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Duer 157099 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 11:47 AM Original message |
When your child doesn't want to attend college |
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spinbaby (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 11:50 AM Response to Original message |
1. Our youngest son was the same way |
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Dappleganger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 12:00 PM Response to Reply #1 |
10. Agree, welding is good work if you can get it. nt |
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KittyWampus (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 12:26 PM Response to Reply #10 |
20. welding is great work especially if you're certified for all classes. |
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Duer 157099 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 12:28 PM Response to Reply #20 |
21. I've actually already mentioned welding to him |
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RadiationTherapy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 12:59 PM Response to Reply #10 |
31. My brother's malignant naso-pharyngeal cancer was attributed to it. |
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NeedleCast (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 11:55 AM Response to Original message |
2. Have you talked with him about why? |
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SocialistLez (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 11:56 AM Response to Reply #2 |
5. +1. Very good advice. NT |
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Digit (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 11:48 PM Response to Reply #2 |
89. Great advice |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-29-10 01:54 PM Response to Reply #2 |
99. I would say: you want to be a musician? Great! I'll support you while you go to school |
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SocialistLez (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 11:55 AM Response to Original message |
3. I say encourage him to go to community college |
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FormerDittoHead (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 02:57 PM Response to Reply #3 |
57. I HATED high school, but community college turned me ON. |
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SocialistLez (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 05:37 PM Response to Reply #57 |
73. Eh...some college courses were about things I didn't care about |
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meegbear (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 11:56 AM Response to Original message |
4. But now you can use his college fund for a vacation of a lifetime! |
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Dappleganger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 11:58 AM Response to Reply #4 |
8. That would certainly get my vote! |
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Duer 157099 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 12:10 PM Response to Reply #4 |
14. Hahahahahahahahahahaha! |
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meegbear (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 12:25 PM Response to Reply #14 |
19. OK, college change jar |
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awoke_in_2003 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 01:54 PM Response to Reply #4 |
44. "A nice trip around the world'll do yah good." |
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Dappleganger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 11:57 AM Response to Original message |
6. A LOT can change in two years. |
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old mark (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 11:58 AM Response to Original message |
7. I hated every minute of high school, wanted to quit without graduating. I had NO plans |
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awoke_in_2003 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 01:56 PM Response to Reply #7 |
46. sounds like me... |
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FLPanhandle (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 12:00 PM Response to Original message |
9. 16 is still too young to make that kind of decision. |
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HiFructosePronSyrup (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 12:02 PM Response to Original message |
11. Take the day off and go on a campus tour with him. |
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Duer 157099 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 12:07 PM Response to Reply #11 |
13. Actually his high school is adjacent to a university |
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jp11 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 12:06 PM Response to Original message |
12. Great advice given by others already. |
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SPedigrees (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 12:12 PM Response to Original message |
15. I fought a war with parents & guidance counselors to avoid college |
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JBoy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 12:16 PM Response to Original message |
16. My parents told me if I didn't go to university, at 18 I'd either be out the door |
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HereSince1628 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 12:24 PM Original message |
I think you're largely correct. I fought in a war... |
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NNN0LHI (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 12:17 PM Response to Original message |
17. Your son sounds exactly like myself 30 some years ago when I was about to graduate High School |
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XemaSab (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 11:59 PM Response to Reply #17 |
91. Interesting story |
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NNN0LHI (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-29-10 05:34 AM Response to Reply #91 |
96. And that was not an oddity back then. It was the norm |
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NM_hemilover (381 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 12:24 PM Response to Original message |
18. Tell him college students have better weed than high school. |
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Duer 157099 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 12:29 PM Response to Reply #18 |
22. He'd never believe me |
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NM_hemilover (381 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 12:36 PM Response to Reply #22 |
25. ;) |
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awoke_in_2003 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 01:57 PM Response to Reply #25 |
47. but we all know... |
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U4ikLefty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 10:15 PM Response to Reply #47 |
86. Yeah, because they pull over the college students. |
