shelters, because they try to reunite kids with their parents if it's feasible.

is over 100 miles away. She'd have to hitch to get anywhere. We don't have a youth shelter, but a Salvation Army and Battered Women's Shelter.

HEr parents are careful and loving people. They set limits. Unfortunately, too many parents around here don't. The teachers see it all the time.

My unspoken recommendation to her daddy is to offer one of her friends or her boyfriend a reward for giving him good info on her. Then he can take it out of her allowance for the next several months. I don't know how old the "boyfriend" is. My guess is that he is close to her age, so his parents may be on guard already.

Thank you for your comments. It's hard for a parent to imagine that their kid would think they couldn't be forgiven, but they really tend to be shallow thinkers about some things at that young age.

They keep an eye out for runaways and act as go-betweens between runaways and parents.

As suspected, she stayed with a friend. No one was cooperating with her parents to help find her, though. Lot's of family dirty laundry going on. Glad I don't have to be a part of anything else going on with the situation. I'm glad I could be a comfort to her mom, though, and help her dad in posting flyers.

if you haven't already. Best of luck.

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him and I called the FBI. They wouldn't either.

It turned out he called a few hours later and came home soon afterwards.

a phone is by a simple triangulation of the closest two or three cell-tower locations, homing in on the phones' signal output.

They can get a more exact location (within 30 feet or so) with one of the new Global Positioning System (GPS) chips installed in many of the newer cell-phones that are on the market right now.

I was afraid of Internet abduction. None of his friends know where he was and the note he left said that although he loved us, he was going to a place where there were people he wanted to be with. It turned out to be a girl that moved to Long Island, NY. We live in a county north of NYC. When he called us, he had made his way into NYC and was in Brooklyn. He just intended to go for the weekend and come home. When she wasn't answering his calls, he decided to come home.

maybe some calls to the local news media in your area to let people know how much the police dont care about their children are in order. You can bet if it was a cops kid that was missing they would pull out all the stops to find them.

As suspected, she stayed with a friend. No one was cooperating with her parents to help find her, though. Lot's of family dirty laundry going on. Glad I don't have to be a part of anything else going on with the situation. I'm glad I could be a comfort to her mom, though, and help her dad in posting flyers.

As suspected, she stayed with a friend. No one was cooperating with her parents to help find her, though. Lot's of family dirty laundry going on. Glad I don't have to be a part of anything else going on with the situation. I'm glad I could be a comfort to her mom, though, and help her dad in posting flyers.

Someone might try and contact her, or her family with news.

As suspected, she stayed with a friend. No one was cooperating with her parents to help find her, though. Lot's of family dirty laundry going on. Glad I don't have to be a part of anything else going on with the situation. I'm glad I could be a comfort to her mom, though, and help her dad in posting flyers.

of kids that they don't know.

If she has a computer, you can check that too. She might even have a blog, that might shed some light on where she might be.

That is where I would start too.

Don

As suspected, she stayed with a friend. No one was cooperating with her parents to help find her, though. Lot's of family dirty laundry going on. Glad I don't have to be a part of anything else going on with the situation. I'm glad I could be a comfort to her mom, though, and help her dad in posting flyers.

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she decided to bug out for the weekend. Fourteen is awfully young to hold a grudge that long, though. Maybe she's afraid to call or go home?

As suspected, she stayed with a friend. No one was cooperating with her parents to help find her, though. Lot's of family dirty laundry going on. Glad I don't have to be a part of anything else going on with the situation. I'm glad I could be a comfort to her mom, though, and help her dad in posting flyers.

forts, lakes, parks. Sometimes they go to those types of places, but the parents won't think of them because they've forgotten about them.

Also, has she had any type of unusual experience/contact/visit lately? I'm thinking of something like: she was introduced to a new cousin/went to the circus/saw a concert/etc. If she has lately had a very positive or exciting experience, she may go back to that place or person since it was the last place/person where she felt good.

I say that because when I was a kid, my parents couldn't find me one day (I was just innocently playing at a neighbor's house) and they thought I had run away with the circus. We had just seen the circus and I had been talking about it for days.

I do have to say that the police just about everywhere are really lackadaisical about finding missing kids. I understand the problems, but jeez, some damn frightening things can happen to kids out there alone, esp girls.

day of looking for her. I'll be checking the Salvation Army and any other shelter.

