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you can see the bullies feed off t he negative energy. Sometimes I've actually wanted to nudge the "good guy" in the exchange to stop feeding the creep what it craves.
I usually only get into that crap in response to sexism--that's my trigger. Luckily I'm pretty sensitive to when it's time to give up and let them spin. But seeing them get away with it here---and in real life---THAT really sends me over the edge. Guess I just will never really be ok with that ol' bromide, "life is unfair".
yes, ignore is becoming my friend.....
Luckily I've never been stalked (here); in adulthood, I've managed unpleasant people pretty well...
but the experience here, of the "usual suspects" doing their thing and getting away with it pisses me off. Even when you alert, and it seems they've clearly stepped over the line, there seem to never be consequences for sexists--and they are so blatantly hateful. Seems like misogynistic comments and hectoring get a pretty free pass, and that angers me. Sexists can bully women and joke about sexualized humiliation against women they don't like, whereas racists and homophobes would be under a pizza pretty quick.
Such a reflection here of larger society. I have an ongoing real life situation that I am not permitted to involve myself in, for professional reasons. Very frustrating all around (grrrrr. Ugh, just thinking about the whole thing is getting my pressure up!), but I'm getting to observe some very disconcerting attitudes among young men...and typical reticence of young women, avoiding confrontation.
...so, the pattern here, aside from getting me full of hostility and other negative emotions, got me thinking about real life society, human nature, maintaining an ordered society and the recent discussions of bullying in the news and here.
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