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XemaSab (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-29-10 12:04 AM Response to Reply #18 |
92. Even better: |
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Matariki (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 12:31 PM Response to Original message |
23. Does he have any interests? |
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Duer 157099 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 12:36 PM Response to Reply #23 |
26. I have never seen any passion in him, for anything |
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Matariki (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 01:00 PM Response to Reply #26 |
32. I believe, and I could be wrong, that *everyone* has some core things they could be passionate about |
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Duer 157099 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 01:09 PM Response to Reply #32 |
34. Legos and video games |
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SocialistLez (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 05:40 PM Response to Reply #34 |
74. He could always design video games. |
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proudohioan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 01:34 PM Response to Reply #26 |
40. My heart goes out to you... |
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Duer 157099 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 01:44 PM Response to Reply #40 |
41. Yep, we sure are simpatico |
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proudohioan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 02:14 PM Response to Reply #41 |
51. Oh gosh I hope not! |
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XemaSab (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-29-10 12:16 AM Response to Reply #51 |
93. When you're in high school |
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snooper2 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 03:42 PM Response to Reply #26 |
69. So he's going to be sleeping on your couch till he's 35? |
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activa8tr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-29-10 03:36 PM Response to Reply #26 |
103. Pardon me for butting in with my two cents, but your son sounds like he is |
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yella_dawg (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 12:35 PM Response to Original message |
24. I loathed public school with a religious passion. |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 12:43 PM Response to Original message |
27. My philosophy. Worth exactly what you paid. |
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XemaSab (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-29-10 12:20 AM Response to Reply #27 |
94. My ne'er do well cousin joined the coast guard |
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Gormy Cuss (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 12:43 PM Response to Original message |
28. Attending college is his choice. Period. |
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ismnotwasm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 12:54 PM Response to Original message |
29. I never liked any school until college |
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proudohioan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 03:17 PM Response to Reply #29 |
61. Thank you for sharing your story... |
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T Wolf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 12:55 PM Response to Original message |
30. It is a fallacy that EVERYONE in the US has to go directly from HS to university. For |
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Regret My New Name (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 01:08 PM Response to Original message |
33. My humble opinion: Don't force it on him because it might hurt him in the future when he does decide |
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Duer 157099 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 01:12 PM Response to Reply #33 |
36. I couldn't force him even if I wanted to. He is stubborn. |
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enlightenment (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 01:11 PM Response to Original message |
35. I 'encouraged' my son to go to college, when I knew he |
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Greyhound (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 01:13 PM Response to Original message |
37. As long as you can keep him out of the military, I wouldn't worry too much. |
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Duer 157099 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 01:17 PM Response to Reply #37 |
38. Well but now you've hit on the thing that I really do worry about |
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Greyhound (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 01:55 PM Response to Reply #38 |
45. Well, living in Cali you have some good resources. |
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csziggy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 01:59 PM Response to Reply #38 |
48. Why not check into various vocational/appreticeship opportunities |
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Codeine (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 02:50 PM Response to Reply #37 |
55. OTOH, though it may not be the DU-popular position, |
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Duer 157099 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 03:21 PM Response to Reply #55 |
62. If it weren't for the idiotic senseless wars we're engaged in |
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Greyhound (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-29-10 03:11 PM Response to Reply #55 |
101. Vet? |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 01:20 PM Response to Original message |
39. then get him into a job now so he learns how to work, be responsible with money while he is still |
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Duer 157099 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 01:52 PM Response to Reply #39 |
43. I told him that I want him to find a job this summer |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 02:57 PM Response to Reply #43 |
58. lol. i hear ya. nt |
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awoke_in_2003 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 01:52 PM Response to Original message |
42. as others have said... |
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Tracer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 01:59 PM Response to Original message |
49. I pushed my son into going to college. |
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WCIL (265 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 02:01 PM Response to Original message |
50. You should probably listen to him |
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woodsprite (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 02:37 PM Response to Original message |
52. I feel for you. My brother was that way. |
