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bamademo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-21-10 09:33 PM Original message |
For the first time in my life I have to be responsible |
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LiberalAndProud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-21-10 09:35 PM Response to Original message |
1. My mother went through this, although for less than 3 years. |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-21-10 09:41 PM Response to Original message |
2. My condelences and it is just hard. |
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bamademo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-21-10 09:50 PM Response to Reply #2 |
3. Unless the new Medicaid system changes, they can go back 3 years... |
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Name removed (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-21-10 09:56 PM Response to Reply #3 |
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Name removed (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-21-10 10:10 PM Response to Reply #4 |
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virgogal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-21-10 10:44 PM Response to Reply #3 |
19. I guess it IS time for some responsibility if you've been 30 years |
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elehhhhna (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Apr-23-10 02:45 PM Response to Reply #19 |
67. + 1,000,000 |
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EC (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-21-10 11:18 PM Response to Reply #3 |
23. Bushies changed that |
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WorseBeforeBetter (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 01:31 AM Response to Reply #3 |
26. Wow, the compassion. |
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superduperfarleft (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 11:35 AM Response to Reply #3 |
38. "I'm selfish but I've lived a relativety carefree lifestyle since the 70's" |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 07:46 PM Response to Reply #3 |
43. Not to sound ugly, but you sound beyond selfish. |
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GTurck (569 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Apr-23-10 08:32 AM Response to Reply #3 |
62. In other words... |
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pipi_k (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-21-10 09:56 PM Response to Original message |
5. Yep, in fact yesterday was the fifth anniversary |
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EFerrari (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-21-10 10:00 PM Response to Reply #5 |
6. After 12 years of caretaking, my immune system tanked |
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safeinOhio (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-21-10 10:16 PM Response to Original message |
8. I went through the same thing 8 years ago |
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TwilightGardener (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-21-10 10:19 PM Response to Original message |
9. Do what's best for your mom. This may mean |
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my2sense (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-21-10 10:21 PM Response to Reply #9 |
11. Very well said n/t |
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emilyg (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-21-10 10:32 PM Response to Reply #9 |
14. That's what I did with Dad. |
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TwilightGardener (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-21-10 10:43 PM Response to Reply #14 |
18. It's what my parents ultimately did with one of my grandparents-- |
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emilyg (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-21-10 10:56 PM Response to Reply #18 |
20. I tried keeping Dad at |
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nadinbrzezinski (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-21-10 10:20 PM Response to Original message |
10. Fnd time for yourself, and somebody to help you |
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TheOther95Percent (202 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-21-10 10:22 PM Response to Original message |
12. I'm going through it now. |
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Wickerman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-21-10 10:25 PM Response to Original message |
13. Sounds like you have some decisions to make |
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BuelahWitch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-21-10 10:37 PM Response to Original message |
15. I can confirm what everyone else said about caregiving |
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virgogal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-21-10 10:40 PM Response to Original message |
16. They look back 5 years in MA for Medicaid. |
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AnArmyVeteran (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-21-10 10:41 PM Response to Original message |
17. Think about your mother and not ANYTHING ELSE. |
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arthritisR_US (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 11:31 AM Response to Reply #17 |
36. Wow, powerful. I have just fallen in love with your essence. Again, wow. n/t |
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JuniperLea (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 07:48 PM Response to Reply #17 |
45. Are you my cousin? |
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KT2000 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-21-10 11:05 PM Response to Original message |
21. The price you pay |
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demodonkey (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-21-10 11:08 PM Response to Original message |
22. It's not the money, it's the quality of care... and nursing homes can be REALLY BAD. |
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ZenKitty (169 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 12:00 AM Response to Original message |
24. Are you serious? |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 07:10 AM Response to Reply #24 |
31. i am thinking too. god forbid that a little reciprocal care taking is happening here. |
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JuniperLea (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 07:44 PM Response to Reply #31 |
41. Sorry about your mom... |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 08:11 PM Response to Reply #41 |
50. taking care of..... what is the best for her. |
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Tansy_Gold (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 11:03 AM Response to Reply #24 |
34. Thank you |
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Berserker (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 12:24 AM Response to Original message |
