i am curious what a larger number of people think about posting peoples pms for all to read... [View all]

there is a discussion saying to watch what you type in pms because it is ok now to put on the board. i don't care that it is ok, or not ok, per du rules. that is not the issue for me putting someones pms out. i feel that i have a pretty normal view that it is wrong to share what someone is saying when they think the conversation is between two people. i have a lot of pms, from a lot of people, and i would never consider giving them to the board to read. it is not because there is nasty in the pms. that i am "protecting" anyone or keeping their secret. it is just when typing off board, a person speaks in a manner they would not for public view. i wouldn't do it because if there is a conversation about another duer, it is focusing a light on them and they don't deserve that.

i would no more share someones pm than i would a conversation i am having with one person.

most all of my conversations in pms are exploring thought that would not be board conversation. that is why we are pm'ing and not talking in a thread. i had never had abusive pms in all the years until just recently and i have had a couple posters use pm to have their rant. even those, i feel, are between us and are afforded privacy. i felt it was just an opportunity to be able to explore the issue in a more acceptably blunt and to the point manner. even those, i would allow privacy and not put on the board. if i felt anything stepped over the line, i could alert the pm and it would go to administration.

this is something i feel strongly about. when i see someone put out pms, i cringe.

if i am ever serving on a jury about pms put out, it is something i would vote to hide.

i do not think i am in the minority with this view.

so, help me out duers. how do you feel about exposing pms. has the age of internet, the anonymous poster, changed the rules i grew up with?