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JerseygirlCT (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 02:41 PM Response to Original message |
53. Some kids need a little longer to be ready for college - or |
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murdoch (658 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 08:43 PM Response to Reply #53 |
82. Yes. They need to be self-motivated. |
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slackmaster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 02:41 PM Response to Original message |
54. My stepson started, faltered, then started again at 24 |
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KonaKane (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 02:54 PM Response to Original message |
56. College doesn't carry the "mantel" that it used to. |
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kestrel91316 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 03:07 PM Response to Original message |
59. Ask him how he intends to SUPPORT HIMSELF when he |
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Duer 157099 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 03:29 PM Response to Reply #59 |
65. I think part of the problem is that most of his friends |
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KamaAina (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 03:11 PM Response to Original message |
60. Perhaps you could suggest an alternative-type college? |
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UndertheOcean (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 03:26 PM Response to Original message |
63. Being a total social retard , without college I would have been eaten alive by the school of hard |
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RedCappedBandit (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 03:29 PM Response to Original message |
64. 16 year olds don't know what they want. |
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glowing (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 03:38 PM Response to Original message |
66. Try the Peace Corp or Ameri Corp.. Let him figure himself out while doing a lot of good. |
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sudopod (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 03:39 PM Response to Original message |
67. All of you people talking trash about your kids might want to think twice about leaving |
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Duer 157099 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 03:46 PM Response to Reply #67 |
70. I love my kid and he knows it |
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diane in sf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 03:39 PM Response to Original message |
68. Let him work a low paying job or two and ask him again in a couple years. Also |
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Duer 157099 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 03:51 PM Response to Reply #68 |
71. A few weeks ago I was on the phone with customer service |
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Sen. Walter Sobchak (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 03:56 PM Response to Original message |
72. sit him down with my brother |
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frustrated_lefty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 06:29 PM Response to Original message |
75. For whatever good it does, don't be conflicted. |
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SoCalDem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 06:57 PM Response to Original message |
76. Take heart. |
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LWolf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 07:04 PM Response to Original message |
77. Both of my sons chose not to continue their formal education |
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Bluzmann57 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 07:09 PM Response to Original message |
78. My oldest never went to college |
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pipi_k (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 07:19 PM Response to Original message |
79. Then again... |
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Synicus Maximus (828 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 08:07 PM Response to Original message |
80. I hope he is good at flipping burgers |
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happy_liberal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 08:35 PM Response to Original message |
81. college is the new high school |
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NNN0LHI (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 09:00 PM Response to Reply #81 |
84. When I graduated high school only students going on to college were going to become professionals |
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aikoaiko (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 08:58 PM Response to Original message |
83. The cure for my initial aversion to rigorous school work was.... |
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Duer 157099 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 10:09 PM Response to Reply #83 |
85. At this point he doesn't seem to mind it |
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XemaSab (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-29-10 12:45 AM Response to Reply #85 |
95. Last year I had a tree taken out in the back yard |
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aikoaiko (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-29-10 07:12 AM Response to Reply #85 |
98. Keep at it and have him work for a boss on the weekends or during the summer. |
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activa8tr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-29-10 03:58 PM Response to Reply #85 |
104. Well, that changes my diagnosis a bit, he actually DOES have a passion |
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freethought (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 11:33 PM Response to Original message |
87. Dear 150799 |
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MrMickeysMom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 11:40 PM Response to Original message |
88. Well, you could do this... |
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XemaSab (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri May-28-10 11:51 PM Response to Original message |
90. I went to college right after high school |
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DailyGrind51 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-29-10 07:06 AM Response to Original message |
97. My cousin's son never went to college, but now earns 3 times what I do |
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Ned Bro (88 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-29-10 03:00 PM Response to Original message |
100. He should get into something where he works with his hands |
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Cleita (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-29-10 03:15 PM Response to Original message |
102. Pushing him will not make him succeed. |
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