25. What is more |
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Book Lover (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 01:51 AM Response to Original message |
27. Um, it's not your inheritance; it's your mother's property. |
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AnArmyVeteran (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 02:23 AM Response to Reply #27 |
28. I agree, what I posted was too tactful... I believe yours is the most honest. thank you... |
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Book Lover (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 02:39 AM Response to Reply #28 |
29. Thanks |
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arthritisR_US (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 11:33 AM Response to Reply #28 |
37. you were both right on point, imho :-) n/t |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 07:12 AM Response to Reply #27 |
32. more to the point, with the admitted selfishness, i am concerned mom being in this mans care. nt |
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AnArmyVeteran (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 07:33 PM Response to Reply #32 |
40. Yeah, to be thinking of cashing in at a time when he should be thinking of is mom is selfish... |
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superduperfarleft (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 11:36 AM Response to Reply #27 |
39. Seriously, the OP sounds all of six years old. n/t |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 07:49 PM Response to Reply #27 |
47. +100 |
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kiva (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 07:54 PM Response to Reply #27 |
48. This is actually an improvement on the first thread the OP |
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Book Lover (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 08:38 PM Response to Reply #48 |
53. How sad that you are correct |
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Obamanaut (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 06:02 AM Response to Original message |
30. I have a neighbor who bought the 4 acre lot across from us, and |
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NotThisTime (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 07:59 AM Response to Original message |
33. I took care of my FIL for 12 years in my house.. Bama ain't coming after you for medicaid |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 11:24 AM Response to Original message |
35. Do what's best for your mom |
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KittyWampus (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 07:46 PM Response to Original message |
42. I am at a loss for words. Maybe you just didn't phrase your OP the way you wanted to. |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 07:48 PM Response to Reply #42 |
46. That is exactly how it comes off to me as well. |
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Liberal_in_LA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 07:48 PM Response to Original message |
44. yeah, make sure you have alarms on doors so she doesn't wander away without you knowing |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 08:08 PM Response to Original message |
49. The more I think of this post, the more pissed off it makes me. |
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The Velveteen Ocelot (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 08:17 PM Response to Original message |
51. It's your mom's money, not yours. |
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Habibi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-22-10 08:26 PM Response to Original message |
52. Although I can understand |
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Yellow Horse (462 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Apr-23-10 02:35 AM Response to Original message |
54. You who think it's OK to hand mom's $ to a nursing home are NUTS. Single payer would end this! |
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Habibi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Apr-23-10 04:06 AM Response to Reply #54 |
55. I don't disagree with you |
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The Velveteen Ocelot (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Apr-23-10 07:24 AM Response to Reply #54 |
56. It SHOULD work that way. But right now, it doesn't. |
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Gormy Cuss (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Apr-23-10 06:47 PM Response to Reply #54 |
70. We don't have single payer, we're not even close to single payer, and the current reality is that |
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Name removed (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Apr-23-10 07:47 AM Response to Original message |
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greenbird (432 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Apr-23-10 07:54 AM Response to Original message |
58. Excuse me? |
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walldude (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Apr-23-10 02:56 PM Response to Reply #58 |
68. Alabama... I thought the same thing when I saw that.. |
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proudohioan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Apr-23-10 08:01 AM Response to Original message |
59. You're so freaked out? |
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IdaBriggs (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Apr-23-10 08:14 AM Response to Original message |
60. In the Islamic culture, this type of complaint is considered in the poorest of possible taste. |
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cap (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Apr-23-10 08:14 AM Response to Original message |
61. go to an attorney and get a trust set up |
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Dappleganger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Apr-23-10 08:33 AM Response to Original message |
63. Oh grow up. |
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lunatica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Apr-23-10 08:33 AM Response to Original message |
64. I have some advice (my mother just died after years of taking care of her) |
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Gormy Cuss (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Apr-23-10 01:51 PM Response to Original message |
65. Which is the higher priority, her care or you getting her assets? |
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LWolf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Apr-23-10 02:37 PM Response to Original message |
66. I have not been through that for an inheritance, |
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walldude (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Apr-23-10 03:01 PM Response to Original message |
69. How old are you? |
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