As suspected, she stayed with a friend. No one was cooperating with her parents to help find her, though. Lot's of family dirty laundry going on. Glad I don't have to be a part of anything else going on with the situation. I'm glad I could be a comfort to her mom, though, and help her dad in posting flyers.

if they can think of where she might have gone, or who she is with. have them ask their kids if she was talking to someone online lately that she really didn't know, etc.

my guess would be that most often times there is a friend who knows something.

As suspected, she stayed with a friend. No one was cooperating with her parents to help find her, though. Lot's of family dirty laundry going on. Glad I don't have to be a part of anything else going on with the situation. I'm glad I could be a comfort to her mom, though, and help her dad in posting flyers.

(although i don't know what the "dirty laundry" is you're talking about...but...)

if my daughter had taken off and i had called her friend's parents, and they didn't cooperate--or LIED to me if i asked if they knew where she was or if they had seen her, and in fact my kid was in their living room....well..

i would be at the police station first thing in the morning, telling them i want an officer to go over and talk to those parents who were hiding my child from me. and have that cop explain to them why IT IS AGAINST THE LAW to be doing such a thing.

would those people have lied to an officer if a cop had called them asking if they knew where this girl was?

you don't go take someone's kid and hide them. that's really fucked up.

others who were not. The father of the boyfriend (a really good kid) realized his son could have his life ruined by a sex offender status, so he started trying to help. The police searched one house of her friends for her.

Part of the problem, of course, is that the daughter was also telling some people that her dad was physically abusive. People don't like the idea of sending a kid back into a home if they could get hurt.

And this leads me to the "dirty laundry" comment. The father said something to me briefly about getting too angry and having slapped his daughter. Those things don't set well with me. But I also don't want to get into the middle of their family problems. There is alot these people need to work out. I mentioned family counselling to the mom. The daughter is already in counselling. I was happy to give the mom comfort and help by spreading flyers and looking for her. Her family really appreciated my concern for her well-being.

As suspected, she stayed with a friend. No one was cooperating with her parents to help find her, though. Lot's of family dirty laundry going on. Glad I don't have to be a part of anything else going on with the situation. I'm glad I could be a comfort to her mom, though, and help her dad in posting flyers.

see if the parents can access her email, and check the chat history files if there are any.

Does her school hand out school directories? If her parents have access to one, I recommend calling the home number of every kid in her class. Her friends might not say anything, but they might tell another kid that would be willing to speak up.

As suspected, she stayed with a friend. No one was cooperating with her parents to help find her, though. Lot's of family dirty laundry going on. Glad I don't have to be a part of anything else going on with the situation. I'm glad I could be a comfort to her mom, though, and help her dad in posting flyers.

If so check the train and bus stations. Sometimes Truckers can be very helpful if she is hitch hiking. Check with local truck terminals and ask them to post a pic.

Other service vehicles that are on the roads all day can also be of help.........postal carriers, newspaper delivery, gas or electric companies with crews out...........check to see if you can give them a poster at least for the employee break room. It's worked before.

Hopefully she is close by and just afraid to come home. Good luck to you.

As suspected, she stayed with a friend. No one was cooperating with her parents to help find her, though. Lot's of family dirty laundry going on. Glad I don't have to be a part of anything else going on with the situation. I'm glad I could be a comfort to her mom, though, and help her dad in posting flyers.

for helping out.

I've no suggestions beyond what you've already done, but it might be nice if you'd offer a simple buffet style meal (deli meats/chesse, finger food, sodas, coffee, etc.). It's something I learned from my mom and I've done it for many friends and neighbors in need and it's a fairly easy, but much appreciated, way to help.

Something simple but nourishing--in this time of stress, meal-planning probably takes a backseat to most everything else, but all involved need to stay sharp and a good meal can help tremendously.

Send your neighbor our thoughts and prayers and keep us posted when you can. :hug:

As suspected, she stayed with a friend. No one was cooperating with her parents to help find her, though. Lot's of family dirty laundry going on. Glad I don't have to be a part of anything else going on with the situation. I'm glad I could be a comfort to her mom, though, and help her dad in posting flyers.

I've got an 11 year old boy who is just starting to feel a little grown up and sometimes is so very conflicted about it he gets a little crazy.

to actually do is the best way to hadle it. This girl could have at least called her mom to tell her she was okay and safe.

Just prayers and hugs. If it makes you feel any better, at least three of my son's friends pulled numbers like that. All were back home within a week. Sometimes kids just need a little time to cool off.

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As suspected, she stayed with a friend. No one was cooperating with her parents to help find her, though. Lot's of family dirty laundry going on. Glad I don't have to be a part of anything else going on with the situation. I'm glad I could be a comfort to her mom, though, and help her dad in posting flyers.

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