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kpete Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-03-10 11:40 AM
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OMFG!!!!! - Oh, Please Spank Me
Edited on Sat Apr-03-10 11:44 AM by kpete
"But one thing is clear: There is no greater threat to our children than the sight of some upper thigh, or the few inches of breast above a sequined dress.
Bring on the paddle."


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Deramous was one of about 25 Oxford High students who were disciplined for violating the dress code at her school’s prom Saturday. The students in violation were allowed to stay at the prom, but the following week, each was given the option of receiving corporal punishment or accepting a three-day suspension from school, Oxford principal Trey Holladay said.

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According to the Oxford prom dress code, females must wear evening gowns or cocktail dresses. The dresses cannot be made of transparent material, there cannot be slits more than four inches above the knee and there must be no revealing neck lines or back lines. The dresses can be sleeveless or strapless, provided all body parts from the shoulder to the knee are covered. Girls also can’t wear two-piece dresses with the midriff showing or with removable material covering the cleavage area.

Males must wear tuxedos or suits. They cannot wear tennis shoes or oversized clothing.

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But principal Trey Holloday said it violated school policy stating that dresses cannot have cleavage falling below the breastbone or hems more than 6 inches above the knee.

"And so that expectation in our community is that it's there for protection of kids and not for management of kids," he said.


http://www.doublex.com/blog/xxfactor/getting-spanked-prom
http://www.dailykos.com/story/2010/4/3/853776/-Oh,-Please-Spank-Me
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ncteechur Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-03-10 11:48 AM
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1. IF it was their policy that girls were not to wear the dresses, then they should have
required the to leave when they showed up dressed inappropriately.

The adults that let them stay are to blame because they violated their own rules only to "get" the kids the following week.

They should have said, "I'm sorry but you are not allowed into the prom with those dresses. They violate the rules we informed you of weeks ago. You will need to leave."

But they didn't. They let them in and by doing so they said, "Well, you shouldn't have worn those dresses but you're here not and so you can come in but next week you're gonna get it." (not exact quotes)

Aside from whether the rules were stupid or not stupid, they didn't enforce them.




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PCIntern Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-03-10 11:49 AM
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2. Tapered-fitted cut required...
WTF does "oversized" really mean? I KNOW what he's getting at, but since when did someone require a male to dress in a given size?
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Marr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-03-10 11:57 AM
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5. I suspect the principal just didn't want Mr. Byrne crashing the prom.


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kpete Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-03-10 12:10 PM
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10. stop making sense
peace, kp
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frazzled Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-03-10 11:51 AM
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3. Hmmmm
I think the dress code is semi-okay, and schools have the right to adopt one: six inches above the knee is pretty short, and strapless is an option. HOWEVER, these things should be changed about it: larger-breasted girls are going to show some cleavage in anything but a turtleneck. This code is discriminatory against them. The girl's dress did not look abnormally low. A girl with a smaller bust would have been fine in it. Also, telling boys they cannot wear tennis shoes with their tuxedos is just plain stupid. Nix that.

All this said--the punishment should be ILLEGAL. Corporal punishment is a no-starter in my book. No WAY.
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Lyric Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-03-10 11:56 AM
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4. I'm sorry, but in my opinion, "corporal punishment" of a child older than 12 ought to be prosecuted
as a sexual assault. It's sickening. Even my PARENTS did not "spank" us after a certain age. There are lines of propriety being crossed here that go FAR beyond the average "spanking debate". This isn't about whether or not spanking is appropriate for children--even people who think that spanking children is okay should be able to see that an adult spanking a teenager is SICK, and is even SICKER when the spanking is being performed by someone who's not a parent. It boggles my mind that people who are ordinarily SO fucking prudish about "sexual morality" would EVER think that this was okay. :puke:

And no, giving the child the "option" of serving a suspension instead does not make it okay. The fact remains that these people WOULD spank a teenager. They are not opposed to the idea in theory. That alone is enough proof for ME that they're sickos.
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AnArmyVeteran Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-03-10 12:03 PM
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6. James Dobson advocates beating the hell out of kids...
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patrice Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-03-10 12:22 PM
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13. because that is what his incompetent cop-out parent followers want to receive permission to do
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d_r Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-03-10 12:08 PM
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9. well in my opinion it isn't appropriate at any age
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notadmblnd Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-03-10 12:24 PM
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14. In my opinion, it's not appropriate at any age
From a mother who has never struck her child and done a great job (if I do say so myself) of raising a responsible, well behaved young man.
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Lyric Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-03-10 02:48 PM
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23. Oh, I agree. My point is that even the people who claim that spanking children is okay
should surely see that this is something FAR beyond "spanking", and oppose it.

I don't spank my child, for the record. There are better ways to discipline.
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Maraya1969 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-03-10 12:17 PM
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12. Sexual assault - spanking a child's bottom. If it were done in a caressing
way the person would be charged with sexual assault or at least inappropriate behavior but if you speed up the movement and force of your hand it is now just punishment and the whole sexual aspect is taken away.

It is twisted either way you look at it.
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bamacrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-03-10 12:37 PM
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19. They don't use their hands.
They use a paddle, I've been paddled with wood, taped wood and Plexiglas. Nothing sexual about it. In my school men were not allowed to paddle female students. I've been paddled by both men and women, nothing sexual or wrong about it. 90% of the time I was acting up (talking too much and disrupting class) and had been warned and reprimanded multiple times, so then I was paddled.

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undeterred Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-03-10 12:05 PM
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7. I hope they don't let their children watch the Oscars.
Very dangerous.
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rrneck Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-03-10 12:07 PM
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8. There's only one thing more idiotic than hitting a child.
That's hitting one that's big enough to hit you back.
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patrice Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-03-10 12:12 PM
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11. Have you ever managed large groups of the young? I'd like to be able to say that on an average
Edited on Sat Apr-03-10 12:17 PM by patrice
they can be exposed to, or expose, whatever flesh is available and not either drift or jump right into dysfunction, but I can't. The fact is that they are very mixed up from receiving contradictory messages about sex and authority from their families and their culture ever since they were small. Though some really can manage themselves functionally, no matter what, others can't and those who are responsible for ALL of them shouldn't pretend otherwise because it results in either overt or covert harm.

In theory, the best environment in which to work out that confusion would be a free environment, but, under current conditions, the risks are too great, so schools have to make up for the poor job that parents (and churches) are doing.

It's too bad that this particular school managed it so poorly and paddling, aside from being disgustingly disrespectful, will only have an effect the opposite of what they think it will.

A word to the school: What goes around comes around.
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Hello_Kitty Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-03-10 12:27 PM
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15. Gosh, better put everyone in burkas then just to be safe! eom
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patrice Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-03-10 12:30 PM
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16. Reductio ad absurdam is not a real case. That would be as stupid as no code at all.
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patrice Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-03-10 12:35 PM
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18. P.S. But then, perhaps you know that and your intent is to NOT discuss reality.
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Hello_Kitty Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-03-10 12:47 PM
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21. Uh, burkas ARE reality.
I didn't invent their existence.
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Hello_Kitty Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-03-10 12:46 PM
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20. The "reductio ad absurdam" to which you refer IS the reality in many parts of the world.
And frankly, there are an awful lot of people in this country who would like to impose their version of it here. Always the same rhetoric of lustful males not being able to control themselves in the presence of female flesh is the justification for it.
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janet118 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-03-10 12:32 PM
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17. Prom burkas!! n/t
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mrbarber Donating Member (884 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-03-10 01:31 PM
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22. "Receiving corporal punishment"?
Sweet mother of christ, if one of those girls were a relative of mine and that creepy fucking principal even suggested something like that, he'd better grow eyes on the back of his head.
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